expensive_labels Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 (edited) Okay, So one day my girl gave me her password and email to her Facebook account. Me being the good-hearted person I am, I decided that I wouldn't check her messages or invade her privacy, so I didn't ! So as weeks go on without me attempting to log in her account I one day woke up and decided that I would sign in and see what she's up to. So the first time I log-in I see that the password has been changed. FORTUNATELY, she also gave me her email, so I went to her email and tried my luck and got lucky ! Her email password was the same password that she had for her Facebook. So when you have access to someones email you can change their password on Facebook and get into their account. So, as I'm now secretly logged into her account I see a conversation with her and another man! The conversation consisted of her and him talking about oral sex; he asked my girl for oral sex and she seemed as if she was fine with it.... I know that PEOPLE say trust is important in a relationship, and that you shouldn't spy on that person, BUT WHAT IF you've been putting all your trust into that person , then decide to spy on them and FIND out that this is going on, like what is a person suppose to do????? GUYS PLEASE READ THIS CONVERSATION, AND TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO... (TyTy is my girl , and the Mar guy is the one she's talking to). Today 11:32pmTyTy Badd haha 11:57pmTyTy Badd how was yur day ? 11:57pmYoung Marr wack..yours 11:57pmTyTy Badd cold ! yu in colleqe ? 11:58pmYoung Marr yea 11:58pmTyTy Badd dats wasup which one ? 12:10amYoung Marr Idek but come see me 2nm 12:13amTyTy Badd lOll yu dnt kno wah colleqe yu attend -- I dnt evn kno wea yu liive nd wat time .. is dere school 2m ?? 12:45amYoung Marr I live near their den movies and around 5 Linden* 12:46amTyTy Badd oh okay qroovy ! nd iqhh 12:47amYoung Marr Dnt front either yooo 12:48amTyTy Badd im not if deas skl I qet out 430 so I qet home abt 6 "/ 12:50amYoung Marr Jus go straight to the movies..ima call u nf **** Can we do something tho,cause ima freak 12:51amTyTy Badd lOll iqhh um .... sumthinq like ?? 12:52amYoung Marr Can u give me neck cause I be hot y nf I only want u to do it to me 12:52amTyTy Badd huh ?? send dat over I dont understand da last part 12:53amYoung Marr I want u to give me oral sex cause I know I could fick with you 12:54amTyTy Badd ohhh um we juss like met nd allat but I quess if only I do it once ;; cuss I needa qet to kno yu more nd I havent done dat in madd lonq so Id like to keep it dat way 1:19amTyTy Badd oh & um if we do start talkinq or w.e yu call it its natural for me to juss talk to only yu so I think it shud be vice versa Edited January 10, 2014 by expensive_labels Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 She's openly dating. She gave you access, besides, cheating overrules everything. Keep copies of the conversation. She is not good girlfriend material, I don't see a future for you with her, she has serious boundary issues, go dark on her. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author expensive_labels Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 She's openly dating. She gave you access, besides, cheating overrules everything. Keep copies of the conversation. She is not good girlfriend material, I don't see a future for you with her, she has serious boundary issues, go dark on her. Thanks for the input man. "Openly Dating" , the thought of that is crazy. This is a girl who constantly tells me she loves me, tells me I'm the ONLY ONE, constantly texts me. But I guess good guys finish last. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Oh man. I would dump her purely for her grievous assaults on the English language in those messages. But seriously, she is quite clearly cheating on you. You should certainly dump her and find someone who will treat you with respect. 14 Link to post Share on other sites
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 I wouldn't waste anymore time with this one. Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 My eyes hurt! I would message her on facebook, using the very same lines as the guy. She will understand that you found out and you won't have to say anything else. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatMan Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 What has been your reaction to all of this? I think that your girlfriend has been openly dating other people, as indicated in these messages, because it's what she wants for herself. What do you want for yourself? Just because you've discovered these messages does not somehow make you a bad person. If there was something that bothered you then it's perfectly okay to do the right thing for yourself, whatever that might be. Link to post Share on other sites
