DanielFife83 Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 I feel all the good looking women are taken! ALL OF THEm, they are all happy with their boyfriend married etc. What do I do, I wont take what I dont deserve or am not attracted to. I am 31. if a girl has posted the best boyfriend, saying her hot guy, how she is feeling so happy due to her bf, does that mean they will get married? h Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 This is the LoveShack site, not the Pychic Friend site. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Your threads have shown that you've got some pretty funky issues when it comes to women, so what exactly is it that you think you deserve? It's one thing to want a partner of equal standing physically, it's another to not want a bag full of crazy when you've got a few issues of your own... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Barbarossa Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 You live in NH dude what do you expect? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 It really does seem that all the desirable women are already taken. From what I have experienced, decent women are only single if they want to be. If a woman doesn't want to be single, then she won't. I'll also point out, that when I actually met my ex, she was with her BF of three years (it had been toxic for the last year). She pretty much broke up with her BF to go out with me. Unfortunately she wasn't really able to handle another relationship so soon and ended our relationship after six months. I really wouldn't be surprised if she ended it with me because there was another guy involved. A good looking woman with a decent head on her shoulders can go her entire life without ever being single. It also seems that many women would rather stick around in a toxic relationship instead of actually being single. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 15, 2014 Author Share Posted January 15, 2014 It really does seem that all the desirable women are already taken. From what I have experienced, decent women are only single if they want to be. If a woman doesn't want to be single, then she won't. I'll also point out, that when I actually met my ex, she was with her BF of three years (it had been toxic for the last year). She pretty much broke up with her BF to go out with me. Unfortunately she wasn't really able to handle another relationship so soon and ended our relationship after six months. I really wouldn't be surprised if she ended it with me because there was another guy involved. A good looking woman with a decent head on her shoulders can go her entire life without ever being single. It also seems that many women would rather stick around in a toxic relationship instead of actually being single. I am sorry I sound like all this but I want a girl and one who will be good to me and make me happy. I Wont date just any old women I Am worried all the good looking ones with a fun personality will never be found! and I will be stuck with ones I am not personally and physically attracted to. Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 Oh, there are plenty of single, beautiful and fun ladies out there. We're just not interested in men who keep complaining about women in general. 17 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 Oh, there are plenty of single, beautiful and fun ladies out there. We're just not interested in men who keep complaining about women in general. Beautifully said! Link to post Share on other sites
straightshooter82 Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 Similar to real estate, I think location is very important when it comes to dating, and I'm sure it's very hard to meet good looking single women your age or younger where you live. My advice to you would be to move. If moving isn't an option you're going to have to consider riskier alternatives such as foreign women or long-distance dating. To respond to your overall concern, yes, most good looking women are married or already in relationships. The women you find physically attractive are the same women every other guy finds attractive so naturally those attractive women are more likely to meet a man they like and be unavailable. It's just the way life is. The sooner you accept this the easier it will be for you. It's unhealthy to have an entitlement attitude when it comes to dating. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I wont kid or beat around the Bush, Daniel is right. The most attractive, desirable people ARE always involved with someone to one degree or another. If you want an attractive, personable, fit, healthy squared away partner, if you wait untill they are free and clear of all entanglements and are completely single and not dating anyone, you are going to spend your life on the sidelines waiting. If you want the Purdy Girl or the hot sexy hunk, you are going to have to be prepared to make your move while they are still involved with someone else and you are going to have to be better than who they are with at the moment. I'm not advocating poaching married people or people in overtly exclusive, serious relationships but a lot of people are in dating situations that are no where near as serious or committed as other people think they are. If you want the gold you have to be competitive, you have to work for it and you have to be willing to take a few bumps and bruises along the way. Hot chicks and the top of the line guys are always dating someone to one depth or another. They are never sitting around bored and lonely with no-one to do. If you try to wait for them to be free and clear so your don't have to work, don't have to fight, don't have to stick your neck out and don't have to get dirt on your hands an face some drama and baggage, either pick the low-hanging fruit or prepare for a life of waiting, 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I have always met what i consider to be attractive women. When i was a student, libraries were excellent places to meet ladies. I met my current GF socially and she was single and a stunner in my eyes. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I'm a decent looking, smart, sane, easy going and physically fit/healthy girl who spent the majority of the past 6 years single. Not by choice, I just couldn't find anyone to be in a relationship with and struggled to get dates. That does not mean I'm a lousy low quality girl at all, to assume so is ridiculous. I was only taken off the market last month. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I feel all the good looking women are taken! ALL OF THEm, they are all happy with their boyfriend married etc. What do I do, I wont take what I dont deserve or am not attracted to. I am 31. if a girl has posted the best boyfriend, saying her hot guy, how she is feeling so happy due to her bf, does that mean they will get married? h not what I've witnessed. since dating again, now off the market, but since dating again, i've dated quite a few very attractive women. your view of attractive, perhaps, too inflated? model-like? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fluttershy Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I know this guy... Okay I am ashamed to admit it, I'm related to this guy who is a 34 year old virgin and never had a single girlfriend. Why? He is socially akward, getting set in his ways, does not do te things he could to be more attractive (better clothes style, contacts, hair) and he has way to high of standards that our not just out of his leauge but greatly reduce the fish in the sea. And he whines too about all the hot ones taken. My advice to him? Either get less picky an start asking some chicks out or ge yourself a makeover and work on your social skills. And get iut of your mother's house and get an adult job. Yeah thats not happening. Btw I have no problem with his virginity. It is te fact he whines about it and the whole deal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 OP - do you have anything constructive to post? You're not even posting about dating. You're ranting. Every thread you start is a rant. Please post it in the right place. You do get good advice in response, but you never assimilate that advice. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 On thing to consider is that many decent looking women will have a "boyfriend" who is really nothing more than a space filler. "Insert the first non offensive man to ask them out here". Often the same women who just have to have a man, any man, will be on the look out for the next best bigger better deal. They won't dump that boyfriend first, they will "monkey branch" to the next better guy. By which I mean, they start relationship number two before ending relationship number one. (Sometimes they "monkey branch" back to an ex.) So the question is this: OP are you willing to hit on a woman with a "boyfriend" and see if she can be enticed away from him? If you are you willing to accept that the same woman may leave you, with little warning, if she finds a "better" (sometimes just new) man? If a man wants a desirable woman, after a certain age, she is going to have either a boyfriend, or fiancee, or husband, or guy(s) she's seeing, or a FWB or some guy who thinks he's marked that woman as his territory and possession. It is the way of human nature that we compete for the most desirable mates and often the most desirable people have a variety of mates. The least desirable are lucky to find just one or two. Yes yes, men kinda do this too...but the OP is a man so I focus my comments on women in the above. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 On thing to consider is that many decent looking women will have a "boyfriend" who is really nothing more than a space filler. "Insert the first non offensive man to ask them out here". Often the same women who just have to have a man, any man, will be on the look out for the next best bigger better deal. They won't dump that boyfriend first, they will "monkey branch" to the next better guy. By which I mean, they start relationship number two before ending relationship number one. (Sometimes they "monkey branch" back to an ex.) So the question is this: OP are you willing to hit on a woman with a "boyfriend" and see if she can be enticed away from him? If you are you willing to accept that the same woman may leave you, with little warning, if she finds a "better" (sometimes just new) man? If a man wants a desirable woman, after a certain age, she is going to have either a boyfriend, or fiancee, or husband, or guy(s) she's seeing, or a FWB or some guy who thinks he's marked that woman as his territory and possession. It is the way of human nature that we compete for the most desirable mates and often the most desirable people have a variety of mates. The least desirable are lucky to find just one or two. Yes yes, men kinda do this too...but the OP is a man so I focus my comments on women in the above. ^^^^^^^^^^ this ^^^^^^^^ Link to post Share on other sites
Aquanut Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 I have a goldfish. Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 lot of good looking women have sneaky boyfriends 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 I wont kid or beat around the Bush, Daniel is right. The most attractive, desirable people ARE always involved with someone to one degree or another. If you want an attractive, personable, fit, healthy squared away partner, if you wait untill they are free and clear of all entanglements and are completely single and not dating anyone, you are going to spend your life on the sidelines waiting. If you want the Purdy Girl or the hot sexy hunk, you are going to have to be prepared to make your move while they are still involved with someone else and you are going to have to be better than who they are with at the moment. I'm not advocating poaching married people or people in overtly exclusive, serious relationships but a lot of people are in dating situations that are no where near as serious or committed as other people think they are. If you want the gold you have to be competitive, you have to work for it and you have to be willing to take a few bumps and bruises along the way. Hot chicks and the top of the line guys are always dating someone to one depth or another. They are never sitting around bored and lonely with no-one to do. If you try to wait for them to be free and clear so your don't have to work, don't have to fight, don't have to stick your neck out and don't have to get dirt on your hands an face some drama and baggage, either pick the low-hanging fruit or prepare for a life of waiting, Or share them lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 I'm a decent looking, smart, sane, easy going and physically fit/healthy girl who spent the majority of the past 6 years single. Not by choice, I just couldn't find anyone to be in a relationship with and struggled to get dates. That does not mean I'm a lousy low quality girl at all, to assume so is ridiculous. I was only taken off the market last month. Not to be a jerk or anything; but you were taken off the market literally a day after you tried online dating................. Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 You live in NH dude what do you expect? Move down South you maniacs. Even if you still can't find some at least you won't be standing around in snow up to your arseholes. There are still some good ones around here if you know where to look. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 The "good ones" probably feel like all the desirable men are taken. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Share Posted January 16, 2014 I know this guy... Okay I am ashamed to admit it, I'm related to this guy who is a 34 year old virgin and never had a single girlfriend. Why? He is socially akward, getting set in his ways, does not do te things he could to be more attractive (better clothes style, contacts, hair) and he has way to high of standards that our not just out of his leauge but greatly reduce the fish in the sea. And he whines too about all the hot ones taken. My advice to him? Either get less picky an start asking some chicks out or ge yourself a makeover and work on your social skills. And get iut of your mother's house and get an adult job. Yeah thats not happening. Btw I have no problem with his virginity. It is te fact he whines about it and the whole deal. what are his standards? how does he reduce the fish in the sea? and of getting an adult job , that can be hard due to the number of job seekers. some people of being out of their parents house and getting an adult job, thats out of their hands. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 The "good ones" probably feel like all the desirable men are taken. That depends on what women consider desirable. From what I see it's usually a hot guy who uses her for sex and she can't understand why he never calls her back. Link to post Share on other sites
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