BJP56 Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 I met a girl I really like who is an Atheist. She told me she is undatable to me, and its kind of tearing at me because I come from a church going Christian family. My family would tear her apart and shut her out and I believe its wrong. I have always been taught the value of religious tolerance, and to love your neighbor as you love yourself. We have family friends whom are Catholic and theres no religious tension between our 2 families, why would atheism be any different? She has a positive impact in my life and one day I would want to pursue a relationship with her. She does believe in love and being loved (Platonic Love she called it) and thats what I see. Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Why do you date? As an example, are you looking for a potential life partner or just casual fun? Besides feeling butterflies, what do you seek in a partner? More importantly, she has informed you that she doesn't see you as compatible. When someone says this to you, it's generally wasted effort to convince the person otherwise. ...She told me she is undatable to me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author BJP56 Posted January 14, 2014 Author Share Posted January 14, 2014 I look for people who accept me for who I am and dont judge me. They are adventurous as well as outgoing, they are at times mischievous at times and daring. She had those qualities but, the fact she sees incompatibility is what kind of tears at me. I cant find a girl like her. Link to post Share on other sites
Clair93 Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I met a girl I really like who is an Atheist. She told me she is undatable to me, and its kind of tearing at me because I come from a church going Christian family. My family would tear her apart and shut her out and I believe its wrong. I have always been taught the value of religious tolerance, and to love your neighbor as you love yourself. We have family friends whom are Catholic and theres no religious tension between our 2 families, why would atheism be any different? She has a positive impact in my life and one day I would want to pursue a relationship with her. She does believe in love and being loved (Platonic Love she called it) and thats what I see. You need to answer that. Why would your family would tear her apart if they truly believed the value of religious tolerance and taught you this? Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I'm an Atheist, and there is no way I could date a religious person. I have no issues being friends with a diverse group of people- but it wouldn't make sense for me to date a religious person, just as it wouldn't make sense for you to date an Atheist. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I have always been taught the value of religious tolerance, and to love your neighbor as you love yourself. We have family friends whom are Catholic and theres no religious tension between our 2 families, why would atheism be any different? Because the Catholics hold the same general beliefs that your parents do. Your friend likely finds their beliefs (and yours) to be somewhere between silly and moronic. It makes sense that when certain people place a lot of importance on an idea, they might take offense to other people scoffing at that idea. Link to post Share on other sites
bippy123 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 I look for people who accept me for who I am and dont judge me. They are adventurous as well as outgoing, they are at times mischievous at times and daring. She had those qualities but, the fact she sees incompatibility is what kind of tears at me. I cant find a girl like her. BJP, I can understand where you are coming from man. I once was interested in a girl that was from a different religion then me and I had to break it off before it got too serious. Does not our Christian faith tell you to love God above all else? Even more then your parents? Does he not tell you to find a wife that is equally yolked with you spiritually first? Not marrying someone because they dont share your faith doesnt mean they are judging you or not accepting you for who you are. Think also about your Children. Will your future Children put God first if their Father or Mother puts God second to a relationship? These are all very tough questions but you have to think about them all before going through with a relationship with a person from a different Faith. Im not intolerant of other beliefs as I am a Christian Catholic and an inclusivist as I believe that inclusivism speaks most about Gods compassion and understanding of a person's heart. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Your Christian family tolerates your Catholic friends because both sets believe in God even if they don't agree on the details. Dating an atheist is different. That person does not believe in God. It's a fundamental value shift as opposed to a disagreement about the details. God & His existence are hot button issues. There are reasons wars get fought over this stuff. When two people have core values that are so different, it's almost impossible for them to maintain a successful long term relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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