MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 Well my ex dumped me four months ago, I thought we were invincible, unstoppable just like yourselfs. I fought for her and made myself look weak. None of it mattered because her mind was made up, she filled my head with excuses. She posted on Twitter in November how she misses me and that I would of been the perfect boyfriend. She makes me out in a bad light but still hasn't said one good reason why she dumped me! So four months on I haven't contacted her since but I've been following her Twitter everyday. Yeah some might say that's not a good idea but I'm not a distraction seeker, I'm a truth seeker. It's helped me move on so much knowing how she's changed for the worst. She started smoking, drinking, eating crap, whoring herself out, swearing like a sailor. She completely changed into someone I hate. She's not my girl anymore. It's good to know I don't have to pine over her because she doesn't exist anymore, she died a long time ago in my head. Four months I was holding onto hope that we'd reconcile but she slept with someone esle and that proves I meant NOTHING to her. She hasn't contacted me since, she just doesn't care at all. She posted on her Facebook at new yaars how she's got rid of people that dragged her down. What a joke, a waste of eight years. How dare she. I'm done with her for good. I'm so drunk right now but I don't care just venting. I hate you so much and just **** off and die, you almost destroyed me with the love I had for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 I see the anger phase has kicked in. Sounds like your ex went crazy after the breakup... Now, I have a question. How do you know she had sex with someone? Is it because of the stuff she's posted online? If so, that's really immature of her to be posting all that crap online... Anyway, I'm sending you a hug, OP!! 8 years is a long time!! Link to post Share on other sites
Debanked Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 Decent typing for being drunk. You Brits are so polite! ;-) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 Well my ex dumped me four months ago, I thought we were invincible, unstoppable just like yourselfs. I fought for her and made myself look weak. None of it mattered because her mind was made up, she filled my head with excuses. She posted on Twitter in November how she misses me and that I would of been the perfect boyfriend. She makes me out in a bad light but still hasn't said one good reason why she dumped me! So four months on I haven't contacted her since but I've been following her Twitter everyday. Yeah some might say that's not a good idea but I'm not a distraction seeker, I'm a truth seeker. It's helped me move on so much knowing how she's changed for the worst. She started smoking, drinking, eating crap, whoring herself out, swearing like a sailor. She completely changed into someone I hate. She's not my girl anymore. It's good to know I don't have to pine over her because she doesn't exist anymore, she died a long time ago in my head. Four months I was holding onto hope that we'd reconcile but she slept with someone esle and that proves I meant NOTHING to her. She hasn't contacted me since, she just doesn't care at all. She posted on her Facebook at new yaars how she's got rid of people that dragged her down. What a joke, a waste of eight years. How dare she. I'm done with her for good. I'm so drunk right now but I don't care just venting. I hate you so much and just **** off and die, you almost destroyed me with the love I had for you. I do not see a man who is over his break up. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Quit looking at her Twitter. Also, she's single, she's allowed to sleep with whomever she wants. Every reason is a good reason to dump someone. She's not obliged to give you one. She wanted out, she left, and from what I can understand, has not breadcrumbed you once. If only more exes showed that kind of restraint. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 So four months on I haven't contacted her since but I've been following her Twitter everyday. Yeah some might say that's not a good idea but I'm not a distraction seeker, I'm a truth seeker. It's helped me move on so much knowing how she's changed for the worst. She started smoking, drinking, eating crap, whoring herself out, swearing like a sailor. She completely changed into someone I hate. She's not my girl anymore. It's good to know I don't have to pine over her because she doesn't exist anymore, she died a long time ago in my head. You are moving on, so that is a good thing. I will say though, following twitter might show you some truths and help you move on, but just be careful not to do it for too long, it can add fuel to the fire at stages where you would otherwise would be forgetting. My ex, I was with them for 7 years, had a whole host of negative attributes that helped me get rid of the attraction, but dwelling on those things just kept me hung up on the whole situation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
margot13 Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 Try not to take her behaviour personally. Sometimes people need to convince themselves they made the right decision. I've done a lot of stupid things that to be honest had nothing to do with my ex-boyfirend but more my own c**p And you have definitely have hit ANGER PHASE!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trapito Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 I had an ex who did an 180 on me after the break up. He changed into a party-whore and started dating like a prostitute. Two months after the break up he met his rebound, they plastered how 'sexual compatible' and how they 'missed each other' all over his FB wall. That wonderful happy relationship ended as fast as it started though.. It hurted like hell, but it kicked me in the angry phase (you will enjoy this much better than the denial phase). Hang in there! ((Hugs)) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) Ugh, this thread was embarrassing, sorry. I see the anger phase has kicked in. Sounds like your ex went crazy after the breakup... Now, I have a question. How do you know she had sex with someone? Is it because of the stuff she's posted online? If so, that's really immature of her to be posting all that crap online... Anyway, I'm sending you a hug, OP!! 8 years is a long time!! I think it kicked in about November. She started going crazy when she got new friends that are a bad influence. I know she's had sex with someone because she posts everything on her Twitter. I chose to continue reading it fully aware it was hurting me but it helped me move into anger phase. It's much easier than remembering her for the sweet lovely girl she was. The worst thing is she knows I read her Twitter, as I told her this was one of the reasons I became distant. It was hard seeing her out acting like a single person whilst we were together. The break-up was inevitable with her new unhealthy lifestyle choice. When we were in the closure phase I asked to please not post anything like that on her Twitter because I'll read it and I don't know what it will do to me. Well clearly she must get a kick out of it. She was always posting how much she wants to get laid, now she's posting she isn't getting laid enough. She puts me in a bad light on there but still without a reason, just that I said some douchey things. Who doesn't. She posted in November how I would of been perfect for her and she misses me but she had a dream and I hadn't changed so she broke it off for good. She's crazy. Decent typing for being drunk. You Brits are so polite! ;-) Haha thanks! Learning to touch type pays. I do not see a man who is over his break up. