Mtb123 Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 First post Postby Mtb » Sat Jan 11, 2014 8:28 pm First let me say this is a great site with ton of info. Question Okay let me set the stage been married for 5 years I'm 36 wife is 35. We have no kids together but I do have a daughter (14) and a son (13) from a previous marriage. My wife has twins a boy and a girl age 15. Her kids live with us. My marriage is a roller coaster! I'm thinking hard about divorce. Here's why. My wife constantly threatens me with divorce. If I had to put a number on it I would say over 5 times a year she threatens me with this. The funny thing is it seems to happen only when my kids are around? Also there has been times my kids have been over and my wife doesn't say anything to them. Not often but there have been a few times. My wife has no relationship with my side of my family my mom , dad etc... My mom gets my wife and her kids presents for Xmas and there's not even a thank you call. With that said it wasn't like this in the beginning. Here is the kicker that is pushing me towards divorce. My wife has not been to one of my sons baseball games in 4 years. Ok no big deal to me but she has recently started trying to give me static about going and spending all day at the park because they sometimes play 2-3 games. And I get the " we never spend time together crap". I now don't enjoy myself at the park because I know when I get home it will be a mess. So long story short is I'm not happy. She threatens me. She has no relationship with my family. Is this enough for divorce? Or should I hang around and try. Any advice would help I know it's my decision. Link to post Share on other sites
imtooconfused Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 A common theme that I see in just about all second marriages is that the husband's kids get the shaft and the wife's kids get all the attention. I know there will be people who know of exceptions, but I have never personally met one. I cannot explain why that is, but if you are going into a second marriage, be on the lookout for this behavior early, rather than later in the marriage. Having said that... I don't think this is necessarily irreconcilable, as long as both sides are willing to work on the differences. All marriages face challenges as the kids enter the soccer/baseball/dance seasons, and second marriages are no different. There is only so much time in the day and our kids take up almost all of it. Are these challenges something the couple is willing to work on/around? Or not? It seems in your case, your wife chooses to make it a point of conflict, exacerbating the marital problems. With that said it wasn't like this in the beginning. Do you have any idea when or why her attitude changed? If you understand why she was accepting previously and is combative now will be helpful in resolving the conflict. Link to post Share on other sites
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