Story which made me killed her in my memories....

[ikilledher]

Was in a relationship for three years. We were together for 1 year and then the other two, was far away due to my work. This is how all happened.

 

I dated this girl who I cared so much for my life. Both of us loved each other so much. She was only 19 at that time (22 this year) and I was 25 (28 this year).

 

It was one hell of love story I can say. She was the dream girl who I will never forget. We used to live like a couple where ppl adore us.

 

We skyped like nobody skyped. We facetime like nobody did. Texting.. Sexting all this. It was all so beautiful. She was my motivation everyday. She was my strength, my whole.

 

I took care of her as if she was my jewel, I did for her everything she wanted. I saved my money just to go there and stay with her. We exchange gifts, we did everything.

 

But suddenly, last year during her final year, she was preparing for her finals. We didn't talk much. I am a person who has this sense. I can sense something was wrong. I asked and she said nothing was wrong.

 

Her messages became so cold. There is where I realise something was wrong. Guys I got an engagement ring just to go to her place after exams and ask her parents the permission.

 

But, she told me that her parents said he is living far away and you guys only see each other once a year. Then she said she was busy with her studies. But during her graduation night she slipped. Got drunk and went with other guy. But still I didn't believe what others told me, but when I asked her told tell me no. She still could say, "bby you know who am I" "do you trust me" ?

 

Then we decided to take a break, then after a three days I asked her lets just break up. But on Skype cuz I am a man who wanna met her and tell her off. but I was busy and far away.

 

Guys this killed me. In and out. I called her and tried to give up my life. Too much emotions and the heartache just killed me. Everyday even now. That's what made me to write it over here.

 

Now she walked away with someone else but don't have the guts to tell me. Just tell, I don't mind.

 

But no matter what I am still hurt over here, I still miss everything about her. Even if she falls I will be there to pick her up again. That's how deeply I am in love with her.

 

 

Now she doesn't even talk to me at all. Not a word.

 

Just need your thoughts.

 

Thanks

Edited January 16, 2014 by ikilledher

[nomadic_butterfly]

Was in a relationship for three years. We were together for 1 year and then the other two, was far away due to my work. This is how all happened.

 

I dated this girl who I cared so much for my life. Both of us loved each other so much. She was only 19 at that time (22 this year) and I was 25 (28 this year).

 

It was one hell of love story I can say. She was the dream girl who I will never forget. We used to live like a couple where ppl adore us.

 

We skyped like nobody skyped. We facetime like nobody did. Texting.. Sexting all this. It was all so beautiful. She was my motivation everyday. She was my strength, my whole.

 

I took care of her as if she was my jewel, I did for her everything she wanted. I saved my money just to go there and stay with her. We exchange gifts, we did everything.

 

But suddenly, last year during her final year, she was preparing for her finals. We didn't talk much. I am a person who has this sense. I can sense something was wrong. I asked and she said nothing was wrong.

 

Her messages became so cold. There is where I realise something was wrong. Guys I got an engagement ring just to go to her place after exams and ask her parents the permission.

 

But, she told me that her parents said he is living far away and you guys only see each other once a year. Then she said she was busy with her studies. But during her graduation night she slipped. Got drunk and went with other guy. But still I didn't believe what others told me, but when I asked her told tell me no. She still could say, "bby you know who am I" "do you trust me" ?

 

Then we decided to take a break, then after a three days I asked her lets just break up. But on Skype cuz I am a man who wanna met her and tell her off. but I was busy and far away.

 

Guys this killed me. In and out. I called her and tried to give up my life. Too much emotions and the heartache just killed me. Everyday even now. That's what made me to write it over here.

 

Now she walked away with someone else but don't have the guts to tell me. Just tell, I don't mind.

 

But no matter what I am still hurt over here, I still miss everything about her. Even if she falls I will be there to pick her up again. That's how deeply I am in love with her.

 

 

Now she doesn't even talk to me at all. Not a word.

 

Just need your thoughts.

 

Thanks

 

There's really not much we can say, everything was demystified and transparent. It's cliche but only time and perhaps a new romance in the future will heal the wound. Hopefully you are able to return the ring; maybe use that money for a nice vacation?

 

It always sucks when you think "this could be it" and it doesn't pan out but it is MUCH BETTER to find out BEFORE you get married than after. I believe most of the time when one door closes, it is to redirect you and sometimes catapult you into destiny; or at least one step closer to it.

 

You kind of have the luxury that many people don't: closure. You know exactly how she felt and exactly what went down (although from the horse's mouth would have been preferred). Not having closure and dealing with unknowns drives people nuts. And be honest with yourself; it's slightly unrealistic to try to forge a marriage with someone whom you barely see or spend time with in real life; humans are not naturally wired for LDRs. We need physical elements to complete what we may feel mentally and emotionally.

 

When you feel ready, just put yourself back out there again and in the right season a nice girl will come along. Further your career and continue to work towards self improvement in the meanwhile.

 

Do things that will clarify the brain and nourish the soul; meditate; eat healthy; work out; volunteer with the homeless. Put out positive energy in the atmosphere and do good for others in need and that will be manifested back to you in due time. All the best.

[justwhoiam]

My thoughts here below.

