This is how i confronted a girl who plays Mind Games... But i sense she lied

January 6, 2014

Hello folks,

This is my third post about a girl that i thought liked me. And my friends also shared the same opinion since she was being so comfortable around me. After 4 months of trying, i got tired and i finally told her what i felt was going inside of me. But i didn't lay all of my heart so that she could just step on it. I played it a bit clever and playfully confessed to her. This is what i said to her while walking with her, holding hands:

Me: Why are you like this ?

Her: Like what ? (Makes that face, as if she didn't know what was going on)

Me: You know exactly what i mean ? (Smiling at her and pointed to her that we were holding hands)

Me: How long am i going to pretend that nothing is going on. Whatever you are doing, to me seems pretty childish (Smiling). You are not only wasting my time, your own as well. I just want you to be honest, FRIENDS don't act the way you do around me. FRIENDS don't hold hands, follow one another around, give almost all of their attention to a person. You say sometimes i am acting mean and rude towards you, this is exactly way because i am not sure of your intentions, i am not sure what is going on in your head. Even on my birthday, you were looking out for me, i tried to do my best to avoid you, so i went to get a drink and it doesn't take you more than a minute and you go out looking for me. Then i got into an arguement and was kicked out from a bar, you left, ignoring all the others even your best friend and came with me to another bar alone. You let me touch you, hold your hand, grab you, play with your hair and when i try to talk to another girl, your all like, why don't you talk to her, she is pretty. I'd like to take you out, because i really like hanging out with you and i want you to get to know me.

Me: You say you know almost everything about me. I don't think so.

Me: Did you know my parents were Headbangers !

Her: Smiling and laughing a bit.

Me: I just don't know what your intentions are and honestly speaking i'd like to take you out because i feel there is something to this. I just don't want you to be sitting somewhere years later and thinking about this day and saying to yourself, God Damit, He asked me out and i should have said YES ! But then its going to be too late. (Smiling at her). I just want you to be honest for once and i know you went through a lot with your EX but i hope you won't judge me the same way.

Her: I don't know what to say.

Me: Well its just not me the only one talking about this. My friends from college, they are always talking about what your doing to me and i just avoid that question, and even my own friends whom you've met, told me the first day that you seemed kind attached around me.

Her: I really like you as a friend and i don't know what to say. (Looking me in the eyes)

Me: I would love to be your friend, thats why i told you i was avoiding you but i really enjoy talking to you and believe me this doesn't affect me. I was just unsure about your intentions and its good to know now.

Me: On that notion, let me buy you a drink ! (And i started laughing)

That was it.

Of all the things she did to me, it just took her 5 seconds to explain it all. I am glad i did this, what do you think ? My other question is, i felt that as if she was scared to tell me honestly what was going on ? Could this be a sign of that she is unsure. Her best friend, is always telling me stuff. Emma is doing this and that, Emma left for vacations and i am just thinking, Why would she do this. !!! What can i do ? Of course i am planning to move on but were her answers really true ?

Hope someone helps me out !

January 6, 2014

If you are holding hands and telling her you are interested and her only response is " I don't know what to say " the correct response would be " you've already said it " and just go back to friends. She seems to have this one foot in one foot out mentality and that's not pleasant to be a part of.

January 7, 2014

Hello folks,
This is my third post about a girl that i thought liked me. And my friends also shared the same opinion since she was being so comfortable around me. After 4 months of trying, i got tired and i finally told her what i felt was going inside of me. But i didn't lay all of my heart so that she could just step on it. I played it a bit clever and playfully confessed to her. This is what i said to her while walking with her, holding hands:

