spirius Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 Wow...checking this thread out before a first date was a mistake! Recently I've known women who clearly stated that her paying half was a feminist issue and was very clear that repeated offering to pay was going to cause offence. This was never going to work out because while I believe in equality between the sexes, I also like to treat the person I'm with and try to be a gentleman. I understand her viewpoint, but it was indicative of a fundamentally different approach to life. On the other hand, I recently new a girl who wouldn't even take out enough cash to get home from a night out. Bearing in mind the first lady, on dates since when the bill comes (invariably handed to me), I ask if she minds if I get it. I think a woman would be less inclined to say "Yes, you sexist pig...of course I mind. Here is half." unless she genuinely felt very strongly about it. I guess I like people to be prepared to pay their own way, but to be willing to accept being treated in good spirits. Going for a coffee then a film tomorrow. Will likely pay for the tickets in advance and offer to pay for the coffees. If she protests about the tickets and looks serious, probably say "how about you get the Cokes?" Guess it just depends who you are out with and reading the signs. If they are dishonest in their reactions, I don't really care how they feel about it...can only work with what is expressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 Wow, if the guy really lets me pay for the meal, I'd mark a huge NO across his face. If the guy asks a girl out, he has to be ready to pay for the whole date, although he may not have to. I know it sounds unfair, but if he doesn't it just seems like he's cheap. And a man's point of view: "Wow, if the girl doesn't let me have sex with her after I've paid her meal, I'd mark a huge NO across her face. If the guy asks a girl out, he expects from her to sleep with him, although she may not have to. I know it sounds selfish, but if she doesn't it just seems like she's not good for me." My point is, women can't have demands in favor of them and call men who have demands against them jerks... Link to post Share on other sites
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