Adding a friend to my current relationship (very long)

[Maxxus]

I have been with my girl friend for two years now. I love her very much, and honestly I can't see myself without her. About a year ago we met a girl who moved in with my aunt so she could escape her mother and have a chance to graduate high school (more on that if someone asks). This girl is almost exactly alike physicaly and mentaly to my grilfriend. They are the same hight, have the same proportions, have scars in the same places. They also think increadablely alike. They dont have to talk to know what the other is thinking most of the time.

 

So when we met this girl, I couldn't help but feel something for her. At first I tried to take a brotherly approach, but I was just too romanticaly attracted to her. Until now I have let my aunt and my girlfriend think I loved her no more than a sister. Which was just as well because she was involved with a guy who had been her neighbor. The guy was a complete jerk though and treated her like crap. Half the time he said he was coming over he would disappear altogether or get there 2 hours later than it should have taken him. Everyone was pretty sure he was cheating on her, but she wouldn't listen. Well, he dumped her on her birthday a few weeks ago and she pretty much over him now.

 

Recently my girlfriend and I took this online Kinky test because we thought it would be fun, and one of the questions was, "Have you ever had a threesome?" She went first and said, "No, not interested", but when I did it I chose "No, but am interested." At first it through her off and she didn't know what to think. But the next day she said to me I think we should have a threesome. I told her okay but everyone invovled had to be very comfortable with each other and what was going on. She immeadiatly thought of our friend, and asked her if she would be our third.

 

So we invited our friend to my girlfriends appartment to stay the night last weekend, but not to have a threesome yet. We went out and had a good time and went back to the appartment and played monopoly until we got tired. At first I was just going to sleep on the couch and let the girls have the bed, but my girlfiriend said why don't we all sleep in the bed and our friend said that she was okay with that. I asked our friend if she was sure because my girlfriend and I sleep naked, and she said she was sure. So we all ended up in bed naked with my girlfriend in between me and our friend.

 

We spent a few hours just talking and getting to know each other better. Now, I like making comments that get a rise out of other people, so when our friend said her nipples were hard, I said "ooh can I feel?" hoping to get a rise out of both of them. But to my suprise our firend said yes, but I wasn't about to get my hand even close until my girlfriend forced my hand on our friend's boob. Well, any other time that I was touching our friend that night, just on the waist or back, it wouldn't be long before my girlfriend snatched my hand away.

 

Im the least sexualy experienced one out of all of us; my girlfriend is the first and only woman I have had sex with. Im am okay with the threesome whether it is with intercouse with both of them or just my girlfriend. I am a little indifferent as to whether we have the threesome or not, I just like having them both around. My girlfriend is the next sexualy experienced one. She says that she is okay with the threesome as long as she is the only one I have intercourse with, but I can tell she is jelous of sharing me and maybe doesn't want to. She keeps pushing for the threesome by getting us in bed together, pressuring our friend to do it, and trying to have sex with me with our friend in the bed. Our friend is the most sexualy experience of all of us and she is perfectly okay with having a threesome. But if she does, she knows she is going to want to have intercourse, and because of that she has been a little reseved of going through with it. Every time my girlfriend pushes our friend puts her off.

 

So between the night in bed together and questions I asked to both of them in private, here is what I have gathered. Our friend wants to have a threesome, because I think she has a crush on me, but won't because she wants to have intercouse and doesn't want to make my girlfriend mad at her. She feels that even though my girlfriend says she wants to, my girlfriend does trust her. My girlfriend doesn't really want a threesome but she wants to show me she can be as adventurous and open as me. And I just want them both in my life. I want to be able to tell them both that I love them and not worry about what they think. I want to be able to put my arms around both of them and cuddle. I want to be able to sleep next to both of them and feel their warmth.

 

So it all boils down to these nagging questions. Should we have a threesome? Should I have intercouse with my girlfriend only or both? Should I try and convince my girlfiend to let me have intercourse with our friend? Should I try and convince our friend that she doen't need to have intercourse with me? Should I try and make our friend like a second girlfriend? Should I try and convince both that its okay for me to have two girlfiends? Should I distance myself from our friend? Should I make the first move? Should I wait for them to work it out on their own? Should I tell them how the other feels? Should I wait for one of them to make the first move?

 

Normaly I wouldn't be in this perdicament because I don't have a wandering eye. But they are just so much alike that I can honestly say that I love both exactly the same amount. I really need to find answers to these questions soon, because my girlfriend invited our friend over for the weekend again. Any advice, comments, questions would be much appreceiated.

[Mr Spock]

BIG RED FLAG

 

Hey buddy....welcome to the beginning of the long, windy and painful road to the end. If you pork this girl your current relationship is pretty much toast.

 

Ask yourself-is f*cking this girl important enough to lose my current GF over?

 

Your girlfriend does that because she wants YOU to say "no baby, you're the only one I need" in front of this other person.

 

Disengage the dumbstick.

[Maxxus]

Wow, I never thought of it that way. But, somehow I don't get the feeling that that is what she is looking for. It's more like she is confused about what she wants. She says that she want a threesome, but her actions go both ways. I don't care whether I have intercourse with the friend or not. Sex really isn't a big thing for me which is why I have only had one partner until now. I just want a close long term relationship with both girls at the same time. Is that so much to ask?

[Barby]

I just want a close long term relationship with both girls at the same time. Is that so much to ask?

 

 

OMG are you serious? You think that your GF is going to want to share you within this 'relationship' and that the other girl would be okay with it too?

[Mr Spock]

Please believe me when I tell you she only says she wants a threesome because you mentioned you wanted one. She will be hurt beyond repair.

 

 

Yes, it's too much to ask. Shake your head. Pick who you want.

[SoleMate]

Should we have a threesome?

Since you asked, my advice is no.

[Maxxus]

Okay so I was taking to my gf last night and I sneaked in the question of whether she was testing me or not, and she said maybe. So that combined with everyones thoughts, has convinced me to call off the threesome thing. I would like to keep the friend around as a friend though, not another gf. I should be able to remain friends wither her with no problems right?

[SoleMate]

I should be able to remain friends with her with no problems right?

Oh sure, why not. I am getting the impression that your r/s with your gf is not particularly serious, and/or that you are extremely young. If your r/s were serious, your major concern would be protecting her feelings and meeting her needs. But instead, you seem quite focussed on your own needs. That's fine, if your idea is to just enjoy her as long as it is working and then move one when things no longer feel right. I absolutely do not mean to criticize or belittle such an approach. It may be appropriate for some people at some times.

 

BUT...at some point, possibly years from now, you are going to decide that you WOULD like a relationship that lasts for life. You do that by taking care of your partner, the way they want to be taken care of. You stop putting your own needs and desires first. Now might be a good time to start developing that type of habit.

[VirginiaBob]

Dude, you are the luckiest guy I ever met. We are not worthy. I wish I were you.

[Maxxus]

While looking back at my posts it does seem that all I am interested in is my self, but believe me when I say that I have everyones intersets in mind. That is part of the reason I came here for advice. Im not a mind reader I wanted to know what my gf might be really thinking. She is the one who said she wanted to have a threesome and has been pushing the hardest. I wanted to give her what she wanted, but since she was acting funny about it I wanted to make sure I wasn't missing some "RED FLAG." Mr. Spock pointed out that she might be testing me and I think he is right. As for the other girl, I think she has a crush on me, and if not she still definitly needs a guy who will treat her right. But, as I said Im calling off the threesome and sleeping on the couch this weekend.