Has anyone ever married and stayed happy with their first love?

[liliana17]

I am 16 my bf is 19 we love each other and have been together for a year. :love:

[Quiet Storm]

Yes. My husband and I started dating when I was 15, him 17. Now I'm 37. We got married young and had three kids. We are happy and have a good life together.

 

It doesn't happen very much, though. You will change a lot in the next few years. A lot can happen. Don't let it derail your future plans. He should be an enhancement to your life, not your whole life. Always respect each other. No secrets or gameplaying. It should be a healthy, well balanced relationship.

 

I hope it works out for you. I think there is something special about being with your first love.

[twosadthings]

I'm an old guy and wasn't going to respond to a sixteen year old girl's (yourother) thread but I will this one. I'll be married forty one years in April and have loved my wife for forty three years. She was not the first woman I was with but she the first and only one I have loved. We have been faithful to one another for all of our committed relationship.

 

I can't and won't say if at sixteen you can be in love for the rest of your life but I will say that whatever relationship you are in should be conducted with respect for your partner and yourself. Faithlessness should never be tolerated or perpatrated on someone.

 

Even at your young age you know right from wrong, good from bad and smart from stupid and the consequences of bad, wrong and stupid choices. Always take that extra montent to think about the consequences before saying or doing something. Your life and the lives of those you love and who love you will be infinately better for it.

 

Good luck and stay strong,

 

Twosadthings

[d0nnivain]

It is incredibly rare.

 

 

I actually have 3 sets friends who are still together. One set met in 7th grade but they did break up for a year in college but got married after he graduated from medical school. Two sets met in high school. One got married when she finished nursing school at 19; the other set waiting until they both finished college.

 

 

If you haven't figured it out yet, the common thread is that all of these young couples waited until they were financially stable and could support themselves before heading down the aisle.

 

 

Understand, I have hundreds of friends. Just because maybe 1% made it against the odd does not mean you & your BF will. It doesn't mean you won't, but you can't count on it.

[mammasita]

I know quite a few couples (probably 5) from my high school that married and are still together. Not sure how happy they are IRL, but they appear happy on FaceCrack .

 

It's quite possible. Rare, but possible.

[liliana17]

Yes. My husband and I started dating when I was 15, him 17. Now I'm 37. We got married young and had three kids. We are happy and have a good life together.

 

It doesn't happen very much, though. You will change a lot in the next few years. A lot can happen. Don't let it derail your future plans. He should be an enhancement to your life, not your whole life. Always respect each other. No secrets or gameplaying. It should be a healthy, well balanced relationship.

 

I hope it works out for you. I think there is something special about being with your first love.

Thank you

[liliana17]

I'm an old guy and wasn't going to respond to a sixteen year old girl's (yourother) thread but I will this one. I'll be married forty one years in April and have loved my wife for forty three years. She was not the first woman I was with but she the first and only one I have loved. We have been faithful to one another for all of our committed relationship.

 

I can't and won't say if at sixteen you can be in love for the rest of your life but I will say that whatever relationship you are in should be conducted with respect for your partner and yourself. Faithlessness should never be tolerated or perpatrated on someone.

 

Even at your young age you know right from wrong, good from bad and smart from stupid and the consequences of bad, wrong and stupid choices. Always take that extra montent to think about the consequences before saying or doing something. Your life and the lives of those you love and who love you will be infinately better for it.

 

Good luck and stay strong,

 

Twosadthings

Thank you for the good advice

[pink_sugar]

I'm almost 25, been with my first since I was 16. We've had our share of ups and downs, but I feel like once things improve we can work things out.

[eleanorrigby]

I love the "I met my sweetheart at 16" love stories because I did as well. We met in high school, married at 21 and have two kids.

 

I love those stories but, I think we were lucky. Our marriage has been every which way but loose. I wouldn't advise anyone get married as young as we did. Take your time.

Edited January 18, 2014 by eleanorrigby

[xxoo]

Yes, I have!

 

Standard disclaimer: it's incredibly rare, we're super lucky, and I'd never suggest that anyone make it a goal. But yeah, we are stable and happy and still very much in love, 2 decades later.

[missthingy]

I married my boyfriend but waited 9 years before getting married. We met at 17 and now 36. It's nice to marry someone you have built up a deep friendship with but it's also difficult to be in such an intense relationship at a young age. I wouldn't want my daughter in a proper relationship until age 21 as it's so emotionally draining. I love my husband but he has changed a lot since we met. Unfortunately he is now in jail.

[lace5262]

I married my first. Together since I was 14, married him at 16 - been together almost 21 years now. Very stable and still very much in love.

 

It is very rare. We have been truly blessed.

[digdoug]

yes i met my wife she was 16 and i was 20. that was 34 years ago. we have been married 31 years coming up next month. the thing is, don't marry the one you think you can live with , marry the one you cant live without !!!