itsmylife Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Hi My husband is a hindu from Nepal and I'm a agnostic from Texas. Before we got married I had fears on how we were going to operate together being from two different cultures but instead it's actually worked for us. Everyday we have something new to teach each other because we come from separate worlds, last night for example...The Fresh Prince of Bellaire theme was stuck in my head and I made him listen to it. Some nights I'm cooking curry other nights it's a sweet southern meal. My family was very negative about our marriage and still is because he is foreign, I think a lot of people are quick to judge those from other "worlds". On the other hand some people in my life are very interested in our marriage and all the new things I have learned from him. It takes mutual interest in each others cultures to make it a match but I love his cultures traditions because they have made him such a good and honest man. Has anyone else married or been in a serious relationship with a foreigner? What was/is your experience like? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Col1 Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 Congratulations! Sounds like you two are keeping your marriage strong by embracing your uniqueness. Link to post Share on other sites
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newmoon Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 (edited) Hi My husband is a hindu from Nepal and I'm a agnostic from Texas. Before we got married I had fears on how we were going to operate together being from two different cultures but instead it's actually worked for us. Everyday we have something new to teach each other because we come from separate worlds, last night for example...The Fresh Prince of Bellaire theme was stuck in my head and I made him listen to it. Some nights I'm cooking curry other nights it's a sweet southern meal. My family was very negative about our marriage and still is because he is foreign, I think a lot of people are quick to judge those from other "worlds". On the other hand some people in my life are very interested in our marriage and all the new things I have learned from him. It takes mutual interest in each others cultures to make it a match but I love his cultures traditions because they have made him such a good and honest man. Has anyone else married or been in a serious relationship with a foreigner? What was/is your experience like? I was in a serious relationship with a man from the middle east - I am your basic white woman from the US. he was catholic and not muslim, but the differences were enormous and, in the end, insurmountable. even though he felt he was 'progressive' he wasn't; he was deeply influenced by his culture and the belief that men are superior to women in every way, and whenever I stood up for myself, or disagreed, or got into a fight with him it was major. the communication was very hard, because - in general - he was completely unaware of the social influences from the US and I from his - like music, art, etc. the upbringing is just so different. he was 36 when he came over to the US and eventually did become a citizen of the US at age 44. he was in the middle east from age 0-36, which makes it worse, I think. if someone comes into another country at a younger age they can assimilate much better and (often) not hold such deeply rooted traditional values. so, if a middle eastern man was born of raised in the US from say age 5, I would expect them to be very different than the guy I was with. time in the original country/religion makes a huge difference in how someone acts. anyway, it would have never worked; I am not good at being subservient and that is what he basically wanted in a woman because of his culture and what he grew up seeing. middle eastern culture is also ok with having a 'main' female/wife and then mistresses or others on the side, so cheating became an issue at the end as well because to him it was perfectly acceptable to get your needs met from different women. now I only date white guys from the US; I'm not a fan of interracial dating/marriage for myself because of the difficulties. Edited February 17, 2014 by newmoon Link to post Share on other sites
peruano99 Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 @ Newmoon: I'm Peruvian American and I assimilated quickly to American culture so maybe it was just your H. Link to post Share on other sites
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