heyjesse84 Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 So my MM, after nothing but over 8 months of him always saying "no love allowed", i noticed him progressivly showing signs that he loved me but would never admit or ever dare say it. He said he will never ever say those words. He said he cant and wont. Hes known ive been in love with him for several months, and he knew i genuinly had no problem and completely understood that he wasnt ever looking for "love". I ironically respected the fact that he loved his wife to much to ever say that to me. But i couldnt help how i felt. I never ever pressured him into wanting to say those words, and in fact, told him how i dont need to hear those from him at all because it doesnt matter to me. Well, tonight, we met, and a year now later he dropped it on me. We were in an intense "moment" and he said tell me how you feel about me, i said i love you, then he said...i love you too, i love you too....repeated it and all with intense passion and kissing. I was like WHOA! Why did he do this?? Why was he so sure he would never tell me that, and that hes not wanting to go there.....to then all the sudden over a year! later say it out of no where like that. Im over analyzing it i know. I just dont know if i should be happy or what......i just dont get why it took over a year and i really swear i thought id never hear him so those words. Link to post Share on other sites
wannabdone Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 Probably because he assumed, much like most of us that things could never get to the level of that intensity. These things are tricky in how they creep up on you, and you think you can keep yourself and your emotions in check, but in these circumstances, it is impossible. I am guessing you have to be happy that a man you love is saying he loves you as well. That would make anyone happy. Link to post Share on other sites
SugarHibiscus Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I'm in the position of your MM. I'm a mOW and have told my AP that he is not allowed to tell me he loves me and I don't tell him I love him. He always tries to get around it by saying stuff like "I REALLY REALLY like you" and "I could fall in love with you." The fact is, even if I don't want to say I love you to him or hear him say I love you, it's semantics and we really do love each other. The actual words are meaningless. It's our actions that count. Link to post Share on other sites
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