Author neenoo Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 well there was a text exchange and im confused again. if they respond to a holiday well wish does that mean they are feeling friendly? I feel angry.. if there's no wish to push the friendship forward .. why respond. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 You are asking us about something we don't know. 1) Who resumed contact? 2) What was said in this exchange? 3) What holiday are you talking about? If I told someone I'm going to have a vacation and in return I got "have a good vacation", I would take it as a way to cut it short. Otherwise I would get questioned about the vacation, like when are you leaving? are you going to tour the place? whom will you be with? are you planning to do anything special there? etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author neenoo Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 birthday wishes. my initiation. this is after he disappeared after plans to meet up didn't finalize. i didnt expect a response, he didn't ask any questions. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 birthday wishes. my initiation. this is after he disappeared after plans to meet up didn't finalize. i didnt expect a response, he didn't ask any questions. I think you need to leave him alone. The guy seems to be cold with you. I don't see any interest from him. He was polite saying happy birthday (not sure what he wrote exactly). Link to post Share on other sites
nomadic_butterfly Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 birthday wishes. my initiation. this is after he disappeared after plans to meet up didn't finalize. i didnt expect a response, he didn't ask any questions. I think you should seek professional therapy. There are clearly some underlying issues greater than this specific situation that needs to be addressed. Do you by any chance have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder? I dated someone like this one and he was diagnosed. Your behavior seems very similar. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 He's not interested. You said you wanted closure but you really don't. Go No Contact. Try online dating. Take a class in something interesting. Go to the movies. Stay busy. Start exercising. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author neenoo Posted February 18, 2014 Author Share Posted February 18, 2014 just want to say that my intent is to get verbal responses and to work out a mostly intellectual question. thank you for those who wanted to help. Link to post Share on other sites
Author neenoo Posted February 18, 2014 Author Share Posted February 18, 2014 ugh.. now hes sent numerous messages about what his whereabouts were.. you know, i guess not thinking about him is the best advice. hes setting up house and is having a housewarming thing.. in the meantime i am going to just going to be a friend.. no assumptions until we can really have a heart to heart. we're going to chat on the phone now. Link to post Share on other sites
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