Debanked Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 We need James Earl Jones and Malcolm McDowell to act out this exchange... 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author expensive_labels Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 What has been your reaction to all of this? I think that your girlfriend has been openly dating other people, as indicated in these messages, because it's what she wants for herself. What do you want for yourself? Just because you've discovered these messages does not somehow make you a bad person. If there was something that bothered you then it's perfectly okay to do the right thing for yourself, whatever that might be. This incident happened a week ago. And after a few days I just decided to be sarcastic around her about it, making jokes about oral sex and cheating and stuff. Whenever I mentioned these topics she would get real jumpy. When I decided to confront her about the whole situation SHE LIED INTO MY FACE ABOUT IT LIKE I HADN'T SEEN IT WITH MY OWN 2 EYES. This isn't the first occasion I hacked her Facebook and have seen nasty messages. Atleast at the time I confronted her should could've came clean about it, but GUYS she really lied to me in my face about it like I was a damn fool. It hurts so bad. I don't know what hurts more, the fact that she lied about it after clearly being caught, or the actual messages. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Yes. Cheaters lie. It's just what they do. Dump her and move on dude, quit playing "catch her out" games. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 This incident happened a week ago. And after a few days I just decided to be sarcastic around her about it, making jokes about oral sex and cheating and stuff. Whenever I mentioned these topics she would get real jumpy. When I decided to confront her about the whole situation SHE LIED INTO MY FACE ABOUT IT LIKE I HADN'T SEEN IT WITH MY OWN 2 EYES. This isn't the first occasion I hacked her Facebook and have seen nasty messages. Atleast at the time I confronted her should could've came clean about it, but GUYS she really lied to me in my face about it like I was a damn fool. It hurts so bad. I don't know what hurts more, the fact that she lied about it after clearly being caught, or the actual messages. It's hard to cheat without lying, the two are always found together. This is why I suggested you keep copies of their texts for this reason, they almost always lie when you confront and than they will only confess to what you already know. The thing I found interesting about the texts is she never put him in his place, she never went nuclear on him for asking her(in writing) for sexual favours . As your girlfriend she is supposed to protect your back when aggressive men hit on her and you are not there to defend your relationship with her. This clearly didn't happen and she blame shifted everything back to you. The fact that she is trying to get you to not believe what you read with your own eyes, that she lied to you face to face should give you more than enough information to choose a path. If she can lie to you she can do a lot more to hurt you, move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 That was English?!?!? I could make out one or two words per line! Yeah, drop her, she's not serious about you. The first time the dude asked for oral sex (I know it had to be in there somewhere.) she should have said, "Uh...no, I have a boyfriend." and terminated the conversation. Just move on. If she asks why, just tell her that we were over the moment you let the two of us become three. And her an Marr deserve each other. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Oxygen13 Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 She has no morals and clearly no high school education. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Keke1 Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Listen man please. DO NOT FORGIVE HER. Just leave man for your own sake. She's not worth it. Forgive her and it'll happen again. She was about to go suck another dick and kiss you in the mouth that night. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sayyes19 Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Listen man please. DO NOT FORGIVE HER. Just leave man for your own sake. She's not worth it. Forgive her and it'll happen again. She was about to go suck another dick and kiss you in the mouth that night. I'd say leave their online exchange printed out for her and never talk to her again. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 What a skank. Do you want to date a skank? Enjoy! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author expensive_labels Posted January 11, 2014 Author Share Posted January 11, 2014 What a skank. Do you want to date a skank? Enjoy! It hurts..... Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 I'd say leave their online exchange printed out for her and never talk to her again. I did say good advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Shashasha Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Please leave her right now!!!! It hurts but you will only keep hurting yourself if you prolong this. You deserve someone who only loves you. Link to post Share on other sites
HomanWater Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 It hurts..... Truth hurts sometimes. A skank with no ability to write in English too, it seems. Link to post Share on other sites