Me: Why are you like this ?
Her: Like what ? (Makes that face, as if she didn't know what was going on)
Me: You know exactly what i mean ? (Smiling at her and pointed to her that we were holding hands)
Me: How long am i going to pretend that nothing is going on. Whatever you are doing, to me seems pretty childish (Smiling). You are not only wasting my time, your own as well. I just want you to be honest, FRIENDS don't act the way you do around me. FRIENDS don't hold hands, follow one another around, give almost all of their attention to a person. You say sometimes i am acting mean and rude towards you, this is exactly way because i am not sure of your intentions, i am not sure what is going on in your head. Even on my birthday, you were looking out for me, i tried to do my best to avoid you, so i went to get a drink and it doesn't take you more than a minute and you go out looking for me. Then i got into an arguement and was kicked out from a bar, you left, ignoring all the others even your best friend and came with me to another bar alone. You let me touch you, hold your hand, grab you, play with your hair and when i try to talk to another girl, your all like, why don't you talk to her, she is pretty. I'd like to take you out, because i really like hanging out with you and i want you to get to know me.
Me: You say you know almost everything about me. I don't think so.
Me: Did you know my parents were Headbangers !
Her: Smiling and laughing a bit.
Me: I just don't know what your intentions are and honestly speaking i'd like to take you out because i feel there is something to this. I just don't want you to be sitting somewhere years later and thinking about this day and saying to yourself, God Damit, He asked me out and i should have said YES ! But then its going to be too late. (Smiling at her). I just want you to be honest for once and i know you went through a lot with your EX but i hope you won't judge me the same way.
Her: I don't know what to say.
Me: Well its just not me the only one talking about this. My friends from college, they are always talking about what your doing to me and i just avoid that question, and even my own friends whom you've met, told me the first day that you seemed kind attached around me.
Her: I really like you as a friend and i don't know what to say. (Looking me in the eyes)
Me: I would love to be your friend, thats why i told you i was avoiding you but i really enjoy talking to you and believe me this doesn't affect me. I was just unsure about your intentions and its good to know now.
Me: On that notion, let me buy you a drink ! (And i started laughing)

That was it.
Of all the things she did to me, it just took her 5 seconds to explain it all. I am glad i did this, what do you think ? My other question is, i felt that as if she was scared to tell me honestly what was going on ? Could this be a sign of that she is unsure. Her best friend, is always telling me stuff. Emma is doing this and that, Emma left for vacations and i am just thinking, Why would she do this. !!! What can i do ? Of course i am planning to move on but were her answers really true ?

Hope someone helps me out !

4 months dude and a lot of talk which showed you are weak.

With a woman like her, it's easy to weed her out. I do a 2 strike kiss.

A woman only KISS a guy who she truly likes when you hug her goodbye. You can do this by the 3rd date. If she avoids your lips the first time, then wait say another month or longer or so and then go for it again. If she avoids your lips again, then you got your answer. Simple with little to no explanations and interrogation whatsoever on your or her part. I find the 2 strike kiss rule that I use very effective. The women I first kissed usually will last in a LTR. The 2nd kiss usually meant that she needed a guy to f**k after she broke off with her BF I suppose (rebound guy?!?) and I'm good enough for her for now until she finds a replacement. Always eye for the first kiss. Actions ALWAYS SPEAK louder than words.

But you know what. Most men are too scared to kiss a girl and they know it. So they play games with you, holding hands and what not just to manipulate you. Once they realize you can't be manipulated and controlled because you went for the lips, they will back off and disappear.

Edited January 7, 2014 by happydate

January 7, 2014

Thanks for the reply, though what is done, is Done ! I can't go back in time and change something. I agree with Keenly though, she seems to be unsure of herself. When i spoke with her or told her how i felt, i could see that vibe, it wasn't that vibe where a girl clearly is not interested in you and tells you straight forward, i don't like you that way. She listened, and i felt something, i thought she was going to say something good, honestly speaking but this never happened. What is your opinion on this ? Should i try to see how she would react in the coming days plus moving on at the same time... ?

January 7, 2014

The question you need to be asking yourself is can you remain friends with her without getting attached and feelings for here?

January 7, 2014

To answer that i would say no.

The question what i am asking myself since yesterday is, How could she do that ? Even after all i am a friend and we have the same group of friends.

I would totally avoid her and i know what to do. I won't see her less and contact her less even if she contacts me, i would just take my time. But still after all this time, i just can't believe that a women is capable of doing such acts...

January 7, 2014

You did a lot of talking and no action. You should've tried to kiss her a long time ago.

You let me touch you, hold your hand, grab you, play with your hair

If she allowed you to do all of this, why did you not follow through and attempt to kiss her?

Her: I really like you as a friend and i don't know what to say. (Looking me in the eyes)

If she was looking you in the eyes, why did you not grab your balls, squeeze them real tight to make sure you have them, and kissed her?

