If you want your MM to leave his wife, please read this. Some advice.

[Mr Spock]

Fear...of being alone, and of never having the chance of being a couple again if this one "gets away".

 

Power...of knowing that for the rest of the life of the relationship, the betrayed spouse will alway owe the one betrayed.

 

Commitment...better or worse, this is the promise. It is a vow that must be kept for the sake of honor and esteem.

 

Pride...that the person who strayed realized their value, and came home.

 

Children...teaching them that anything of value is worth giving your all...and giving them the gift of believing in happily ever after. That is an innocent belief that children of divorce cannot imagine would ever be true.

 

Scary canary.......

[li'l bunny]

I can understand that these would be reasons for staying together, but if your SO leaves you and comes back a year later....you have to adjust all over again and so do your kids. I still don't understand it, I guess if you're still in love with your ex a year later it's different but I think it might cause the kids more pain than it's worth.

 

I guess every relationship is different and feelings are very strong.

 

They say that it is that initial chemical reaction when you meet someone first is what causes people to leave their partners but that dies down in every relationship. People will be attracted to people throughout their lives, there's no doubt that being married or in a commiting relationship is difficult but people need to honour the promises that they made. They have to fight, if they meet someone they think might develop into something they need to avoid any situation with this person.

 

When you marry and have a family you have to compromise, you have to put your family first, you have to do your damndest not to hurt or betray anyone in that family (children included). People use human liberty as an excuse to be selfish and think of themselves, to be free means to make your own choices, yes but there are limits. There are always rules, laws. Common decency.

It is common decency not to cheat or lie or betray someone you love (apparently love?)