It's a relief to be the dumpee

[ponchsox]

It was a relief in a sense that I will never have the regret that I made the wrong decision if I was the dumper.

[Sugarkane]

Hell i wasnt relief to be a dumpee. I was in so much pain and need to pick myself up not to mention wasted alot of time to work hard to work over it.

RELIEF?

hell no

 

I agree and every time I've been dumped, the dumper never works on themselves and is always in anew relationship soon after.

[Kevin_D]

It was a relief in a sense that I will never have the regret that I made the wrong decision if I was the dumper.

 

Exactly. The reason I started this thread is because I tend to feel like a loser after being dumped. I got the girl, but couln't keep her. But then I realised that dumping someone out of the blue is actually like running away.

 

When things don't work out in my life, I work harder. I have other friends who give up immediately and try something else instead. My ex was likte this. If my was doing maths and had the wrong answers two times in a row, she would give up and say "This is too haaaaard". If she played a game and lost, she would say that the game was "too haaaard". And then she would go and do something else instead.

 

And she did the same thing now. Obviously, for some unknown reason, after being ridiculously clingy for 6 years, she decided that could have more fun elsewhere.

 

All I'm saying is that I'd rather be myself than her. Someone who almost never give up. If I fail, I try again even harder, instead of looking for a quick reward. She keeps living in the moment, buying stuff she can't afford, falling behind and then blames her father and boyfriend for her misery.

 

I have two dates coming up in the next couple of weeks and these girls seem really nice, but I'd still rather keep working on something that worked really well for 6 years.