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Mrlonelyone

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I am so happy to not have to worry about Valentines day. Last year I was elated to have someone to give a gift to. I felt great to give a gift and have it received and reciprocated.

 

Now I am almost equally happy to no have to worry about any of that. If I had anyone special in my life, especially my last EX at this point I would have to come up with something. We would've been over a year now. I can just sit back relax and let other people sweat that out. :cool:

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Philosoraptor

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I have someone, but it's no worry. Just another fun day but with chocolates and hearts.

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Valentine's Day isn't something I ever sweat, in a relationship or not.

 

It's normally fun and something fun to put some thought into for me, but not at all something I sweat or worry about.

 

When I'm in a relationship it's fun and something to look forward to and a chance to do something cute or special with/for my SO and when I'm single I turn that love on to my friends and family and maybe do something cute for them or it passes by without fanfare.

 

If it's something stressful maybe one needs to reassess.

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If it's something stressful maybe one needs to reassess.

 

Oh it is stressful for a great many people. Before last year TBH I was really distressed that it had been so very long since I was last in a position of having a relatively solid situation to give a gift in.

 

Now after that I feel satisfied in a way that makes me not even care about this valentines day.

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Valentines day has never been about stress. Some years we even miss it. Usually we go out for dinner AFTER when it is less busy and buy the on sale valentines items. Lol. Only one year when I was single did it make me sad. And that was the year I was the only single person I was hanging out with. And all the couples had a couples party-ouch.

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Valentines day is not so important to me. I'd rather have my SO show me random acts of kindness vs a gift for valentines day.

 

But im not a fan of flowers you can't plant

And I don't wear much jewelry

And I dislike chocolate

 

Backrubs are free and I'll take them over material things any day of the week :)

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Valentines day has never been about stress. Some years we even miss it. Usually we go out for dinner AFTER when it is less busy and buy the on sale valentines items. Lol. Only one year when I was single did it make me sad. And that was the year I was the only single person I was hanging out with. And all the couples had a couples party-ouch.

 

 

Yeah it's not the actual acts of coming up with something that made me stressed it was feeling like I was missing something and being left out.

 

Now, I just don't feel that at all.

 

Don't get me wrong. It would be nice to have a steady real relationship in which to celebrate love and togetherness but not having one on a day chosen to sell cards and candy doesn't bother me anymore.

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I'm happy. Happy if it's Valentines Day, happy if it's not. The noise around it is just silly and best ignored :)

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I have to admit this one will be hard for me. It'll be the first time in 20 years I won't have someone to celebrate with. Last year my WH gave me some jewellery that symbolised eternal love, less than 3 months later he walked out. Ironic, huh?

 

I need to figure something to do on Valentine's night...distraction is good, right?

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I have to admit this one will be hard for me. It'll be the first time in 20 years I won't have someone to celebrate with. Last year my WH gave me some jewellery that symbolised eternal love, less than 3 months later he walked out. Ironic, huh?

 

I need to figure something to do on Valentine's night...distraction is good, right?

 

*hugs*

 

being busy is a good idea but avoid resteraunts that probably won't help? Could you even take a girl trip with a friend?

 

Btw valentines wasn't created to sell cards. Commercialism is what we did to it and everything.

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I have to admit this one will be hard for me. It'll be the first time in 20 years I won't have someone to celebrate with. Last year my WH gave me some jewellery that symbolised eternal love, less than 3 months later he walked out. Ironic, huh?

 

I need to figure something to do on Valentine's night...distraction is good, right?

 

 

 

That is just awful. Perhaps you can spend that day with family or single friends?

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I love Valentine's Day. Making my sweetie a special ice heart filled with treats. Later will give him a real special treat.

 

We are going out the night after at our favourite restaurant...'our place' for dinner and dancing. I like getting all dressed up.

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Oh it is stressful for a great many people. Before last year TBH I was really distressed that it had been so very long since I was last in a position of having a relatively solid situation to give a gift in.

 

Now after that I feel satisfied in a way that makes me not even care about this valentines day.

 

I don't think there is any sense in getting worked up over it and if people are they really need to relax and think about it differently, as it really isn't that serious so they're causing themselves distress for no reason.

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This year is going to be fully amazing, seeing my all-time favourite band at a huge venue for the tenth time with my other single friend, we are going to have an absolute blast :D

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I've never found VDay to be stressful - it's really straightforward for us. We pretty much already know what each of us is going to get (with minor variations). :laugh:

 

Birthdays on the other hand... :p

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Mrlonelyone

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It seems to me that the pattern is that.

 

 

People in stable long term marriage type relationships don't think it's stressful. Either they are married to someone they know doesn't care or they both know what they want. No risk of rejection, no magnified feelings of loneliness.

 

 

While those who are single especially if it's not mostly by choice feel it differently. You know.

 

 

For me if I were to either start dating someone totally new, or reconcile with an ex in the next few weeks I'd need to come up with something. VS giving a gift to a wife of X number of years...I see why married people find it less of a big deal.

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Yup

 

I can do whatever I want :D .Though didn't do much for Valentine's before. Didn't really force it much and didn't want anything but his love.

 

Going to be funny this year though she's high maintenance and a girly girl (chick flicks, shopping with bfs, hours getting ready) not like me. Just going to be amusing.

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I am wearing all black on Valentine's Day. Black suit, black shirt, black tie, black shoes, black hat. I'm seeing if I can get some inexpensive black tinted roses to distribute.

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I am wearing all black on Valentine's Day. Black suit, black shirt, black tie, black shoes, black hat. I'm seeing if I can get some inexpensive black tinted roses to distribute.

Don't forget black lipstick and black nail polish to complete the Marilynn Manson look.

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Its never really worried me one way or the other.

 

 

....Until reading this thread title and suddenly thinking that it was the 14th of this month! :eek: I was like s--t haven't even got a card! :laugh:

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OP, your LTR speculation thing is probably true. It has never been a 'bad' type of stress (like work stress etc) for me though, not even in the early stages of dating. More of a fun type of stress with a bit of uncertainty, like sleeping together for the first time.

 

Its never really worried me one way or the other.

 

 

....Until reading this thread title and suddenly thinking that it was the 14th of this month! :eek: I was like s--t haven't even got a card! :laugh:

 

:lmao::lmao: Good news is you can buy flowers on that day itself and if you work in an office you are likely to get plenty of reminders!

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I got so worked up about that, last year, that I am more than happy to not have to worry about it and actually enjoy not having any plans or prospects in view! Really fine, more than fine!

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OP, your LTR speculation thing is probably true. It has never been a 'bad' type of stress (like work stress etc) for me though, not even in the early stages of dating. More of a fun type of stress with a bit of uncertainty, like sleeping together for the first time.

 

 

 

:lmao::lmao: Good news is you can buy flowers on that day itself and if you work in an office you are likely to get plenty of reminders!

 

I'm glad that you at least had good experiences with that. For me it has been filled with anxiety until now.

 

 

I got so worked up about that, last year, that I am more than happy to not have to worry about it and actually enjoy not having any plans or prospects in view! Really fine, more than fine!

 

So you know what I mean. Who wants to worry about

 

Do I just get a card?

Do I send flowers, how many, what kind?

Is it too soon to give anything?

Do we try to spend the day together?

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etc.

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