Aggravated Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) My question is rather straight up! My sister in laws are friends with my husbands exes on facebook! They befriend anyone who will give them the time of day. These ex girlfriends of my husband barely had a relationship with them to begin with...therefore it boggles my mind why it would be necessary for them to even give them the time. I have been with their brother for almost 18 years and we share children together as well. Is it me or do you think they are doing this on purpose maybe to get my buttons going? None of them...including the sister in laws are anybody I envy...or admire or am jealous of for that matter. I actually feel sorry for every single one of them..as they all have issues! Not saying I am perfect but...I just don't understand what the point of this would be! Please help! Edited January 14, 2014 by Aggravated Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 It's his sisters not him. Why does it bother you so much. My boyfriends mother friends all of his girlfriends........so what? It's his mother. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aggravated Posted January 14, 2014 Author Share Posted January 14, 2014 Glad you find that normal. I dont! I think it not only shows lack of respect for me but for my husband and my kids. Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) Why the need to bring up the fact that they have "issues" and that you pity them? Why the need to state that you do not admire nor feel jealousy of your husbands sisters? If my partner spoke about my siblings like this, it would be a huge problem. You mention respect...they are supposed to be your family - how about you show some respect? It's a bit rich of you to state that after what you just said, that they are disrespecting you and you children (lol) simply by having an ex gf of your husband's on facebook. You are reading way too much into this. The fact that you think they have added these women to spite you comes across as delusional and paranoid. You are making something out of nothing, and highlighting your own insecurities. The exes may have been nice girls. They may have gotten along with his sisters. They accepted a friend request on facebook. Relax. Edited January 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) Why the need to bring up the fact that they have "issues" and that you pity them? Why the need to state that you do not admire nor feel jealousy of your husbands sisters? If my partner spoke about my siblings like this, it would be a huge problem. You mention respect...they are supposed to be your family - how about you show some respect? It's a bit rich of you to state that after what you just said, that they are disrespecting you and you children (lol) simply by having an ex gf of your husband's on facebook. You are reading way too much into this. The fact that you think they have added these women to spite you comes across as delusional and paranoid. You are making something out of nothing, and highlighting your own insecurities. The exes may have been nice girls. They may have gotten along with his sisters. They accepted a friend request on facebook. Relax. Hahahahah, um yeah.....exactly. Edited January 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Glad you find that normal. I dont! I think it not only shows lack of respect for me but for my husband and my kids. Holy crap. It's Facebook. If you don't like it.....CLOSE YOUR FACEBOOK ACCOUNT. Problem solved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aggravated Posted January 14, 2014 Author Share Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) Why the need to bring up the fact that they have "issues" and that you pity them? Why the need to state that you do not admire nor feel jealousy of your husbands sisters? If my partner spoke about my siblings like this, it would be a huge problem. You mention respect...they are supposed to be your family - how about you show some respect? It's a bit rich of you to state that after what you just said, that they are disrespecting you and you children (lol) simply by having an ex gf of your husband's on facebook. You are reading way too much into this. The fact that you think they have added these women to spite you comes across as delusional and paranoid. You are making something out of nothing, and highlighting your own insecurities. The exes may have been nice girls. They may have gotten along with his sisters. They accepted a friend request on facebook. Relax. Well that is quite the contrary to who I am...quite silly you would gather that impression on someone who wrote 10 sentences to begin with. but to answer your questions...so you can maybe understand the situation better...not that I think you will persay considering your response. Anyhow yes I do pity them. They all are single moms on welfare. Nothing to envy there correct? as far as nice goes they were young children when he was with these girls..so yeah nice girls they may be...but friends are hardly the reason. They were too young to have gotten along with them or even know them. Secondly you dont know what kind of in laws I have or what kind of people im dealing with. My husband agrees it is disrespectful...and cant see any reason for the friending them. He personally thinks its ridiculous and they are attention seeking. They are depressed and very selfish people...who have no qualms on treating people like crap to begin with. Like I said I can write pages and pages...but that would be tiring. anyhow...im hardly paranoid or dillusional. I am just tired of being the good one and getting treated like crap. Like a slap in the face. I am a confident and scure woman..and it would hardly take a few ex gfs to makeme a paranoid freak. Anyhow I blocked them all...was just trying to get some normal feedback from peopke in long term marriages as mine who could possibly gice me some insifht on what they may be thinking. Edited January 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 Hardly the problem of the century, You and your husband agree that these people aren't worthy of your facebook friendship and you've blocked them. Problem solved as far as I can see. Why on earth would it matter to you what they're thinking?<----- this is your real problem. Your hung up on the past or suffering self-esteem issues...from what I read. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aggravated Posted January 15, 2014 Author Share Posted January 15, 2014 (edited) Good grief. I dont mean what they as in sis in laws or exes think. I could care less. Edited January 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 (edited) Glad you find that normal. I dont! I think it not only shows lack of respect for me but for my husband and my kids. Ummmm excuse me miss. But where exactly do you think you have a say in who your husbands sisters are friends with? Edited January 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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