Trnamakesnse Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 This may sound silly but do all my female friends try to gauge me as to whether I'm dating material or not? I certainly don't look at every woman and wonder if they are the right height to kiss or worry if they think I'm the wrong age. I mean we're just friends so these things don't even cross my mind. Is it just me that doesn't understand this? I felt like I was being probed as a potential boyfriend and they weren't even interested, but it's odd to be probed when they already aren't interested. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Nah, I've never known at least young women to be at all analytical about whether to date someone. They either like them and think they're cute and worth dating to get to know or they don't. I don't think many give it that much thought as to suitability. (Maybe more should) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trnamakesnse Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 Well specifically I mentioned I don't date taller women and she wanted to point out she was shorter. Maybe she just wants all her guy friends attracted to her. Just lots of little things that women don't normally make a point of trying to show they fit my bill as it were. She doesn't know she isn't as funny or intelligent with the sciences as I like. Probably not going to bring that up. I don't think it was so much her being analytical as it was her making a point that she is acceptable. I teased her for a long time about being too young for me, which she is IMO but her bf is older than I am so I can't really tell her that now. Why would anyone try so hard to be found attractive to everyone it boggles my mind. I never found it healthy to be attracted in a platonic friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Yes, you have a point. You never know where that's coming from. She could be sort of flirting or she could just be argumentative! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trnamakesnse Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 She wanted to know my deepest sexual secret fantasies, that's just kinda weird for a friend to want to know even a close friend. I know I don't really get out much but wanting to know them then putting herself in them hypothetically is strange. I told her then she quickly thought up a way she would meet hers and mine. We're not talking right now so I'm trying to figure this out before she gets back since I kinda just ask bluntly what things mean. I keep my friends as friends even the really attractive ones, I can't see them as potential anythings. I imagine with new bf she won't be doing this anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 I know I often probe my buddy's minds when I am looking for insight into men in general. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trnamakesnse Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 I know I often probe my buddy's minds when I am looking for insight into men in general. Do you tell them how you could fit into that fantasy though? I doubt you do, that's my dilemma. I want to understand this better. Picking my mind and asking me what I would like is fine but following that up with you being a part of that fantasy isn't really a good idea. Link to post Share on other sites
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