sugarpea Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 So first off really strange behaviour. Still not sure why it happened. So been a year since BU and I'm fine with it, had however contacted him late 2013 for photos - graduation stuff. Not important anymore didn't want them anymore. Anyway we were emailing about it he wanted to send them electronically, then said the website wasn't working. Then he said I should bring over a drive instead. I said its fine, it doesn't matter, I don't want them, thanks for trying (keeping it as short as possible) - apparently way he wants to be treated since his responses are short with me. He sends email suggesting that I send a stick if I don't want to see him. I said honestly doesn't matter. He said sorry you feel this way, but they're here if you need them. Then he randomly calls me about it and tries to convince me to take the photos now (why does he think I want to hear him if I don't want to see him?). He isn't going to delete them he's not that sort of person but not too sure why he is so adamant about me taking them now. Anyway I answered, was just friendly. We talked normally about family, xmas new years, I asked him bout xmas (I know tricky subject seeing as I know he went to see the new girl) anyway.. he avoided talking about her but mentioned the place he went to was expensive then said oh the next girlfriend will not be from somewhere so expensive. I mean why would you say something like that if you are in love with your current gf? It's as if he's already put an expiry date on it. I mean I'm not bothered by it, just confused about the whole thing and well his reactions. Why does it matter that i get the photos now? I'm still in touch with his family. Not like I can't get them at a later stage. (Is it just that he misses me and wants to see me? Is this why he called?) and why even say that line 'next girlfriend', what is that supposed to mean? was he trying to get an emotional response out of me by indirectly telling me he has a gf? Cause I really don't care. He died a long time a go, I grieved and I'm over it. Would like to however make some sense of this, not that it matters too much but insight would be good should someone else do this in future. Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 It just sounds like a throwaway joke people make all the time. Like people who are married will joke about how their next husband won't get away with this crap or whatever. You're just reading a lot into it because of your feelings. I don't think you should read too much into his actions and start thinking he misses you or wants to talk to you. If he really did, you'd know it, you wouldn't be second guessing it based on a few vague things. He's in a new relationship. Even if he did miss you, what would that matter? He isn't with you or making steps to be with you so I wouldn't waste any more time overanalysing it all Link to post Share on other sites
Author sugarpea Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 Thanks Yeah not going to do anything about it and I tend to over think things a lot, still in NC mode. Just do not understand why he wants me to take the photos (unless he really plans to delete them which would hurt since I know he kept his ex's photos before me and I was cool with it). Here I go again. Yes just stop thinking Link to post Share on other sites
Author sugarpea Posted January 14, 2014 Author Share Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) He contacted me ... so no contact? This is the right move right? I mean the guy has a gf, why would he think we could be friends at all, after the way he hurt me? Edited January 14, 2014 by sugarpea Link to post Share on other sites
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