Gemmalouise14 Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Hi sorry if this doesn't make much sense my head is all over. Ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 14 years. I am nearly 30 and he is 33. His Mum and Dad always seem to tell him what to do etc, he suffers with epilepsy so his Mum goes to hospital visits with him and really doesn't let me go. They did control all his money until I was saying to him that he was getting ripped off then he decided to change it to his own account and he realised they were taking like £150 a week off him his Mum said to me he trusted her to give him the right amount. She has brought up randomly that he used to wee the bed as she thought he was having night terrors or the tree outside was scaring him, she has also said she couldnt get him much for xmas as they just couldnt afford it, she said he is a vegetarian because he would never eat meat as a baby. My boyfriend wont go out the house he stays in all the time. We went away this xmas for the first time together on our own, his Mum was worrying about it. While we were away he turned into a different person, he seemed to go like his Dad, his Dad is a controlling man as I notice things he does like tells his Mum not eat, snatches things out of hands etc. It was like my boyfriend didn't know how to act, he was nervous and kept looking down at the floor, if I got up and danced he was saying you best sit down now, I played pool and he shouted saying I will rip the pool table. I can only imagine he had these things said to him when he was younger. He pinned me down one night and was laughing in my face when he has never hit me in 14 years, he was looking me up and down when I had got dressed. He was just so strange. He opened up to me one night saying he has had enough, he doesn't want to know his Mum and Dad he doesn't know why the do what they do and said he is only vegi because they didn't give him meat. He said when he gets home he will get help but now where home all he seems to be going on about is his Mum and Dad. Another thing I have noticed is that he has a lot more seizures when he is around them. Sorry if none of this makes sense but I really don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
youdunsay Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Is that his family culture? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 If this has been going on during the 14 years of your relationship I don't see how you can expect it to change now. Link to post Share on other sites
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