When Christian women aren't even "interested"

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Lately, though, this has been through online dating. My faith has been a lot stronger due to recent events in my life, and my aim at seeking someone Christian as well has grown stronger even more so.

 

But what I'm struggling with is how most interest, even from Christian women, has been unrequited. Esp. the local ladies. I live in a smaller area, rather rural, and I've seen a small handful of profiles of women saying they are looking for a Christian man in their lives, who is laid back, great sense of humor, etc.

 

Though, most of my emails have gone unreturned.

 

ONE did reply saying that she didn't think we'd make a good match. She was the Sarah Palin wanna-be I mentioned earlier in another post (not sure where that post is). Had quite a few "fire arm" poses in her profile. LOL Strong Libertarian. Probably why she wasn't afraid to be honest with me, but she never got into the particulars as to the "why" she thought we wouldn't make a good match.

 

I'm guessing, honestly, it's a physical thing.

 

Now, don't get me wrong, I like a nice looking woman, too, but my expectations in that department aren't as high as compared to the women who are seeking the Henry Cavill types.

 

I had one woman tell me she thought I looked older than my actual age, and she couldn't get past that. Said her ex-husband looked that way, too. So she put me in with her ex-husband.

 

Don't mean to be down on myself, and I suppose my recent post about hte "Wild Child" puts me in a struggle of whether dating someone who is Christian that is struggling with being so obsessed with looks.

 

But there's always those singles out there, sometimes never been married...Christians. One I recall, VERY attractive woman on POF....very well done professional photos of herself. She lives too far away from me of course, but she said she avoided doing ANY kind of dating or courtship with men in the past FIVE years. Mentioned she hasn't really met any men that's of any interest ot her or of her liking, at the gym, social events, volunteer activities, and of course ....church...., so she's been completely unattached, by choice, and turning DOWN men for those 5 years...and resorted to the online method. (Yes, kind of disturbing, because I see this woman has a lot going for her, very articulate, beautiful, and intelligent, and with a great career in the entertainment industry). Given her appearance and profession...just a guess...she could be one of those Spokespersons for a local car dealership or may even work as a news anchor....just a wild guess. lol Reason I say news anchor/reporter is because, at least where I live....a lot of them are Christian. They are very kind people, but their standards are kind of "Up there".

 

Now, what I just typed are basically "Cliff Notes" so excuse me if there seems to be holes here.

 

But I'm noticing a big co-mingling of secular/worldly influences directly affecting (or effecting?) peoples' dating choices.

 

Now, chances are, and I have heard people say this....that they've avoided singles groups at churches because...well, the people are sadly unattractive...to them (in their eyes). or "there is an older crowd there" or "some are socially inept"....so they jump onto online dating, or meeting in a non-Church environment.

 

Now, most of the women I had emailed recently, I would say are equal to me in physical appearances. I typically avoid highly attractive people most of the time, and go with what I find "cute" or "girl next door-ish", but I couple that with their personality and character. I do recognize some have their flaws, as do I. I'm bald and 5'8". An average Joe.

 

Of course, you'll know that there's always single people that have family members that feel that their daughter/son is aiming TOO high and try to mention, "Hey, there's a nice woman in our church you should try to talk to, he doesn't have GQ looks, but may be he's worth getting to know".

 

Now, I think I'm just rambling, but I Hope you get from this what I am meaning. BUt...there's the HUMAN factor/nature to consider, it's strong and sometimes worldly influences won't budge someone from their standards , even though those standards may be secular in nature.