JustAGirl Posted January 27, 2001 Share Posted January 27, 2001 Hi! I was reading tony's replies to shelley's (?) questions and it made me wonder if i'm too available to my bf... we go to univ together... so i see him every morning (he comes w/ me even if his classes start later on)... i have lunch with him 5 days a week... he usually waits for me so we can commute home together... we usually go out on saturday night as well... inbetween, at leats 75% of the time we talk on ICq... phone isn't rlly used at all... we both dont like phone too much... I wonder if i should give him less of my time? if so, how can i make it look not obvious that i'm cutting his access to me? Also, i have a group of guy-friends that I go out with from time to time (eg later tonight)... my bf is naturally not very happy about this cuz sometimes i choose them over him... (i do see him soo much anyway after all) ... with the guy-friends, it's always a group... i'm not doing anything wrong, am i?? also, would it be OK not to tell him that i went out with this group sometimes, cuz it causes an unpleasant discussion every time? And after that he starts making jokes about "my other bf's"... whatddya say ppl? Thanks for all yr advice!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 27, 2001 Share Posted January 27, 2001 Good for you. Even though you see your boyfriend very often, it's probably because you insist on seeing your male friends on Friday night that his interest remains peaked. Just make him feel for an instant that he's the only thing you've got going in the world and see how fast things crumble. Just human nature. Right now, there's newness. However, in time seeing him so often will definitely work against you. Passion for any person is fired by their unpredictability. You have way too much in your relationship that is predictable and that's not a great thing. But as long as it's working for you, go for it. But one day you're going to have to go into a challenge mode to keep his mouth watering for you. Link to post Share on other sites
JustAGirl Posted January 27, 2001 Share Posted January 27, 2001 Gotcha! Thanks =)... newness : not really, we've been together for about 6 months. also, making out- wise - i know i should stop him at some point, but what's a gentle way of stopping it?... I simply turned away a couple times and he got a bit mad... just let him be mad a bit or do it softer? ... It's so hard to stop him also cuz i'm enjoying it myself so much... ... but i know that if i take a two-week break, he starts being like a puppy, like he'll do anything to be allowed to play with me... i try to take those breaks, but it's hard for me, also... hmm? Thnx - me Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 27, 2001 Share Posted January 27, 2001 Take shorter breaks, say, one week. I don't care how hard it is, it's what does the trick. But you have to do whatever works for you. Turning away when somebody's trying to kiss you is not the way. Just not even being there so often for them to try is what works. Link to post Share on other sites
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