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Quit looking at her Twitter. Also, she's single, she's allowed to sleep with whomever she wants. Every reason is a good reason to dump someone. She's not obliged to give you one. She wanted out, she left, and from what I can understand, has not breadcrumbed you once. If only more exes showed that kind of restraint. Yep I'm not over the break-up yet. Looking at her Twitter is great, every time she posts I become less attracted to her. Yes she is allowed to sleep with whoever she wants because she doesn't care about us any more, well done to her but that's not moving on like she thinks. I think sleeping around like that is empty and low-calibre. She is getting desperate to find a new BF and she thinks having sex with men will make them fall in love with her. She doesn't have the patience or the confidence to be single. So I could dump my girlfriend for forgetting to take the trash out? She's not obliged to give me one just like I'm not obliged to say thank you when ordering a sandwhich but it's nice to know people care, especially those who you thought were closest to you. It's not restraint, she just doesn't care at all. She'll never breadcrumb me because she's stubborn and knows it will give me an ego boost. She's most likely on strict NC herself. It's hard for me to be NC but for her it's easy as pie because she doesn't care about me at all, her actions show it. There is no restraint. You are moving on, so that is a good thing. I will say though, following twitter might show you some truths and help you move on, but just be careful not to do it for too long, it can add fuel to the fire at stages where you would otherwise would be forgetting. My ex, I was with them for 7 years, had a whole host of negative attributes that helped me get rid of the attraction, but dwelling on those things just kept me hung up on the whole situation. Thanks I'm getting bored of reading it now, it's like reading the mind of a 14 year old. I hope I can move on fully soon. Try not to take her behaviour personally. Sometimes people need to convince themselves they made the right decision. I've done a lot of stupid things that to be honest had nothing to do with my ex-boyfirend but more my own c**p And you have definitely have hit ANGER PHASE!!!! Her behaviour is a regression of self destruct, she knew I wouldn't go down that route with her. I'm not taking anything personally just venting from a now outside view after she dumped me out her life. It's still saddening to see what she's become, which started before she dumped me. I call her the chameleon girlfriend - she has just regressed back to her true colours. Haha yep it fluctuates with high spikes, last night was a spike. Sometimes it's calm. I had an ex who did an 180 on me after the break up. He changed into a party-whore and started dating like a prostitute. Two months after the break up he met his rebound, they plastered how 'sexual compatible' and how they 'missed each other' all over his FB wall. That wonderful happy relationship ended as fast as it started though.. It hurted like hell, but it kicked me in the angry phase (you will enjoy this much better than the denial phase). Hang in there! ((Hugs)) Did he ever return to his old self? Sounds like an extended fling he had, nothing more than sex. Yeah the anger phase is much easier, I'd rather call this the blinders off phase. Edited January 13, 2014 by MoooOinkBaaa Link to post Share on other sites
Trapito Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 I don't for sure. He stopped dating around, started sending me breadcrumbs. I didn't really react, because by then I was in the angry phase and didn't react at anything. He got a new gf and felt the need to walk by my apartment. We lived in the sma building, on the same floor but on the opposite sides, thus with opposite entries. Yet he felt the need to take the entrance at my side of the building, walking slooowly and very happy and laughing in front of my apartment (where he knew I could hear them). He did a lot of other stuff to get my reaction, I never flinched. **** him, he doesn't deserve a reaction. He send me a couple of fb request, I didn't deny or accept. He took the request down both times. Ex's are weird. Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Seeing my ex's online activities also has helped me move on too. It's so pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
sw2020 Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 A Yorkshireman being called polite, whatever next. ;-) I'd defo cut the Twitter stalking. Especially if she knows you're reading it. Now you know what she's like, get focus back on you. Let her be a whore or whatever she wants. Likelihood is she will be a mess long term. She'll probably come running back once she sees you're moving. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Stop reading her twitter and driving yourself crazy. You call it moving on but you were hoping for reconciliation but it was never going to happen. She's moved on. Time for you to move on as well Link to post Share on other sites
Author MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 15, 2014 Author Share Posted January 15, 2014 I can't stop reading it, it's top quality comedy! Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I can't stop reading it, it's top quality comedy! Keep telling yourself that. You're only over it when you stop looking and don't want to look at it. You're not fooling anyone! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 15, 2014 Author Share Posted January 15, 2014 I don't want to look at it but it's like you have to look cause it's so bad. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I don't want to look at it but it's like you have to look cause it's so bad. Nope, you're looking at it because you aren't over her. If you were, you wouldn't want to know anything about them, you'd just want to shut the door on the past. If you want to stop, stop now. 24 hours, no looking at her Twitter. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 15, 2014 Author Share Posted January 15, 2014 I guess you're right maybe I'm over it consciously but no subconsciously? I dunno though cause I seriously don't want to go back, it would just be really weird and my feelings for her have gone. I used to see couples out and about and get sad but now when I see them I just think damn glad I'm not in a relationship. I'm seriously happier now outside the relationship. I don't dream about her either which is a huge sign. Honestly the way I check her Twitter now is totally different than when I wasn't over her. But you're right I'm still looking which means I'm still involving myself. I guess I'm 90% over her. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I will feel more confident that you're over here once you've stopped looking at the Twitter account and have no desire to look at it. Link to post Share on other sites
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