January 7, 2014

You absolutely right man. I give up, i knew i should had done something earlier, but if you read any my previous posts. I did ask her out the first time when i saw her about 4 or 5 months ago. She lied about seeing someone else. I started to move on from that DAY. But after that weeks and months to go by, she became so close towards me, doing all this crap, i was convinced, heck my friends told me that now she certainly likes you after getting to know you. I didn't ask her out again, i meant positive things were happening, and i knew i had to ask her out again. But my timing was soo bad. After 4 months and the day i choose was 2 days before she was leaving for vacations. Her friend was already there to visit her from another Country and she was giving her time. I still asked her out. And what happens again ? Uhmm, i can't i am busy with my project and i have to pack. As soon as i hung up the phone, i knew EXACTLY where i was standing, that i had to move on, she could had found sometime. I just asked her to go to the movies with me. 5 minutes after i get a text from her saying: Your welcome to come to this mall, where she was going already and she told me on the phone. She invites me to go there since i know her friends as well. When the time comes she says she is not going there anyways, because she was busy working with her project. Was so furious texted her saying, alright no problem, i have to go the movies anyways. And what does she do ? She still goes to that mall and i found out from her best friend. All these mixed SIGNS... I just thought why couldn't she just say it to me... And even now when i told her or confronted her... She is still not sure about the whole Situation. Mixed signals and all. I can bet on one thing, next time i see her, i can do the same things with her, she wouldn't even mind about that, what then ? I can try to lay a kiss on her. But whats the point, because i have no idea about her intentions anyways and she is making it hard for me...

January 7, 2014

I would stop investing time in this if I were you.

She wants to keep you around as the sad puppy who fawns over her and have ego boosting stories to tell her friends.

I feel like people like her aren't real friends.

January 7, 2014

Thanks for the reply, though what is done, is Done ! I can't go back in time and change something. I agree with Keenly though, she seems to be unsure of herself. When i spoke with her or told her how i felt, i could see that vibe, it wasn't that vibe where a girl clearly is not interested in you and tells you straight forward, i don't like you that way. She listened, and i felt something, i thought she was going to say something good, honestly speaking but this never happened. What is your opinion on this ? Should i try to see how she would react in the coming days plus moving on at the same time... ?

You're talking to a brick wall. Women are born manipulators. It's in their nature to compensate for their lack of physical strength which men do have. So they rely on their age old manipulation techniques to get you to do things for them. They have and always will have an edge over you. It's not all bad though, as sometimes a man needs to help a woman and be her protector and her guiding light and strength in times of difficulty. That's what a lover, a man and a devoted husband, does out of his good heart. That's a basic foundation for romance and growth.

Unfortunately, there are tons of women I called "Professional Daters" who loath to seek men (nice guys or weak guys) like yourself and manipulate you to do things their way. These guys' INFLATED EGOs convinced themselves by playing mind tricks by explaining every single words she said based on your rose colored glasses. These ladies USE words to play a game with you because that's how good they are. But your gut feeling, your intuition is telling you the opposite. Your gut feeling is the source of truth, but your ego is playing mind tricks and so this gave birth to what most men called women "giving mixed signals". She's not giving mixed signals. You made it up yourself; between your gut instincts and your rose colored glasses of your own ego. Nice guys ego always win out and their instincts take a back seat. Good guys or jerks use their instincts and kiss long ago. Why not. If she likes you, what's wrong with that. What you are afraid of is "rejection". Perhaps you had been rejected and you had never worked out this pain completely and so these women read you like an open book and use you as their ego boost and their own personal gratification, be it a chaffeur, meal ticket and so forth.

True real friends treat their own friends with kindness and respect and not to exploit others for their own personal gain. That is self-centeredness and selfishness and you should avoid these people at all costs.

January 8, 2014

I can bet on one thing, next time i see her, i can do the same things with her, she wouldn't even mind about that, what then ? I can try to lay a kiss on her. But whats the point, because i have no idea about her intentions anyways and she is making it hard for me...

You're making it hard for yourself. At this point it might be too late. You let it drag on without taking action. She's acting flaky because she knows you are timid to make a move. What do you have to lose if you tried to kiss her? Does she have such a huge impact on your life as a close friend that you are afraid of losing her?

Your last ditch effort is if you do see her one-on-one once again, and she gives you a smiling face and gazes into your eyes, just put one hand around her waist, pull her in, the other hand on the back of her head and just kiss her. Passionately. But not rapist like. If she pulls away before your lips touch, let her go. In fact, say some witty parting words and walk away from her. Don't look back either. Just pretend there is an explosion behind you, because cool guys never look back at explosions.

I have spoken.

January 8, 2014

I'll do that and this makes perfect sense as well. Well if she backs away, i'll know that i shouldn't be wasting any more time on her, that would be it the final thing to do.

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