Do exes ever come back? If they do, how long would it take?

[margot13]

I didn't get even a fraction of a breadcrumb at the 6 month mark...guess my dumper has no conscience!

 

 

I know it feels terrible, but maybe he does it out of respect. I just got a breadcrumb and believe me it hurts more than if he had of left me alone. If what you got out of your heartbreak was respect from him by not making it harder on you, then that is a good thing.

[David87]

I know it feels terrible, but maybe he does it out of respect. I just got a breadcrumb and believe me it hurts more than if he had of left me alone. If what you got out of your heartbreak was respect from him by not making it harder on you, then that is a good thing.

 

With all do respect Margot13, I don't think the ex ignores you aut of respect, it doesn't sound righ to me. In my case the ex has a new boyfriend that's why I don't get bread crumbs, like i sayd in other posts she doesn't give a f about me.

[2fargone]

With all do respect Margot13, I don't think the ex ignores you aut of respect, it doesn't sound righ to me. In my case the ex has a new boyfriend that's why I don't get bread crumbs, like i sayd in other posts she doesn't give a f about me.

 

 

 

Fair enough that it doesnt sound right to you. That makes it your opinion. Yet, thinking for someone else, concluding their reasoning and thoughts/feelings based on no fact at all, to me is one of the reasons why people don't get back together.

 

 

Think about that for a bit.

[Fufu]

Even if they come back, that doesn't mean they want to have a relationship.

 

and coming back can have tons of reasons... so why bother too much about someone who chose to exit from your life.

 

Move on, focus on yourself.

[jphcbpa]

You must proceed as if you will never see them again. False hope is going to trip you up and slow the recovery.

 

NC will give you the clarity to start asking yourself questions like, "why did I put up with borderline unacceptable behavior for so long?, would I really want them back?"

 

Make serenity your # 1 priority!

[margot13]

With all do respect Margot13, I don't think the ex ignores you aut of respect, it doesn't sound righ to me. In my case the ex has a new boyfriend that's why I don't get bread crumbs, like i sayd in other posts she doesn't give a f about me.

 

 

I don't say that it is definite, just trying to give another view on it... Sometimes it's nice not to think the worst... I am sure everyones situation is different but maybe there is another way of looking at it which is kinder to how you think of yourself.... Just trying to help....

[margot13]

Oh and David87, you should believe you are worth more and respected despite how or what she is doing :-)

[singme2sleep]

I don't say that it is definite, just trying to give another view on it... Sometimes it's nice not to think the worst... I am sure everyones situation is different but maybe there is another way of looking at it which is kinder to how you think of yourself.... Just trying to help....

 

You make a good point. But as dumpers we take silence as a louder response than them saying anything to us. Every situation is different and only you know your ex and what they could be thinking. When they rebound quickly we take it personal, assuming we're already forgotten. I've been the dumper once in a relationship and I still think about him years later. As the dumpee he did reach out to me 5 months after we broke up. So like others are saying it does happen.

[Mrlonelyone]

People have gotten back with exes where 10 or 20 years had passed. Then got married to that ex and been married to them for 10 or 20 years... So, sometimes they do come back, and sometimes it does work out. Sometimes it's the right people but the wrong time.

 

 

Let me ask you this. Why did the relationship end and has that condition changed? If it was cheating or infidelity or some such then you don't want the ex back. If it was immaturity, or moving for a job, or something external to the relationship.... then you can probably try again.