BlametheIrish Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Though this was a humorous view on all those "nice guys" who wonder why being nice doesn't work. I personally will only date nice guys. Luckily my B.S. meter works perfectly now so I can weed out the droves of self proclaimed nice guys who are so far from nice in reality. 13 Reasons Why Nice Guys Are The Worst 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 This list is crazy skewed and slanted, to the point where it ruined the funny of it all. Also, the misuse of the friend zone Fiona meme made me cringe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 I couldn't seethe first two (which had no numbers on them) but the,rest of them remind me of a lot of passive aggressive nice guy wannabees I see IRL and on LS. Number 10, pegs a lot of nice guy wannabes I know. Lighten up Keenly 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Revolver Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 If a woman finds you attractive it doesn't matter of you're nice bad or jesus she's gonna want to be with you. Morality has nothing to do with getting laid, I've seen it both ways. My problem is when women lie and it imply that matters There are guys who are saints who are successful with woman and guys who are the scum of the earth who have tons of women. Look at our prison population 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OpheliaSong Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 I couldn't seethe first two (which had no numbers on them) but the,rest of them remind me of a lot of passive aggressive nice guy wannabees I see IRL and on LS. Number 10, pegs a lot of nice guy wannabes I know. Lighten up Keenly I have never seen this before so thanks for the giggles. So funny. I like real nice guys too and will not date a loser jerk pretending to be a nice guy. Everything listed reminded me of the guys here on LS who say they are nice guys then go on rants that show they are really not nice at all but acting like that to get laid. Obviously being a jerk didn't get them what they wanted so they pretend to be nice. I have my radar on for guys like this but thanks to LS I am able to spot them pretty easily now...I pay attention to key words and passive aggressiveness. They are almost as bad as the ones whose ex messed them up so they think all women are exactly like their exes and get uptight about everything. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 If a woman finds you attractive it doesn't matter of you're nice bad or jesus she's gonna want to be with you. Morality has nothing to do with getting laid, I've seen it both ways. My problem is when women lie and it imply that matters There are guys who are saints who are successful with woman and guys who are the scum of the earth who have tons of women. Look at our prison population If I find a man attractive but come to realize he's a jerk Im not going to stay attracted to him as being a jerk.is not a quality I want in a significant other. Things are mot so black and white Revolver. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Spot on for 90% of ls nice guys! Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Though this was a humorous view on all those "nice guys" who wonder why being nice doesn't work. I personally will only date nice guys. Luckily my B.S. meter works perfectly now so I can weed out the droves of self proclaimed nice guys who are so far from nice in reality. 13 Reasons Why Nice Guys Are The Worst This was posted here before and I died laughing the first time and still die laughing at how accurate this is . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 Lol, I never saw it before but I can see why it was posted Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 I couldn't seethe first two (which had no numbers on them) but the,rest of them remind me of a lot of passive aggressive nice guy wannabees I see IRL and on LS. Number 10, pegs a lot of nice guy wannabes I know. Lighten up Keenly Meme misuse is a serious topic to me. I completely understand the list is in jest but damnit, the friend zone meme needs to be used correctly ! Link to post Share on other sites
John83 Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Lol at some of those. Never quite unterstood people who put on an act, be it nice guy or whatever else. Strong personal principle of mine is to treat others the way you expect to be treated yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 Meme misuse is a serious topic to me. I completely understand the list is in jest but damnit, the friend zone meme needs to be used correctly ! How would it look if it were used correctly? Link to post Share on other sites
FrostBlaze Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 (edited) Another nice guy hate thread yooo, lot of these recently. Anyhoo, i don't do any of the above...but i can agree to know some people of the sort. ^^. Also i think most people expect to much out of nice guys, so when they actually have a little fight, everybody else is like "OMG THE DEVIL WITHIN HIM HAS BROKEN LOSE". >_> And if u actually look at it, he didn't burst out as loudly as others would, but hey he never did it before, so it's odd, who knows what kind of maniac he is. I should know, in highschool thre was this one teacher that was convinced i was the devil. So when i hit a classmate (as a joke) and she saw it, she was like "HA I KNEW IT". xD Edited January 9, 2014 by FrostBlaze Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 How would it look if it were used correctly? Its supposed to be intentionally misleading. Let's see if I can find a good one. Won't let me link it but goes : Asks you to sleep over " the futon is very comfortable. " etc. Its gotta be misleading with a hard wall at the end. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 I really hate it when I am called a "nice guy". Every time I hear that, I wish they put me out of my misery instead. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 I really hate it when I am called a "nice guy". Every time I hear that, I wish they put me out of my misery instead. I'm going to assume women use that line to turn you down in a less hurtful way like "You're a really nice guy, but I'm just not feeling it". If you're truely a nice guy by nature it will pay off if you keep putting yourself out there. But nice guys with no confidence, and nice guys who have zero.social skills for example, don't get dumped because they're nice. They get dumped because someone with no.confidence isn't very fun to be around. But telling someone you barely know, " Sorry I'm not interested anymore as your extreme lack of self confidence is a huge downer" is not the way most women tell a guy they're not interested. Alot of women go with the "You seem nice enough, but I'm just not feeling it" or something to.that effect so.they don't hurt your feelings or whatever other underlying reasons they have. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 (edited) I'm going to assume women use that line to turn you down in a less hurtful way like "You're a really nice guy, but I'm just not feeling it". If you're truely a nice guy by nature it will pay off if you keep putting yourself out there. But nice guys with no confidence, and nice guys who have zero.social skills for example, don't get dumped because they're nice. They get dumped because someone with no.confidence isn't very fun to be around. But telling someone you barely know, " Sorry I'm not interested anymore as your extreme lack of self confidence is a huge downer" is not the way most women tell a guy they're not interested. Alot of women go with the "You seem nice enough, but I'm just not feeling it" or something to.that effect so.they don't hurt your feelings or whatever other underlying reasons they have. I am a verifiable not nice guy. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/447749-testimonial-proof-being-verifiable-bad-boy-dating-success By success I mean a family and children of my own. I have had plenty of flings and some relationships that were almost a year…but never a full year in one block. (The longest one was on and off for 5 years). I am according to the test I took in that thread, and even some professional psychological treatment.. more narcicistic than most, less empathetic, and more manipulative. Yet I am not your run of the mill douchebag. I am a dark triad personality. I am like Al-Dalal the “effeminate” of early Medina who once took both a bride and groom to bed on their wedding day When rejected I’ve never been called nice. I’ve been called taboo for reasons of race, culture, age, or gender presentation. In the next year there is a 100% chance I will have a relationship with a woman where they try to lead me to believe I am their only lover, while I know they have another who they barely do anything sexual with. Too fearful of censure to just be with me. Letting their “nice” and acceptable “boyfriend” do the heavy lifting. Even I, a not nice guy, the opposite of a nice guy, think that it is a really asinine way to reject a guy when we all know it’s connotations of an utter lack of any sex appeal, edge, or backbone what so ever. It is sad that a word that once meant a good thing is now an insult. The truth is on a deep seated evolutionary level women do not even want truly nice guys. They want a combination of genes that lead to: “Sexy sons”: Who will get more women and hence more grandchildren.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexy_son_hypothesis#Human_sexual_behavior Cognitive and emotional intelligence…for “ecological dominance and social competition”. Knowing how to make tools and weapons, intelligence…and manipulate people to have allies and mates. http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1090513804000595 Because if your kids are good looking, smart, and know how to make weapons and influence people…for the last million years that meant you had more grandchildren. This is wired by evolution into our deep unconscious mind. We experience it as “feelings”, “chemistry”, or no chemistry, sparks, or no sparks. I expect to be called horrible for saying this again. But there it is with citations. TL;DR: I am not a nice guy. I have plenty of sex and some short intense passionate turbulent relationships behind (and in front of ) me. Why, because I look pretty decent enough to get both women and men and I am smart. FFS I am an astrophysicist who can get picked as a jury foreman by everyone without even asking for it. Yet I understand why “nice” guys do not like the label. It is possibly an insult. Edited January 10, 2014 by Mrlonelyone Link to post Share on other sites
Eau Claire Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Some of those are so true. Especially variations of #2. See it on forums like this constantly. 'I was so good to her. There is something wrong with her because she doesn't appreciate it...what's 'her' problem. What's wrong with women today'? The negative whiners who are doomed to never 'get it'. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 "Even I, a not nice guy, the opposite of a nice guy, think that it is a really asinine way to reject a guy when we all know it’s connotations of an utter lack of any sex appeal, edge, or backbone what so ever. It is sad that a word that once meant a good thing is now an insult." I agree with this whole heartedly. But when I say I want a nice guy, thats not the only thing that attracts me of course. I try my best to only date nice guys, but sometimes you find a doormat when you're looking for an equal. I truely want and will only be happy with a nice guy 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Niceness is an ambiguous trait that is not necessarily a prerequisite to attraction. A lot of guys don't understand this until they've endured many an embarrassing scenario. Being nice shouldn't be your defining trait - it's a given. People expect you to be somewhat nice. But you have to have other traits that are as prominent as your "niceness". Things that set you apart, things that people will be attracted to you for, however they are manifested. And if you're expecting a woman to be honest instead of telling you how nice you are before she turns you down, don't hold your breath. Nobody wants to be the bad guy in that situation. If the shoe was on the other foot, you probably would say the same thing to the girl. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Niceness is an ambiguous trait that is not necessarily a prerequisite to attraction. A lot of guys don't understand this until they've endured many an embarrassing scenario. Being nice shouldn't be your defining trait - it's a given. People expect you to be somewhat nice. But you have to have other traits that are as prominent as your "niceness". Things that set you apart, things that people will be attracted to you for, however they are manifested. And if you're expecting a woman to be honest instead of telling you how nice you are before she turns you down, don't hold your breath. Nobody wants to be the bad guy in that situation. If the shoe was on the other foot, you probably would say the same thing to the girl. Not really. When I'm not feeling a woman or think that sex between us would be a bad idea, I just have a mature conversation with them face to face. 100% of women, even ones who are very emotional the rest of the time, take it better than anything else. Heck, at a past time in my life I've had to calmly tell men who were certain I was all woman that I in fact have a bigger unit than theirs. ( ) They took it well. Most sane people take disappointment much better than we give them credit for. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Not really. When I'm not feeling a woman or think that sex between us would be a bad idea, I just have a mature conversation with them face to face. 100% of women, even ones who are very emotional the rest of the time, take it better than anything else. Heck, at a past time in my life I've had to calmly tell men who were certain I was all woman that I in fact have a bigger unit than theirs. ( ) They took it well. Most sane people take disappointment much better than we give them credit for. I never said people don't take it well, I said nobody wants to be the bad guy. Meaning the assumption that people won't take it well is prevalent . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eau Claire Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Niceness is an ambiguous trait that is not necessarily a prerequisite to attraction. A lot of guys don't understand this until they've endured many an embarrassing scenario. Being nice shouldn't be your defining trait - it's a given. People expect you to be somewhat nice. But you have to have other traits that are as prominent as your "niceness". I really like this comment. Being nice should be a given. It is akin to being courteous and respectful. It's the prerequisite base to build upon and not an end in itself. Link to post Share on other sites
peruano99 Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 A guy can be nice, but not too extreme in doing everything for a girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 The 'Nice Guy Card' comic was funny. Link to post Share on other sites
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