I feel all the good looking ones are taken

[Mrlonelyone]

I'm a decent looking, smart, sane, easy going and physically fit/healthy girl who spent the majority of the past 6 years single. Not by choice, I just couldn't find anyone to be in a relationship with and struggled to get dates. That does not mean I'm a lousy low quality girl at all, to assume so is ridiculous.

 

I was only taken off the market last month.

 

 

No one is saying that a woman who's not taken "off the market" is somehow bad or damaged goods.

 

 

The thing the OP's talking about is how there is never zero competition for a woman who's even semi attractive, mentally and physically sound.

 

 

That's practically a law of physics. In fact as a Master of physics I hereby declare the following to be the 6th law of Thermodynamics:

 

 

No semi physically, and mentally sound attractive adult human being will be 100% free of romantic interest.

 

You can no more find a woman who's attractive, and who is without any interest from any man, even if she does not return that interest, than you can build a perpetual motion device.

 

 

So OP. Unless that woman is the girlfriend of a good friend, or is married or engaged... go for it. Just go for it and maybe you'll win a woman that will make you happy. If she can leave that other man then she really didn't like him. She may leave you but that's part of life.

[Leigh 87]

I have always been in long term relationships, or in the 5 or so months in between relationships, I tried a few guys out for size; some were just jerks.

 

I'm not attractive or beautiful to most men. I'm just fun, happy and not offensive looking.

 

My better looking friend who's a model has been single for years. Her exes cheated on her. She would LOVE to find a decent guy....

 

Her last to love I interests dumped her; one preferred more portly sized women. The other guy preferred Asian.

 

She's not only a model, she is a piodortist too, and she has very good morals.

 

She wants a fellow educated man who is an honorable person, and who will treat her well.; she isn't even after good looks.

 

 

 

 

My other extremely good looking friend has never been screwed over by men; since age 17 she has only met good guys who were crazy about her. She's never been single in her adult life.

Edited January 16, 2014 by Leigh 87

[somedude81]

She wants a fellow educated man who is an honorable person, and who will treat her well.; she isn't even after good looks.

Leigh, I seriously doubt that's all she wants.

 

If that was, there millions of men who fit that criteria.

 

Odds are she is very picky, or there is something wrong with her that turns men off.

[Leigh 87]

No one is saying that a woman who's not taken "off the market" is somehow bad or damaged goods.

 

 

The thing the OP's talking about is how there is never zero competition for a woman who's even semi attractive, mentally and physically sound.

 

 

That's practically a law of physics. In fact as a Master of physics I hereby declare the following to be the 6th law of Thermodynamics:

 

 

No semi physically, and mentally sound attractive adult human being will be 100% free of romantic interest.

 

You can no more find a woman who's attractive, and who is without any interest from any man, even if she does not return that interest, than you can build a perpetual motion device.

 

 

So OP. Unless that woman is the girlfriend of a good friend, or is married or engaged... go for it. Just go for it and maybe you'll win a woman that will make you happy. If she can leave that other man then she really didn't like him. She may leave you but that's part of life.

 

 

 

Phoe didn't really have any men interested; she's gorgeous looking.

 

It happens.

 

Perhaps in her local area there's simply not many single men. Perhaps the women in her area are mostly stunning? There may be a lot of competition for the decent single men.

[USMCHokie]

You could always wait til they are in their early 30's and through with their first divorce...

[xxoo]

That depends on what women consider desirable.

 

From what I see it's usually a hot guy who uses her for sex and she can't understand why he never calls her back.

 

It's kind of my point. The OP may be surrounded by many wonderful, available women, but he doesn't consider them desirable. This isn't a problem limited to one gender.

[DanielFife83]

is this understandable, if a girl tells me we are just friends I leave it alone and know theres no chance?

[Phoe]

Not to be a jerk or anything; but you were taken off the market literally a day after you tried online dating.................

 

Yes but that is not really relevant to the post I made or the point OP wants to make.

 

 

Good looking women are not always taken, and if they aren't that doesn't mean they are low quality.

 

 

That's the only point I want to make

[Phoe]

No one is saying that a woman who's not taken "off the market" is somehow bad or damaged goods.

 

The thing the OP's talking about is how there is never zero competition for a woman who's even semi attractive, mentally and physically sound.

 

No semi physically, and mentally sound attractive adult human being will be 100% free of romantic interest.

 

You can no more find a woman who's attractive, and who is without any interest from any man, even if she does not return that interest, than you can build a perpetual motion device.

 

 

 

There's is quite frequently the implication that if a decent looking girl is single not by choice, then there's something wrong with her. I spent a good chunk of a year trying to battle that stigma on this site. The "there must be something wrong with her" vibe. Which is just total garbage.

 

 

My boyfriend did not have to compete for me. In essence, some might argue that he did, since there were a few other men messaging me on OLD, but he got my interest quickly, we met, I stopped responding to any others and shut my OLD account down in 2 days. He never actually had to compete for me. I liked him, so now I am his. No other men get an ounce of attention from me.

