FrostBlaze Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 (edited) Me and this girl we're together a long time ago, we split up because she admited she wasn't ready for something new and still had feelings for her ex. NC for long ass time. She came back recently to be friends, i confronted her for acting like we are more than just that, so we got back 2ghether eventually, just to make the story short, because she said she was ready now. However she does seem slightly colder or it's just that she doesn't have the same affection she did when we first gave it a go. We both probably lost feelings for each other in this break-up time, is it all a matter of time till we "fall" again? or is it pretty much dead? I mean i still have feelings for her, idk how much she does, yet. She did come back and propose to get back and acted all cuddly, wich made it seem like she does care, but everything after that...she's been colder, idk maybe it's just me. Second chances ever work out? XD. Edited January 9, 2014 by FrostBlaze Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Me and this girl we're together a long time ago, we split up because she admited she wasn't ready for something new and still had feelings for her ex. NC for long ass time. She came back recently to be friends, i confronted her for acting like we are more than just that, so we got back 2ghether eventually, just to make the story short, because she said she was ready now. However she does seem slightly colder or it's just that she doesn't have the same affection she did when we first gave it a go. We both probably lost feelings for each other in this break-up time, is it all a matter of time till we "fall" again? or is it pretty much dead? I mean i still have feelings for her, idk how much she does, yet. I mean she did come back and propose to get back and acted all cuddly, wich made me seem like she does care, but everything after that, she's been colder, idk maybe it's just me. Second chances ever work out? XD. Have you try talking to her how you feel? I'm in a second chance with my ex (not the previous ex who dumped me) I'm now with another ex - broke up 6-7 years ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrostBlaze Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 No i have not, not yet, i said i wait a little bit more to see how it develops before we have the talk. I think it's allready a bad sign if i have to talk to her about this, hoping this will solve itself naturally and looking for hints on these forums. Link to post Share on other sites
iworthmore Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 why not to confront her abt it? u have the right to know which route to go. if you feel that she's being cold then tell her abt it and then see what she say. u have the right to be calmed and not to over think abt such issues, if she came back she must prove it with actions. why to be with someone who u doubt her feeling for u . its toxic and will cause u headaches. dont know why they do that. my ex begged me back and then went cold foot. i suggest that u tell her that u not sure abt ur feeling and abt her feeling for u . and u both need more time apart. u both must agree not to be back unless u both 100% sure abt ur feeling. beside, never take an ex back. if yes then she must prove it by actions and putting so much effort on that. that's how dumper's ex's. they want u when ur far and when they get u they become cold. so don't be available, Link to post Share on other sites
AlphaC Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 (edited) Me and this girl we're together a long time ago, we split up because she admited she wasn't ready for something new and still had feelings for her ex. NC for long ass time. She came back recently to be friends, i confronted her for acting like we are more than just that, so we got back 2ghether eventually, just to make the story short, because she said she was ready now. However she does seem slightly colder or it's just that she doesn't have the same affection she did when we first gave it a go. We both probably lost feelings for each other in this break-up time, is it all a matter of time till we "fall" again? or is it pretty much dead? I mean i still have feelings for her, idk how much she does, yet. She did come back and propose to get back and acted all cuddly, wich made it seem like she does care, but everything after that...she's been colder, idk maybe it's just me. Second chances ever work out? XD. Look man, she got cold feet and took off, now she has warm feet and YOU let her come back. As a man you made a decision to get back with her, she is navigating the ship, you are a passenger. It's time to take charge. You don't need to have a talk with her, actions speak louder than words. It takes time to build a relationship, she probably feels bad for leaving you in the past. If she spends time with you, is honest, treats you right then all that lovey dovey stuff will appear in time. Take it slow, enjoy the fact that you are getting to know each other again. Think positive and don't allow her to be in control. Remember actions speak louder than words and lead by example. When I first met my ex she used to curse a lot. I hardly ever curse, and I guess she noticed and started cursing less and less. You need to show her love, give her reasons to realize why she wanted to come back to you, (that having you in her life makes her happier than crying for her ex). The way you do that is by being the better person, showing her that you don't cry over little things, that you are happy in your own skin. Her ex was probably a jerk and dumped her and she got really hurt. Just cool out, be easy and enjoy what you and her have. Peace Edited January 9, 2014 by AlphaC 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrostBlaze Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 Emotionally immature, doesn't know what she want's. Despite saying she was ready, she isn't. Eventually admited it, she is a wreck. Had a talk, broke it off ^^, that's it bubye. Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Emotionally immature, doesn't know what she want's. Despite saying she was ready, she isn't. Eventually admited it, she is a wreck. Had a talk, broke it off ^^, that's it bubye. Glad you found out that she wasn't ready after all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrostBlaze Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 It's not what i wanted, i actually hoped for more. But i don't have the time for bull, cuz she is full of drama. So i had to call it quits now or it would of happened either way, but later. Link to post Share on other sites
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