trying to move on

[xftin]

I met a girl this summer at a music festival we were both involved in. We started talking a lot and spending a lot of time together and really hit it off well. I'd never met someone whom I had so much in common with and connected with so well. The second and final week of the festival I asked her out and she said yes. We were both really in love with each other.

 

The hardest part of the relationship was the fact that she lived an hour and a half drive from me and went to school an hour's drive from where I lived. Our schedules also managed to conflict precisely and completely. After not seeing each other for five weeks, we were finally able to meet for about 4 hours in San Francisco, where she had an orchestra rehearsal. We were both really happy to see each other. Three days later, she broke up with me over the phone, saying that she felt that her life right now couldn't handle this kind of relationship. She said she wasn't breaking up because she didn't love me anymore but because she felt that right now there were some things that she felt that I wouldn't understand about her and a side to her that she thought I may not like as much. I felt like I hadn't been given a chance to see this "other side," so how could I know if I would like it or not?

 

A week after breaking up with me, she sent me an email saying that there would probably be other guys in her life, but that they wouldn't have the same status as I did. This happened back in October. In December, a close friend and I noticed that both of us had feelings for each other and we started dating. When my ex found out about this, she sent me an email saying that she still wasn't over me and wished more than anything that we could be together but knew that we couldn't because of our lives. I wasn't really sure about how to respond to this - I had been trying to get over her for a while and thought that I had finally started moving on. My friend that I was currently dating and I discovered a few weeks into the relationship that it was doing something negative to our friendship, so we stopped dating. Now I've found out that my ex is going out with a guy she met at a dance, and I'm realizing that I'm not over her.

 

I still love her deeply. She was like my soulmate. I want to get over her. I need to move on. I just don't know how. I was in love with this girl for two months. She broke my heart, and now it's taking me longer than the time we were together to get over her.

[angelstar]

It sounds very romantic your story. Write her a letter and tell her everything. Lay your heart on your sleeve and tell her you want to have a relationship with her. See how you go with that. Theres abviously some sort of connection with you two. The universe keeps bringing you both together. And it sounds mutual!

 

If it doesnt work in your favour then please read NO CONTACT article on this site to get over her. Don't keep putting yourself through the mill. If she doesnt wear her heart on a sleeve for you then there's no point.

 

The world is a big place with millions of beautiful people out there. I also believe you have more than one soul mate. People come into your life for different reasons and at different stages of your life.

 

Hope all goes ok for u. have a good weekend

angelstar