hurtnomorerika Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Well we had court today. He didnt show up, they went ahead and set up court ordered childsupport at 850.00 plus medical benefits. It WILL be automatically garnished from his pay. 14 Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 A month?! Holy crud! He must make good money. I have a big crew of kiddos and ex doesn't pay even close to that per month. I'm glad you didn't end up having to see him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 A month?! Holy crud! He must make good money. I have a big crew of kiddos and ex doesn't pay even close to that per month. I'm glad you didn't end up having to see him. Yeah, he makes pretty good. When the judge said the amount I nearly passed out. Im glad I didnt have to see him to my nerves were shocked. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Erika: Has he even acknowledged the child? Does his wife know about you and the child? G Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 Erika: Has he even acknowledged the child? Does his wife know about you and the child? G He's done NOTHING for my baby. He had a chance to do DNA testing, he didnt respond to the letters and by him not appearing for court they automatically defaulted him as the father. I dont know if she knows she will know when the money is short. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Well we had court today. He didnt show up, they went ahead and set up court ordered childsupport at 850.00 plus medical benefits. It WILL be automatically garnished from his pay. Thanks for the update! So glad your little one will have this financial help, at least. Know you will give her lots of TLC! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 He's done NOTHING for my baby. He had a chance to do DNA testing, he didnt respond to the letters and by him not appearing for court they automatically defaulted him as the father. I dont know if she knows she will know when the money is short. This is a terrible situation. I can imagine you are very lost right now in many ways emotionally. Take care of yourself for you and your child and try your best to be positive because babies pick up on emotion. Speak to a mentor, spiritual advisor or friend who can help you deal with your emotions and the demise of your relationship. Remorse and regret are very powerful things, but it is action that can propel you forward to a more positive life. A child is a gift, and though the circumstances weren't ideal, it seems from my reading your other posts that you learned your painful lesson in life about boundaries and fidelity. We all have our painful lessons to learn so don't let this define your future. You have a chance to have a beautiful life with your child so focus on that and remember that we all take paths off the roads we travel, but if we keep veering back in the right direction we can still get to where we want to go. Best of luck, Grumps 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 This is a terrible situation. I can imagine you are very lost right now in many ways emotionally. Take care of yourself for you and your child and try your best to be positive because babies pick up on emotion. Speak to a mentor, spiritual advisor or friend who can help you deal with your emotions and the demise of your relationship. Remorse and regret are very powerful things, but it is action that can propel you forward to a more positive life. A child is a gift, and though the circumstances weren't ideal, it seems from my reading your other posts that you learned your painful lesson in life about boundaries and fidelity. We all have our painful lessons to learn so don't let this define your future. You have a chance to have a beautiful life with your child so focus on that and remember that we all take paths off the roads we travel, but if we keep veering back in the right direction we can still get to where we want to go. Best of luck, Grumps Thanks, Grumps. I learned a big lesson. God knows I tried to give him a chance and to me its not even about the money. Its about doing the right thing. So, it is what it is. We're moving on from here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
yellowmaverick Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Well we had court today. He didnt show up, they went ahead and set up court ordered childsupport at 850.00 plus medical benefits. It WILL be automatically garnished from his pay. Good. I am glad that your daughter will be financially taken care of. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Well we had court today. He didnt show up, they went ahead and set up court ordered childsupport at 850.00 plus medical benefits. It WILL be automatically garnished from his pay. Yaaaayyy!!! Great for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruffian1 Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Good for you. That is good news. However, don't be surprised if he turns up in the future with wanting to see her or have visitations. Just because he has not yet, I believe he will in the future. Be prepared. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Good for you. That is good news. However, don't be surprised if he turns up in the future with wanting to see her or have visitations. Just because he has not yet, I believe he will in the future. Be prepared. ^^^^^^^^^ I agree. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Good for you! Your story has been so heartbreaking for me. Bentley - depending on the state, they can garnish wages for up to 26%, I believe - and I don't know if that is before or after taxes. He certainly didn't do himself any favors by not going to court. Eons ago, I took a man to small claims court and it would have taken him years to pay back the money he owed me because by law they could only garnish so much percentage wise and he already had two garmishments for child support. I think I would have gotten around $15 a month for the $500 he owed me. Erika - did you have to do anything about visitation? That sort of horrifies me, it sounds like a bad Lifetime movie in the making. And I hate to ask this but I don't remember the details, did the BS not know about the affair or the baby? It will be a shock when their income drops if she had no clue. Once again, good for you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eau Claire Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Lady 2163. I would think that 25% would be based on some wage that is somewhat basic and the person needs enough left for necessities. If a person is earning a million dollars a year, I would think that he'd be subject to a higher