7on Posted January 10, 2005 Share Posted January 10, 2005 I got this call from this guy, who asked if I could take a message for my parents. I said sure. He said that my dad was having an affair with his wife. And then he told me to have one of my parents call him as soon as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted January 11, 2005 Share Posted January 11, 2005 is there a chance someone's trying to frick with your family? did he leave a name and number for verification? how are you doing, having heard this accusation? Link to post Share on other sites
Artifact Posted January 11, 2005 Share Posted January 11, 2005 I wish I knew what to tell you! Are you close to your parents? Do you think you could even relay the message to your dad? Link to post Share on other sites
Dakini Posted January 11, 2005 Share Posted January 11, 2005 (((7on))) I'm so sorry to hear this! First, do you know the person who left the message? Do you know his name? If not, did the man leave a number? If he did, you can do a reverse search of his number. However, since you are minor (I think?) and since you are merely the messenger, I would tell your father ASAP. Whether this is a cruel joke or the real thing, I believe that your parents should be the ones to handle this situation. You have been selfishly and involuntarily involved in a situation (that if true) you should in NO UNEQUIVOCAL WAY be party to. Pass the message onto your father ASAP. After you have done this, try and disengage yourself from the situation as much as possible. Remember, this is NOT your responsibility. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 7on Posted January 11, 2005 Author Share Posted January 11, 2005 Yeah, my mom and dad came home and I said wrote down some messages. They asked what they were about and I lied and said "I don't know." My dad is trying to play it off as identity theft and that the woman is crazy. But it's obviously a lie, because I remember in Jr. High when it was starting and he a personal ad up on Yahoo and talked frequently on yahoo messenger, but always minimized it when I'd walk in. Then later he'd get calls and walk outside. So yeah, don't know if my mom will buy it, but I'm 19 and in college and was already planning on getting a place this summer of my own so doesn't affect me much only that it's hurting my mom. My sister, however, is only 16 so it'll hurt her the most if something like a split or divorce happens. So be praying for my parents. The husband on the other side of this found a letter to my dad from his wife saying that "she thought about him all the time" or something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 7on Posted January 11, 2005 Author Share Posted January 11, 2005 So yeah, just held my mom and cryed with her. She said dad had something to tell us kids later tonight. And my mom wasn't wearing her wedding ring. Link to post Share on other sites
Soon2bsngl Posted January 11, 2005 Share Posted January 11, 2005 This must be awful for you. Not a very tactful way for this guy to spill the beans. He is obviously angry but he could have gone about it differently. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 This is horrible! Be very supportive of your mom....sounds like you have. Has she asked you if you've seen anything suspicious? Link to post Share on other sites
lostgirl26 Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 7on, That really sucks! I cannot even imagine if I had to go through something like that. I sort of did with an exbf but that was a little different situation. You are doing a really good job in supporting your mom, she really needs it now and will for a while down the road. Your poor sister, being that age and trying to sort out what has happened is really tough. I wish you and your family the best please keep us updated as we will be here to hear you out. Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 7on, please give us an update. I'm so sorry that you were involved in this. I know you're 19, but the man who called should know better than to involve a child in their parent's marital problems. Llama is thinking of you Link to post Share on other sites
Author 7on Posted January 13, 2005 Author Share Posted January 13, 2005 Well, my mom has said she'll try and work it out. I just can't forgive him. I don't know, he just seems like a dirty dirty man whenever I see him. Sometimes life just sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Remember what effect your dad's actions had on his wife and children...and vow to never do what he did. Learn from this- thats how you make a negative situation positive. Best of luck to your family, llama Link to post Share on other sites
lostgirl26 Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I agree with the llama. I would feel the same way you are feeling. Your mom is pretty brave to try and work it out, I think I would be gone. You and your sister are old enough to undertand what is going on and are young enough to bounce back from something like this. Hopefully all will work out in the end, and she will do whats best for herself and you guys. Keep us updated. Sidenote: Llama I always think of the movie "The Emperor's New Groove" when I see you post, makes me giggle Link to post Share on other sites
hugznkisses21 Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 My heart goes out to you and ur mom. I have been though this ...my mom cheated on my dad. It is very tough but u will get through it. The thing I always try to remember is my mother may not have been the best wife but she was an amazing mother to me and my brother and sister. Keep your head up and be there for your mom...u sound like a great son! Link to post Share on other sites
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