Softie Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 (edited) One quick search on internet of best way to get your ex back Get-Your-Ex-Girlfriend-Back How-to-get-your-girlfriend-back-Six-Easy-Ways Remember that old saying you don't know what you've got until it's gone - well that's NC, if you want her to realise your the one for her you need to disappear from her life and let her see what life is like without you, hopefully you were a great boyfriend & she'll realise she can't or doesn't want to be without you. Or is all this dismissing other suggestions because your scared, scared that if you disappear she won't come back because you wernt that great. If so it's ok to be scared. We've all been there. Edited January 11, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 (edited) Sadly there were many hints and clues I should've picked up on, but I was stubborn early on, and felt "that's not me, she should love me the way I am" which she did for a good while. As time went by I let go of this attitude but she basically gave up on talking about it or acting like she needed it. Which is one issue that would have to change, she is not a very good communicator. While for a guy, I am. If she had told me some of these things in a serious way, I would have made the necessary adjustments much earlier than I did. Yeah....and that sucks. TRUST me I understand where you're coming from. My last ex SAME exact thing. I felt she would NEVER leave she was SO in love. Wrote me notes, bought presents, etc.... She said she "showed me numerous times" that we were drifting but I'm no mind reader and I thought we were good. I cant tell what she is thinking ALL the time. If she would have actually told me OF COURSE I would have done something about it. Sadly, she didnt. She kept everything in and just left one day. I tried your route of showing how much I changed and how different I was. Yeah, she respected it, but it doesnt mean she wanted to come back. The more I "showed" the more she really just wanted to move on until my constant talking just annoyed her. Once she found someone else, she stop texting and stopped talking. IF I would have stopped talking in the FIRST place, she MIGHT have found that she missed it/me, found me out and maybe we would have worked on it....maybe not. But the overall fact was I would be in much better shape with myself. I would have worked on myself and been great with myself. I didnt, so it took me MUCH longer to heal overall. After the full healing process, I met someone who is MUCH better than my ex. What we are saying is being there ONLY hinders the possible reconcile process, not help. Edited January 11, 2014 by ConfusedHumanBeing 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hurts2death Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 agree,although i was thinking if you are indeed a hi end version of western civil male plus have emotional kingdom and morals and let time sculp her for looooong period of years then appear "accidentaly" wouldnt that be a nice reset? i mean its gonna be like she never knew you she could forget you .ofcourse all this time focus on other things and dont live for that.I'm FULLY aware that no relationship goes without issues or full affectionate love every single day BUT when the relationship is done, ITS DONE. You could be Brad Pitt with a box of chocolates, roses, a Ferrari, and a 12 inch member...if she is done with the relationship NONE of it matters. Its already too late to start showing you care at that point. She made the decision to leave ONLY her can make the decision that she wants you back. Contacting her is like saying "Hi, I'm still here. I havent gone anywhere so please continue to use me as a crutch until I find someone else." Do you want to be that stepping stone until she fully moves on? I dont really think ANYONE on this site are bad people NOR do I think that they were not good people during the relationship. That doesnt mean feelings dont change with people. Feelings change ALL the time. Her feelings change. Will they change back to you? I highly doubt it, but the only way to see if there IS a chance later is to stop contacting now. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 (edited) Since most of the last page has been deleted as the advice has turned to fighting I think we'll close this thread. I trust the thread starter has gotten what he needed out of the thread, thanks Edited January 11, 2014 by Robert Link to post Share on other sites
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