crimsonite Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Okay, So one day my girl gave me her password and email to her Facebook account. Me being the good-hearted person I am, I decided that I wouldn't check her messages or invade her privacy, so I didn't ! So as weeks go on without me attempting to log in her account I one day woke up and decided that I would sign in and see what she's up to. So the first time I log-in I see that the password has been changed. FORTUNATELY, she also gave me her email, so I went to her email and tried my luck and got lucky ! Her email password was the same password that she had for her Facebook. So when you have access to someones email you can change their password on Facebook and get into their account. So, as I'm now secretly logged into her account I see a conversation with her and another man! The conversation consisted of her and him talking about oral sex; he asked my girl for oral sex and she seemed as if she was fine with it.... I know that PEOPLE say trust is important in a relationship, and that you shouldn't spy on that person, BUT WHAT IF you've been putting all your trust into that person , then decide to spy on them and FIND out that this is going on, like what is a person suppose to do????? GUYS PLEASE READ THIS CONVERSATION, AND TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO... (TyTy is my girl , and the Mar guy is the one she's talking to). Today 11:32pmTyTy Badd haha 11:57pmTyTy Badd how was yur day ? 11:57pmYoung Marr wack..yours 11:57pmTyTy Badd cold ! yu in colleqe ? 11:58pmYoung Marr yea 11:58pmTyTy Badd dats wasup which one ? 12:10amYoung Marr Idek but come see me 2nm 12:13amTyTy Badd lOll yu dnt kno wah colleqe yu attend -- I dnt evn kno wea yu liive nd wat time .. is dere school 2m ?? 12:45amYoung Marr I live near their den movies and around 5 Linden* 12:46amTyTy Badd oh okay qroovy ! nd iqhh 12:47amYoung Marr Dnt front either yooo 12:48amTyTy Badd im not if deas skl I qet out 430 so I qet home abt 6 "/ 12:50amYoung Marr Jus go straight to the movies..ima call u nf **** Can we do something tho,cause ima freak 12:51amTyTy Badd lOll iqhh um .... sumthinq like ?? 12:52amYoung Marr Can u give me neck cause I be hot y nf I only want u to do it to me 12:52amTyTy Badd huh ?? send dat over I dont understand da last part 12:53amYoung Marr I want u to give me oral sex cause I know I could fick with you 12:54amTyTy Badd ohhh um we juss like met nd allat but I quess if only I do it once ;; cuss I needa qet to kno yu more nd I havent done dat in madd lonq so Id like to keep it dat way 1:19amTyTy Badd oh & um if we do start talkinq or w.e yu call it its natural for me to juss talk to only yu so I think it shud be vice versa Maybe it's me but if I caught my GF cheating on me, I leave. Immediately. No questions asked. I refuse to be betrayed and humiliated like that and expect everything will be okay. I refuse to pretend nothing happened. She obviously doesn't care or respect you. She doesn't sound loyal at all. You don't want a girl like this, trust me. It hurts, sorry for my sad feedback. whenever you have a chance please! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/454654-i-suspect-she-s-cheating 2 Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 (edited) Young Marr I want u to give me oral sex cause I know I could fick with you [*] 12:54am TyTy Badd ohhh um we juss like met nd allat but I quess if only I do it once ;; cuss I needa qet to kno yu more nd I havent done dat in madd lonq so Id like to keep it dat way [*] 1:19am TyTy Badd oh & um if we do start talkinq or w.e yu call it its natural for me to juss talk to only yu so I think it shud be vice versa He ask's your girlfriend for a "Blow Job" she doesn't go ape sh*t on him but replies with "I guess if only I do it once because I need to get to know you more because I haven't done that in a month long", she says this to him at 1:19 A.M. in the morning. Than she says if we do start up we need to keep this between you and I, don't tell my boyfriend (if we do start talking or what ever you call it)is the way I read it. I think he is saying in the same line that he already knows he can f**k her but just wants a B/J. She sounds like a keeper. They have been seeing each other for some time because what scum bag ask's someone he just met for a blow job in writing? What kind of woman accepts, a dirty nasty one because she has a long term boyfriend. Run friend, dodge the bullet. Edited January 11, 2014 by aliveagain 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Aquanut Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 She sounds like a piece of trash. Move on. You don't need to be with someone like this. Link to post Share on other sites
fixing Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 She is a dirty little hoe. Copy and paste that whole transcript and send it to her facebook, or even better, post it on your wall and tag her and him in it. Let everyone know she's a cheater and then no contact obviously. You cant go back to her, not after all she has done to you. Its over. Link to post Share on other sites
Aquanut Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 I wouldn't post it on her wall. Revenge is a loser's game. She's not your wife. You don't owe her anything. Tell her you're moving on. If she asks for an explanation and you feel like giving her one go ahead and tell her it's because she's a cheater. She may say she isn't. Don't even play her game. Just say goodbye, move on, and leave her to her miserable life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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