 

 

None of my exes ever had to compete with anyone either. They were the only ones in the picture.

 

 

And I've gone years at a time with no romantic interest from anyone. No one I was talking to, no one I was flirting with or seeing casually, no one I was interested in and no one displaying interest in me.

 

 

Your law just plain is not true. I'm proof.

[somedude81]

Yes but that is not really relevant to the post I made or the point OP wants to make.

 

 

Good looking women are not always taken, and if they aren't that doesn't mean they are low quality.

 

 

That's the only point I want to make

Phoe it's very relevant.

 

The only reason you weren't taken is because nobody knew you existed.

 

As soon as you made your debut, you were instantly snagged.

 

If you had lived in a city that had more than one stoplight, you would never have been single for any longer than you wanted to.

[somedude81]

It's kind of my point. The OP may be surrounded by many wonderful, available women, but he doesn't consider them desirable. This isn't a problem limited to one gender.

Doubt it.

 

Odds are the OP is surrounded by many women wonderful women he does consider desirable, but they are either not available and/or not interested.

 

Frankly, I'm amazed that the only GF I have ever had, was somebody I "took" from her boyfriend.

 

I have pursued many women I found desirable that were also legitimately single, and the only girl I got was somebody who was in a serious relationship when I met her.

[mexcity]

I know this guy... Okay I am ashamed to admit it, I'm related to this guy who is a 34 year old virgin and never had a single girlfriend. Why?

 

He is socially akward, getting set in his ways, does not do te things he could to be more attractive (better clothes style, contacts, hair) and he has way to high of standards that our not just out of his leauge but greatly reduce the fish in the sea. And he whines too about all the hot ones taken.

 

My advice to him? Either get less picky an start asking some chicks out or ge yourself a makeover and work on your social skills. And get iut of your mother's house and get an adult job.

 

Yeah thats not happening.

 

Btw I have no problem with his virginity. It is te fact he whines about it and the whole deal.

 

Wow, The person you are describing sounds just like me. Are we related?

 

The only difference is that I don't use glasses, and I do have an "adult" job. The rest is the same, down to age. I can afford to be on my own, but I choose to live in my mother's basement.

[Aquanut]

They're not all taken! That's an utter load of crap. And not even all the taken ones are firmly taken.

 

One of my pals asked me if I knew anything about this good looking woman W. that he had met. Sure. She's classy, intelligent, athletic, successful. I think the world of her. By the way I was dating her before I met my fiancée. No kidding. You've dated the two hottest women in meetup! I bring that up not to say that I'm all that but to show that I am talking about good looking women below.

 

W is not seeing anyone at all. She has an active OLD profile. She's great looking. Petite, extremely active and an executive at a local company.

 

Guys either don't have the nads to ask her out - they just assume they arent good enough or they just assume she is taken! Everybody wants her but nobody is asking her out. Plumb crazy. A guy who meets her standards of intelligent and active could have waltzed right in there and taken her at about any point in the last 3 years with no competition.

 

Some women aren't taken but still require competing to win. When I met my fiancée she was not taken. But she had all kinds of suitors. At one dinner party she had 5 men competing for her including one bad boy who was trying really hard to win her affection. I flirted with her through eye contact and smiles. She told me later she almost burst into flames when our eyes met. BB quickly eliminated the timid ones from contention leaving just us two. He invited her out for music and drinks afterwards. In a coup de grace I invited myself along to be their designated driver. It was one of the most brilliant moves I ever made. He was buying her drinks but he was a smoker. He'd take long smoke breaks while she and I talked and laughed. BB didn't know it but he was paying for my date with her. When I dropped her off she touched my arm unnecessarily - and invited me up for coffee. Hmm. I thanked her but declined. She messages me shortly after I dropped her off thanking me for being an all around nice guy- oh no! Not nice guy- the kiss of death! But the next line said she was hoping to get to know me better. Score! Nice guy 1. Bad boy 0. BB didn't give up for another month, trying to kiss her but being rebuffed. When he figured out we were dating he congratulated me and apologized for crossing any boundaries. I told him when he did the things he did there weren't any boundaries to cross and thanked him for being such a good sport.

 

Good women are out there and available no matter what your definition of good is. Don't just assume a desirable woman is taken.

 

Ending this long post with an old joke.

 

Guy goes up to a beautiful woman and asks her out.

Girl: I have a boyfriend

Guy: I have a goldfish

Girl: Huh?

Guy: I thought we were talking about **** that doesn't matter.

[Fluttershy]

what are his standards? how does he reduce the fish in the sea?

 

and of getting an adult job , that can be hard due to the number of job seekers. some people of being out of their parents house and getting an adult job, thats out of their hands.

 

Where I live jobs are plentiful... Their is no excuse for that. And he has worked and only had himself to support he coukd buy a house... Also easy to do here. He just has no motivation. Women like motivation.

 

The women he gives a second look at are 7-10s and he currently as is, is a 4. So he either coukd improve himself or start looking at the 4s around him.

