Evanescence Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 Ok, so I was on here for when my ex of 5.5 years broke up almost a year ago. At first it was a "break", two weeks later we broke up completely. A week later he was seeing someone else. He swears that he wasn't seeing her before we broke up, and that he felt nothing for her when we were together. Its just something that happened very quickly after we broke up. I would like to trust him (I've never not trusted him before), but I just don't know. Through their relationship they faught a lot. Everytime about me. She felt threatened. She would blow things totally out of proportion and throw a hissy fit and ignore him for days (he and I hardly ever faught, and if we did, it lasted a maximum of 20 min, so he wasn't use to this kind of behaviour). Finally last week they had their last fight. She asked him when the last time he talked to me was, he told her it was when i returned to school, and he called just to see how I was and make sure my move went alright (which is the truth, that's all we had talked about, but we have talked since then, he just didn't want her to freak out about it). So she threw a hissy fit, told him that she didn't want to ever talk to him again, and she didn't want to be his gf anymore. He said fine, because he is sick of putting up with her now. Anyway, so he called me up and told me about this, and we talked about it for a while. We live 2 hrs away from each other, but the next day he drove up to see me. We spent the day together and talked about what might happen now. I think in a way we were both waiting for this moment for the last year. So.... he says that it feels good to be free, and he wants to enjoy that time for a while (he's never really been single before). He now knows what he wants, and I fit all of the criteria, but he needs some time to think. Which, is good because we shouldn't just jump back into things, but at the same time, its the same as before when we were on our "break", and look where that ended. I completley think we should just take some time and think about things and see where they go, but I'm so afraid that right now is my chance to get what I've been wanting more than anything for the last year, and I might lose out on it. What do I do? Part of me wants back with him SO BADLY... a huge part of me. But there is this small element of doubt, after all that has happened. Help please!! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 Originally posted by Evanescence A week later he was seeing someone else. He swears that he wasn't seeing her before we broke up, and that he felt nothing for her when we were together. Its just something that happened very quickly after we broke up. I would like to trust him (I've never not trusted him before), but I just don't know. What do I do? Part of me wants back with him SO BADLY... a huge part of me. But there is this small element of doubt, after all that has happened. Help please!! First of all he is most likely lying about starting seeing her a wk later after you two broke up. If you want him back then take him back but make him squirm and wait and pay thru his nose. If you make it too easy for him then he will not learn his lesson and may run off with some other woman down the road. Take your time and date him along with other guys and tell him you don't want to be exclusive yet due to what he did but it may be a possibility down the road. If you go straight back to him without putting up a fuss then he will take advantage of you. Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 Wow, I agree with alphamale. Someone must have given me a big shot of testosterone. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 Originally posted by kooky Wow, I agree with alphamale. Someone must have given me a big shot of testosterone. Link to post Share on other sites
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