 

At times, one's lives take a different path or a different turn, away from the ones we love. You can't see what's behind that, or where that will lead you to. The only way to know all that is living. Probably the best part of your life has yet to come.

 

Also, your story is all rainbows and unicorns, and I suspect it might be different if we heard it from her side. People can perceive things in different ways. It's not uncommon that a spouse thinks everything's fine in the marriage, while it's not, and out of the blue, their significant other found someone else or leaves the marriage. I still respect your side of the story.

 

Now it's time you vent out all your frustration, sadness, rage. Try to think positive. She lives in a part of the world where it's common and justified to get drunk at night, but no matter how many young people engage in that in order to have fun, to me it's still stupid & dangerous, especially for a young lady. Quite likely, her loss.

[OnlyHonesty]

You made the common mistake of making someone your whole world. You also romanticized the relationship and placed her on a pedestal. I don't think you are ready to see the truth to be honest and it seems you had a Disney fairytale way of seeing this woman but now you have been bought back to reality. Learn from this.

[HeavenOrHell]

Other people do skype and text and sext a lot too, quite common in an LDR, it's not unique

If something seems too good to be true then it often is.

 

Heartbreak is something most of us go through, you will get through it, many people have been through far worse breaks up with people they've been living with for years, and they get through it after they've grieved.

 

You only met up once a year? That's not enough to sustain a r/ship. Did you have a year together in person before it became an LDR?

 

 

We skyped like nobody skyped. We facetime like nobody did. Texting.. Sexting all this. It was all so beautiful. She was my motivation everyday. She was my strength, my whole.

 

 

But, she told me that her parents said he is living far away and you guys only see each other once a year. Then she said she was busy with her studies. But during her graduation night she slipped. Got drunk and went with other guy. But still I didn't believe what others told me, but when I asked her told tell me no. She still could say, "bby you know who am I" "do you trust me" ?

 

Then we decided to take a break, then after a three days I asked her lets just break up. But on Skype cuz I am a man who wanna met her and tell her off. but I was busy and far away.

 

Guys this killed me. In and out. I called her and tried to give up my life. Too much emotions and the heartache just killed me. Everyday even now. That's what made me to write it over here.

 

Now she walked away with someone else but don't have the guts to tell me. Just tell, I don't mind.

 

But no matter what I am still hurt over here, I still miss everything about her. Even if she falls I will be there to pick her up again. That's how deeply I am in love with her.

 

 

Now she doesn't even talk to me at all. Not a word.

 

Just need your thoughts.

 

Thanks

[dreamingoftigers]

Was in a relationship for three years. We were together for 1 year and then the other two, was far away due to my work. This is how all happened.

 

I dated this girl who I cared so much for my life. Both of us loved each other so much. She was only 19 at that time (22 this year) and I was 25 (28 this year).

 

It was one hell of love story I can say. She was the dream girl who I will never forget. We used to live like a couple where ppl adore us.

 

We skyped like nobody skyped. We facetime like nobody did. Texting.. Sexting all this. It was all so beautiful. She was my motivation everyday. She was my strength, my whole.

 

I took care of her as if she was my jewel, I did for her everything she wanted. I saved my money just to go there and stay with her. We exchange gifts, we did everything.

 

But suddenly, last year during her final year, she was preparing for her finals. We didn't talk much. I am a person who has this sense. I can sense something was wrong. I asked and she said nothing was wrong.

 

Her messages became so cold. There is where I realise something was wrong. Guys I got an engagement ring just to go to her place after exams and ask her parents the permission.

 

But, she told me that her parents said he is living far away and you guys only see each other once a year. Then she said she was busy with her studies. But during her graduation night she slipped. Got drunk and went with other guy. But still I didn't believe what others told me, but when I asked her told tell me no. She still could say, "bby you know who am I" "do you trust me" ?

 

Then we decided to take a break, then after a three days I asked her lets just break up. But on Skype cuz I am a man who wanna met her and tell her off. but I was busy and far away.

 

Guys this killed me. In and out. I called her and tried to give up my life. Too much emotions and the heartache just killed me. Everyday even now. That's what made me to write it over here.

 

Now she walked away with someone else but don't have the guts to tell me. Just tell, I don't mind.

 

But no matter what I am still hurt over here, I still miss everything about her. Even if she falls I will be there to pick her up again. That's how deeply I am in love with her.

 

 

Now she doesn't even talk to me at all. Not a word.

 

Just need your thoughts.

 

Thanks

 

I noticed your location is in Canada.

Sounds like you had the typical "Riggers Romance."

 

That type of work pays well but does not often bode well for relationships with young women.

 

I am an Albertan. I see it all the time.

One of my neighbours ran off with her husband's brother while he was up North.

 

I honestly think that part of it is that while men love to claim that they are "visually stimulated." Women need that touch. Pure, regular affectionate touch to supplement kind words on a regular basis.

[justwhoiam]

You only met up once a year? That's not enough to sustain a r/ship.

That in itself is not necessarily the cause for a breakup, though it might have contributed to it.

 

Sounds like you had the typical "Riggers Romance."

What's that?

 

Women need that touch. Pure, regular affectionate touch to supplement kind words on a regular basis.

I can't argue with that. But again, that alone is not necessarily a cause for a breakup. If you fall out of love AND missing touch, I say a breakup is almost a sure outcome.