mail9993321 Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 Hi I have worked at the same place as this girl for the last 5 years. I have always been really attracted to her and chatted to her a few weeks after she came to my work to find out if she had a boyfriend, which she did. Anyway we have chatted on and off as friends but things moved on a lot more in the last few months. We have talked a lot more, and then started to take lunches together. About a month and a half ago she contacted me to say she tried to break up with her boyfriend of 5 years because she liked me and thought it was wrong. The monday after at work she messaged me to tell me she worked things out with him. We saw each other that night at a leisure centre, on my way home I messaged her to say it was going to be really hard to get over her and she said it was driving her crazy. We met up that night and chatted about the situation for an hour (she said she had been really attracted to me as well since the start), she said she was lonely as her bf was always out working, and they were struggling with money problems as she is supporting them both until he graduates in 6 months. She said she needed time to make a decision. Since then we chatted almost every day, met up 3/4 times outside of work and kissed. Over Christmas she told me she couldn't be with me but wanted to stay friends. By this time I think I have fallen in love with her and all her signs were pointing to her wanting to break up with her bf. I'm trying to get over her but struggling, everytime I see her it hurts as I feel she has kind of led me on. Does it sound like her relationship is stable if she was looking to break up just because she had feelings for me? Do you think we can go back to just being friends? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 You may be able to go back to being friends; that's entirely up to you because you are the one whose feelings are involved here, not hers. If her BF finds out you kissed, he may not be happy about your friendship. Until you have worked through the fact that there is no hope for romance, I think you need some distance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mail9993321 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 Thanks, think we will try to remain friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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