[Teraskas]

Hell, I'm only 22 and I'm already experiencing the same thing the OP is talking about lulz. :/

[Disillusioned]

I feel all the good looking women are taken! ALL OF THEm, they are all happy with their boyfriend married etc. What do I do, I wont take what I dont deserve or am not attracted to. I am 31.

 

if a girl has posted the best boyfriend, saying her hot guy, how she is feeling so happy due to her bf, does that mean they will get married? h

 

Never say never.

 

I can name at least 3 drop-dead gorgeous women who are openly asexual and each of them wants a man who won't pester them for sex.

[AnyaNova]

There's is quite frequently the implication that if a decent looking girl is single not by choice, then there's something wrong with her. I spent a good chunk of a year trying to battle that stigma on this site. The "there must be something wrong with her" vibe. Which is just total garbage.

 

 

My boyfriend did not have to compete for me. In essence, some might argue that he did, since there were a few other men messaging me on OLD, but he got my interest quickly, we met, I stopped responding to any others and shut my OLD account down in 2 days. He never actually had to compete for me. I liked him, so now I am his. No other men get an ounce of attention from me.

 

 

None of my exes ever had to compete with anyone either. They were the only ones in the picture.

 

 

And I've gone years at a time with no romantic interest from anyone. No one I was talking to, no one I was flirting with or seeing casually, no one I was interested in and no one displaying interest in me.

 

 

Your law just plain is not true. I'm proof. [/left]

 

As am I.

 

The OP also forgets that some like me are very shy, and that is the kiss of death for anyone reasonably attractive. People assume that you are just being snotty and aloof instead of shy.

[MrMeh]

As am I.

 

The OP also forgets that some like me are very shy, and that is the kiss of death for anyone reasonably attractive. People assume that you are just being snotty and aloof instead of shy.

 

You have no idea. I ended up getting a girls number who I thought would have no interest in me because I thought she was snobby, due to her never making

eye contact. All I had to do is smile and she lit up.

[OpheliaSong]

This thread is like saying to all of us girls who aren't taken that we are ugly or have the plague or something....

[somedude81]

This thread is like saying to all of us girls who aren't taken that we are ugly or have the plague or something....

Why don't you have a boyfriend?

[OpheliaSong]

Why don't you have a boyfriend?

 

I had one for a year and hew as very .good to me, smart and successful but when his best friends girlfriend cheated on him he decided all women were whores and started being possessive of me and accusing me of cheating. I am in law school so you know how much time I have for cheating....time, what is that?

Since then I have been trying to figure out why I dated someone who could change so quickly and wondering what was wrong with me that I attracted someone with trust issues when that isn't me. That is why I came to LS to get some support and try to learn something as my parents really sheltered me growing up.

I Am trying to mature and grow up. Slow process....however, the OP might be right as I do not look like Kate Upton so I might be one of the frightful ones.

[WP4046]

This thread is like saying to all of us girls who aren't taken that we are ugly or have the plague or something....

 

 

What attractive women would be not in contact with no guy at all?

[AnyaNova]

I was in a relationship for 13 years that spilled a little into my grad school beginning fall 2012.

 

Being shy, it took me until June to find another relationship, which had its utter and complete end in September, landing me here.

 

I am now really ready to begin dating again.

 

But really let me emphasize that it can suck being both pretty and shy, and in fact, I am learning that I do much better if I tone down the makeup to next to nothing, and keep my hair a little sloppy, and don't dress up too much. I know it sounds strange, but I think when I look like that I am much more approachable, then when I take the time to look as perfect as possible.

[somedude81]

I had one for a year and hew as very .good to me, smart and successful but when his best friends girlfriend cheated on him he decided all women were whores and started being possessive of me and accusing me of cheating. I am in law school so you know how much time I have for cheating....time, what is that?

Since then I have been trying to figure out why I dated someone who could change so quickly and wondering what was wrong with me that I attracted someone with trust issues when that isn't me. That is why I came to LS to get some support and try to learn something as my parents really sheltered me growing up.

I Am trying to mature and grow up. Slow process....however, the OP might be right as I do not look like Kate Upton so I might be one of the frightful ones.

So your BF freaked out and dumped you.

 

That doesn't really explain why you are single now.

 

Few women look like Kate Upton. Do you think you are unattractive?

[AnyaNova]

I was in a relationship for 13 years that spilled a little into my grad school beginning fall 2012.

 

Being shy, it took me until June to find another relationship, which had its utter and complete end in September, landing me here.

 

I am now really ready to begin dating again.

 

But really let me emphasize that it can suck being both pretty and shy, and in fact, I am learning that I do much better if I tone down the makeup to next to nothing, and keep my hair a little sloppy, and don't dress up too much. I know it sounds strange, but I think when I look like that I am much more approachable, then when I take the time to look as perfect as possible.

 

Since I can't edit, I thought I'd clarify. The times that I have been asked for my number or have been chatted up have invariably not when I have looked my best, but when I have been more casual.