percent than someone earning 15 thousand. OP...that is not all that high an amount. It is reasonable. Will you have child care expenses in future? That alone could take up most of the support payment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 (edited) Good for you! Your story has been so heartbreaking for me. Bentley - depending on the state, they can garnish wages for up to 26%, I believe - and I don't know if that is before or after taxes. He certainly didn't do himself any favors by not going to court. Eons ago, I took a man to small claims court and it would have taken him years to pay back the money he owed me because by law they could only garnish so much percentage wise and he already had two garmishments for child support. I think I would have gotten around $15 a month for the $500 he owed me. Erika - did you have to do anything about visitation? That sort of horrifies me, it sounds like a bad Lifetime movie in the making. And I hate to ask this but I don't remember the details, did the BS not know about the affair or the baby? It will be a shock when their income drops if she had no clue. Once again, good for you! I spoke with my attorney about visitation and if it comes to it it will be supervised because of the past history. I don't know if she knows she will now. Edited January 10, 2014 by hurtnomorerika Add something Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 Lady 2163. I would think that 25% would be based on some wage that is somewhat basic and the person needs enough left for necessities. If a person is earning a million dollars a year, I would think that he'd be subject to a higher percent than someone earning 15 thousand. OP...that is not all that high an amount. It is reasonable. Will you have child care expenses in future? That alone could take up most of the support payment. I pay $300 monthly for childcare. I get a discount because I work for the federal government. That leaves $500 for her other expenses. I'm pretty ok with it, it's more than what I've heard others get and I definitely wasn't expecting that amount. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Lady 2163. I would think that 25% would be based on some wage that is somewhat basic and the person needs enough left for necessities. If a person is earning a million dollars a year, I would think that he'd be subject to a higher percent than someone earning 15 thousand. OP...that is not all that high an amount. It is reasonable. Will you have child care expenses in future? That alone could take up most of the support payment. This is years ago, but I have had friends who have divorced with children and child support garnishment hasn't exceeded 25%. I actually got more in alimony than a friend got in child support - for two kids. But once again, tHe former MM did himself no favors by not showing up to court. None of my friends were wealthy. I don't know what happens in those cases. Personally, I find it horrible that the non custodial parent ONLY pays 25%, when if the custodial parent only paid 25%, the child would probably be severely neglected. Link to post Share on other sites
krazikat Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 This is years ago, but I have had friends who have divorced with children and child support garnishment hasn't exceeded 25%. I actually got more in alimony than a friend got in child support - for two kids. But once again, tHe former MM did himself no favors by not showing up to court. None of my friends were wealthy. I don't know what happens in those cases. Personally, I find it horrible that the non custodial parent ONLY pays 25%, when if the custodial parent only paid 25%, the child would probably be severely neglected. How would the child be severely neglected? What kind of money do you spend on your kids? How is it horrible? Link to post Share on other sites
glowing Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 I'm so glad you followed through with that 1 Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Congrats. There is still a long road ahead. Beware....when his wife finds out she is going to lose it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lilmisscantbewrong Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 I'm glad your child is going to get the support. I am wondering how in the hell he is keeping the fact that he is being taken to court for child support secret from his wife. Yeah - she will blow when she finds this out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 How would the child be severely neglected? What kind of money do you spend on your kids? How is it horrible? Off topic, pardon please... Kat, let's say someone makes $15 an hour... 15 x 40 x 52 = $31200 for the year. 25% of income is for taxes, social security, deductions, etc. Take home = $23400 25% of that is $5850 OP spends $3600 a year on childcare alone. That only leaves $2250 a year or 187.50 for a child/baby. Food, clothing, apartment size upgrade etc, the custodial parent is spending more than $188 on this child I just believe the custodial parent in general spends a LOT more than 25% of their income on raising a child. If my figures are correct, the MM in this scenario makes $19.62 an hour. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 Congrats. There is still a long road ahead. Beware....when his wife finds out she is going to lose it. Thanks, and I dont care about her "losing" it. Me, nor my child will be no where around. He HAS TO deal with her NOT ME. If she comes anywhere towards me or my child I WILL have charges pressed against IMMEDIATELY. So she can "LOSE IT" if she wants to they'll be out of more money. She needs deal with her husband, I owe her nothing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 I'm so glad you followed through with that Me too, I wasnt going to let him get away with not being responsible. True enough, we were both wrong for what we were doing, but that doesnt excuse his dropping off the face of the earth. He may not ever have anything to do with my daughter and thats sad but he will be financially responsible. I make pretty good money as well so I will be setting up her a bank account to start saving for her college funds. God is good! Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 She really doesn't have to find out if he manages his own paycheck and they aren't financially strapped. Maybe this is why he didn't show up to court. He knew he didn't have a leg to stand on and he would have to pay anyway so he just let them garnishee it. She still may not know about this yet. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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