Sharmaine Posted January 11, 2005 Share Posted January 11, 2005 I read somewhere that men love the 'thrill of the chase'. That is, the thrill of chasing of a woman. Once the woman shows an interest however, then the guy supposedly loses interest because he knows he has 'conquered' that woman........no need to go in for 'the kill'. What I'm curious about though is. Why would a man chase a woman, if he isn't interested in pursuing a woman, from start (the chase), to the end (the kill)? Why be happy with the 'conquering' alone? And why back off when the woman shows an interest? Hope this makes sense. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 11, 2005 Share Posted January 11, 2005 Originally posted by Sharmaine I read somewhere that men love the 'thrill of the chase'. That is, the thrill of chasing of a woman. Once the woman shows an interest however, then the guy supposedly loses interest because he knows he has 'conquered' that woman........ this makes TOTAL sense SHARMAINE. I have done this many times. But, you need to change it from "a woman showing interest" to "a woman having sex with the man" The thrill lies in courting a female who is playing hard to get and then eventually getting her in bed and then never calling her again afterwards. That is the thrill of the chase SHARMAINE. Knowing that a woman has given herself to you and you have had her in the biblical sense. Ahh...it is a superb hunt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sharmaine Posted January 11, 2005 Author Share Posted January 11, 2005 Thanks for that explanation AlphaMale. However, what about in the case where it's an ex chasing an ex girlfriend again and when she shows interest, he backs off? Does an ex perhaps go looking for assurances from his ex girlfriend that she'd take him back, because it gives him an ego boost in knowing he could have her if he wanted again? Does he chase his ex, perhaps with no intent of bedding her again at that time.........yet merely keep her on the sidelines incase there comes a day he wants too? Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted January 11, 2005 Share Posted January 11, 2005 I think both sexes do this at some point. A big part of it is excitement but I think what also happens is we meet someone, really like them, chase after them and as we spend more time and get to know the person things don't click and interest is lost. If someone is truely interested in a person they will want to be with them after the chase is over as well. Link to post Share on other sites
katie79 Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 First off, the lady who brings up the "thrill of the chase" and then the guy pulls the plug after she shows some interest is totally true. In fact, this just occured with me. Office flirting...which the guy seemed "hot on the trail" and even wanted to take me out (couldn't since I'm engaged and so is he), just suddenly decided to stop all means of contact with me. If we do see each other we're friendly of course, which I saw him at best as a platonic friend in the first place ( he was physically attracted to me though). But anyway, he was up my a$$ with coming by my desk to chat, telling me how "beautiful I am (blah, blah...), and sending numerous emails at at time all day, then in a period of one day, everything stopped. No sex or anything of the sort was involved ( I was not interested in him, even if I were single), and he just stopped pursuing entirely. And yes, before when I was single, I found men like this as well. They were hot on the trail, then one day, they just vanished. NO sex was involved, no fooling around, not even a kiss. Sometimes they came back around, but I was finished at that point. And to be completley honest, I maybe met one or two men who only wanted "sex" (at least from what I sensed). It seems most of them want a relationship. But, anyhow, men chase always, and run away before sex occurs. This is my experience Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Personally I hate the hunt. I just need to find a girl. And if they aren't interested, no use wasting more time on them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sharmaine Posted January 15, 2005 Author Share Posted January 15, 2005 Thanks for the replies everyone Katie, in my case, I was referring to an ex I had a relationship with for a few years, so there was sex involved obviously. He reappears after we've been apart for a few years, says all the right things, smooth talks in other words - I show a bit of interest, then wooosh, he seems to have disappeared. So it leaves me wondering, why did he decide to come seeking me out in the first place? I suspect he was after an 'ego boost' and he got that 'ego boost'? Or perhaps he came fishing to see if there was still interest on my part. Now he knows there is, he thinks he can come back as and when he pleases and I will be sat here waiting him.....like I always was in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
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