Author Iamyoungjuan Posted January 18, 2014 Author Share Posted January 18, 2014 Well just talked to my wife again and she made it clear to me that she dont wanna be with me she said she dont wann be in a relationship anytime soon and for me to not call or text her she will text me when shes ready to talk and then when we do talk she dont wanna talk about us She moved out already so now I have to move out because I cant afford the bills by myself so I will have to move into my moms house until I get on my feet Link to post Share on other sites
thedmc Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 I think it's best to stay away for now and take a good hard look at yourself and your character. See what you did wrong and try to fix it. Clearly she wouldn't have left you twice if she was happy in your relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iamyoungjuan Posted January 19, 2014 Author Share Posted January 19, 2014 Yeah I guess thats the best thing to do she said after a week she will be ready to talk but i think she just saying that so I wont call or text her she even said she will change her number on me Link to post Share on other sites
thedmc Posted January 20, 2014 Share Posted January 20, 2014 If she is saying all that then stop contacting her. Give her time and stop trying to force her into it. As I said before, You need to use this time to figure yourself out and your problems instead of chasing her around like a lost puppy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iamyoungjuan Posted January 20, 2014 Author Share Posted January 20, 2014 If she is saying all that then stop contacting her. Give her time and stop trying to force her into it. As I said before, You need to use this time to figure yourself out and your problems instead of chasing her around like a lost puppy. I agree I feel like im only hurting myself by trying to contact her so I gonna try to be strong and not contact her anymore.I think she has moved on but she telling me shes not Link to post Share on other sites
Misadventure Posted January 20, 2014 Share Posted January 20, 2014 Regardless of whose fault is what..go no contact unless for the kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iamyoungjuan Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 So I havnt contacted my wife in over 24hours so I wake up to a text saying that if u dont call and wish ur son a happy birthday im gonna change my phone number So I text text back and asked her to tell him happy birthday and I love him to enjoy his day she text back and say call him and tell him yourself but u just told me two days ago not to call you for a week So I called and she didnt answer so I text back and say I just called to tell my son happy birthday and im not gonna call back so if u wanna change your number go ahead because im over it she text back ok I feel like she already want to change her number so she making it seem like I did somthing for her to change it when I only respectd your wish to not call or text u What is really going on??? Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 DUDE!!!! WHAT DID I SAY EARILER!!!! DO NOT REMOVE YOURSELF FROM YOUR KIDS LIVES!!!! They don't know what's going on or what's happening. They're scared and hurt, JUST AS MUCH AS YOU ARE!! They need their DAD to tell them that he still loves them and that is NEVER going to change. That he will always be proud of them and never be out of their lives. That he is only a phonecall away and if they ever need him, he'll come running.\ Now, go buy your son a present and run over there and deliver it! Screw what she has to say, that is YOUR SON! MAybe she can take away your relationship and your marriage. But, she can NEVER take away your kids and how you feel about them, how much you love THEM! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iamyoungjuan Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 hats the thing I bought my son birthday stuff and took it over there a few days ago and I talked to them two days ago and told them that I love them with all my heart the first things my 3 year old daughter said to me was daddu I wanna come home it was so sad that I couldnt give her a answer to that question I love my kids to death im gonna always be there for them I just dont understand y she is texting me with threats when I did nothing to her she ask me to not call her and thats all im doing Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 hats the thing I bought my son birthday stuff and took it over there a few days ago and I talked to them two days ago and told them that I love them with all my heart the first things my 3 year old daughter said to me was daddu I wanna come home it was so sad that I couldnt give her a answer to that question I love my kids to death im gonna always be there for them I just dont understand y she is texting me with threats when I did nothing to her she ask me to not call her and thats all im doing Good to hear! You got me all kinds of worked up. Don't allow her to use the kids as a weapon. She might be bat sh*t crazy, so you need to show the kids that they have at least one stable parent. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 she ask me to not call her and thats all im doing She doesn't want you to call when it comes to her, but if it's your sons birthday, the exception overrides the rule. Two different things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iamyoungjuan Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 So I just called again to wish my son a happy birthday but she sent me to voicemail Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iamyoungjuan Posted January 22, 2014 Author Share Posted January 22, 2014 I just talked to my wife she told me that she not really attracked to me nomore said that she wanted to be on her own and she dont have any male friends or talking to anyone she said she dont wanna be in a relationship right now I asked her can I spend my birthday with her and our kids she said she dont mind but just cause she go out with me doesnt mean we gettin back together I also asked her can we still have sex she said yeah but she said she want me to go a while without calling or texting her Plese help me with this last one everytime I ask her do she wanna get a divorce she say its up to me why is it up to me if you the one thats saying we done for good and u wanna be by urself its like she puttin it off on me Someone please explain to me why she dont wanna be with me but still wanna be married to me I mean she making it clear to me that she dont wanna be with me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iamyoungjuan Posted January 26, 2014 Author Share Posted January 26, 2014 So last time I talked to my wife was three days ago she was really mad and yelling at me because she said she dont wanna talk about us or our marriage so I told her that I was tired of calling and texting her I didnt wanna bother her anymore so I asked her can she change her phone number because it was hard for me to stop calling her she said yes she will change it but she never did I dont know y. Fast forward two day later I havnt called or texted her so she text me out the blue and said hey how u doing I never replyed so my sister reach out to her that same day to see how her and the kids was doing well she told my sister that they was doing good and that me and her is in two different spaces right now she said she trying to keep her distance because she dont know how I would take it if she came around my sisters cause we not together.She also said that she have to figure out a way to tell me that she dealing with alot of stuff and she need to find a way to tell me without me thinking that I was doing everything wrong. She also told my sister that she didnt leave me for anybody and she dont know if we gonna get a divorce she also said she dont even know when me and her will even have a good conversation Now I dont know what to do I think about her all day everyday but I havnt called because im trying to give her space but it seem like no matter what I dont have a chance I really love my wife with all my heart and soul and I want to make things better with her Please help with more advice Link to post Share on other sites
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