Unwrapped Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 I have finally hit my last straw with my husband. He has broken my trust too many times. I have my story posted elsewhere on this site, Im sort of new besides lurking. My husband and I got into an argument right before Christmas, which spawned a long discussion about our marriage and if we were really going to make it, he had to be open and just not talk to any other women period. I have asked him several times not to do it, but he still did. Finally in the last argument I told him this was the last time we argued about it. He had to change or I am gone. I set clear boundaries and he promised me. Two days ago I look at his phone and he had already Facebook messaged another woman and didn't tell me. I don't care who it was or what it said. It was the fact that he did it in the first place. I confronted him and he said he did it because he was bored. Yeah right. Im tired of that excuse. The message said "You disappeared on me". Which implies he has either seen or spoken to her before. This is probably the 7th or 8th time Ive asked him to stop and he doesn't respect me enough to just not. Im not crazy jealous just about him talking to other women. I believe you should have friends, but his history is terrible. He has broken trust and had an EA at least twice. Big time offences. There are too many more other smaller offences that have added up and I can't take it anymore. He doesn't care about anybody's feelings but himself and will do whatever he wants regardless of if it hurts me or not. It's the principle that he just doesn't care about me enough to respect my feelings. So Ive decided that its time for divorce. We have a small child together, which will complicate things. But I deserve to be happy too. If rather be with no one than with someone I can't trust. Im tired of having to wonder about what my spouse is doing or who he's talking to. I deserve better and so does my son. It's time to get out. I feel like I have been kind of vague, but I just needed to get it out. I don't really have any friends to talk to and my mom who is the only person Ive told has been working crazy shifts this week, So I haven't gotten to talk to her much. My heart just hurts so bad. Im crying as I type this. I just don't know what to do or how Im going to adjust. I need to work so many things out and make arrangements. I keep listening to the song A Little Bit Stronger by Sara Evans. "Im done hoping that we could work it out. Im done with how it feels spinning my wheels letting you drag my heart around. Im done thinking that you could ever change. I know my heart will never be the same. But Im telling myself Ill be okay." Thanks for reading. Any advice or helpful thoughts would be appreciated. I just needed to get it out. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 Keep talking it out. It's great therapy I've found. Although I'm all for you moving on, it sounds like there are a lot of details being left out here. I would guess based on your husband messaging another women, there may be something inappropriate going on, but there's not a lot to go on here. But I will say trust your gut. If you think something is up, there probably is something not right. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
nelib Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Dont put up with this SH*T!!! He is a liar and cheater. Yes it will hurt like hell to go through a divorce but you will be better in the end. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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