swordlock827 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Has your ex ever said something along the lines of, "I don't love you anymore. We will never be together and to please stop having hope that we will be in the future because my feelings for this relationship has changed. If my feelings can get to this, it'll probably happen again if we got back together" And then come back---wanting you back? How did you handle it after he said those things? did you stay friends? Can I please hear your stories...I'm depressed Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Yep, I've had that happen. I ignored it. Link to post Share on other sites
flightplan Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 My ex said something along those lines... she didn't want to give me any hope. I sucked it up and dropped out of sight. Haven't talked to her in almost three months. Thats my way of kicking her to the curb and taking back control for myself. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mantlefan Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Has your ex ever said something along the lines of, "I don't love you anymore. We will never be together and to please stop having hope that we will be in the future because my feelings for this relationship has changed. If my feelings can get to this, it'll probably happen again if we got back together" And then come back---wanting you back? How did you handle it after he said those things? did you stay friends? Can I please hear your stories...I'm depressed Did your ex want you back, or is that what you are trying to plan for if it happens? Link to post Share on other sites
rosedl Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Exs often come back. Hell, mine did, I took him back, fell in love all over again, and (you guessed it!) dumped me again. If your ex still had feelings for you and they aren't resolved, chances are you will see a reappearance. If your ex is really done and it is clear, you may never hear from them again. Will my ex be back again? Everyone seems to think so, but he did say a lot of ....we can't be together right now.....and there was an opening in a lot of his letters, be it small. He is nuts about intimacy and relationships. No contact. Heal. It will go up and down. I can promise you it will get better. Even in my lousy broken hearted state. I am 42. I have survived more then one broken heart. You do get over it, and I have to say, I don't regret not being with any one of them now. So, have faith. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Jord11 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 They don't always do, she dumped me a year ago, never heard one word from her, told me she didn't love me anymore and left, they don't always do come back to say anything, she hasn't Link to post Share on other sites
Sam23 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 In some way or another, yes I think they do. I had a guy tell me he wanted nothing to do with me after things ended. Although he's never contacted me, I've caught him snooping on my LinkedIn account... More than once. I was thinking that was a sign he was going to try and reconnect, but now I can careless and think it's kind of humorous. So I guess, yea, they'll come back by either contacting or internet stalking you. But keep it moving. When they come back, it's never for good reasons. Keep it moving and let those calls go to vm if they ever do occur. Link to post Share on other sites
iouaname Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't! It's impossible to tell the future, and there are so many factors at play that make everyone's experience different. Your ex might come back - but here's the thing: there's nothing that you can do to make it happen. There are things you can do to make sure that it definitely DOESN'T happen (desperateness, etc.) Since you can't control it, you shouldn't worry about it. Go about your life. It's going to be painful for a while but it'll get easier! Eventually you'll care less and less about him and his situation and whether he'll come back or not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
singme2sleep Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't! It's impossible to tell the future, and there are so many factors at play that make everyone's experience different. Your ex might come back - but here's the thing: there's nothing that you can do to make it happen. There are things you can do to make sure that it definitely DOESN'T happen (desperateness, etc.) Since you can't control it, you shouldn't worry about it. Go about your life. It's going to be painful for a while but it'll get easier! Eventually you'll care less and less about him and his situation and whether he'll come back or not. Hey...how are you doing? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author swordlock827 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Share Posted January 16, 2014 I'm hoping for it to happen. I just love him so much and it's hard for me to believe what he says when he's cried over the thought of losing me or being far from me for too long. He found out a month ago he has to move to New York for a job next summer Link to post Share on other sites
Author swordlock827 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Share Posted January 16, 2014 Thank you. It's just hard for me to not think about and if I do stop thinking about it, I feel like in my heart I gave up and he really won't come back... Link to post Share on other sites
Author swordlock827 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Share Posted January 16, 2014 What did that person say to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author swordlock827 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Share Posted January 16, 2014 I'm just scared if I completely go out of contact he will get used to not talking to me Link to post Share on other sites
jphcbpa Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 I'm just scared if I completely go out of contact he will get used to not talking to me the worst case is you will be healing, growing, learning and a better person on the other side. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Juha Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Pretty much all my exes have come back no matter who ended the relationship. Have had many want to try again, couple just wanted to talk because they missed me, wanted to apologize and be friends, couple who were lonely and missed my comfort. Only my very short term relationships have been the ones who have not had contact. have had couple come back and did not "really" want to try again just wanted company and did not really want to try again. So who knows. It's all on them, what they feel and think about you and the relationship. My most recent we have been broken up for 3.5 months, I'm the dumpee. She has been in contact a handful of times. At first telling me she misses me and the guys are not as good as me, but not wanting to get back together. Most recent contact she has been angry, distant, and cold towards me for whatever reason(s). She has never talked about anything with us and what she is feeling. I don't think she will be coming back as she is very immature, selfish, and has a lot of maturing to do... Link to post Share on other sites
barky2 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 What's the point of asking this question? For us to give you false hope? Every single one of mine have come back. Sometimes 12+years later. It happens when you don't think of then, nor want anything to do with them. Who cares, live your life in the now, screw the future and past. Barky 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Sandy99 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 All my exes have come back if the relationship was at all significant to begin with. I think the problem is it's really hard to re-establish a relationship and a lot of second chances fail. I think it's even harder to trust a person who has done you wrong once, so the odds of the relationship working a second time go down. It probably depends a lot on how the relationship ended, though. What has happened for me is that after the relationship ends I disappear. I do this because I find it hard to keep in touch. At some point usually about 6 months later they re-appear. I think it takes about 6 months or so for the pain of the ending to wear off and the chances for a reconciliation seem more promising after around 6 to 8 months. I've never actually gotten back into a relationship with an ex, but I did have an on and off thing with one of them post-break up, until I finally got over them and have basically made it clear nothing will ever happen between us again. Link to post Share on other sites
iouaname Posted January 17, 2014 Share Posted January 17, 2014 Hey...how are you doing? Hi, Sing! I'm doing much better. Rough moments and a few slip ups, but my attitude towards things has improved so much and as a result, I'm doing much better. How are you?? Link to post Share on other sites
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