nicepuzzle Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 He never answered any questions or gave explanations. HHowever he did gave that to my friends so I can know indirectly. Do you know why would he do that? He wouldn't tell me anything about his wife or his A rumors. Link to post Share on other sites
blue963 Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 I know you are in this mode of questioning yourself...what did you do and why would he do that. Im sorry your in this position. Just know that he is the one who is making things difficult by not acting like an adult and playing games giving you information thru others. Unfortunately, I dont think he knows how to act like an adult and treat someone well. (from what you have shared with us). Be glad you are not his wife....i am sure she puts up with alot! Link to post Share on other sites
Author nicepuzzle Posted January 14, 2014 Author Share Posted January 14, 2014 Thanks blue. I dont know when its going to end? I just want to forget it all but goes through so much of high and lows and whys. I ended it and am glad I did but deep inside I miss him and something tells me that he did love me, I dont know how though... but its a feeling. I feel guilty that I broke up and didnt continue on his terms but it was very painful and it is painful now... I specally feel bad that I had successfuly made him my friend seeing him on occasions and proudly faced him dignified way but it became worst the second time. The whole relationship with wife was fake. he was playing emotions right in front of her and she was behaving nice thinking I am his and his family friend. You wont believe that I babysat his kids while they went to party still stayed for him when he wanted to see me. Link to post Share on other sites
blue963 Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 I have realized that the things/events that have brought me the most pain are the ones that I let myself down, let myself be taken advantage of. Could this possibly be what is bothering you must, that you allowed him to treat you this way? Not trying to be hurtful in any way. Just trying to help with what I have observed in myself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nicepuzzle Posted January 14, 2014 Author Share Posted January 14, 2014 He never answered any questions or gave explanations. HHowever he did gave that to my friends so I can know indirectly. Do you know why would he do that? He wouldn't tell me anything about his wife or his A rumors. YOu are not hurtful but true. I do feel bad more about letting him do that to me, not becasue I want him or love him. He was an expert player I was just another A partner for him. He felt guilt for his family, regardless what his wife did to him and OW didnt mean anyhting to him. They were just helpers to make him guilt so he could go back to his family. I hate the fact, I let him use me, knowing that he was using me. Let myself go emotionally crazy and giving myself in entirety on the level of being a doormat... I always carried myself with dignity but he made me come to his level by making me feel bad for his life. All his stories and sadness was to get a spot of sympathy in my heart. Someone said in a post, which is true, some men like to have passionate and emotional sex and he targetted women emotionally and felt control over them like that. Most bad I feel is that second time round I had to cut off with his family who genuily cared about me... Now I have lost all his family too. But if I didnt tell his wife i was going to see him in future again and again and I would have never recover and he would have always given me less than breadcrumbs, enough to keep me there. He got soemthing from me that he didnt get from his other A partner and it was all about getting for him. I turned up into a needy emotionally weak, insecure women and I wasnt liek that EVER. I hate him for taking my heart by manipulations and lying and thats what I feel bad about. Link to post Share on other sites
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