RedHawk08 Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 In my 10th month of separation I've been facing up to the harsh reality that I can't stop this divorce. Whether she's extremely insulted by my accusations of an affair or she's deep in Affair Fog. I may never know. Truth be told, I've been been pretty distracted with a big future health concern of an immediate family member. I got a call out of the blue from a friend of my family. "Don't do anything regards the wife. Stand back! I think I just got through". So apparently, this friend of the family took it upon herself to visit my wife at her work. To ask her to "go easier on me" with regards divorce with this recent family problem. Apparently my wife started crying. Admitted how scared she was, how much she loved my sister and missed her. (My sister is MUCH younger than myself and considered my wife a bit of a role model). My friend then informed her how much all my family missed "their daughter" (referring to her) and she seemed genuinely surprised! Said how much she missed them all. My wife then hugged my friend three times and said "It's wonderful to finally have a friend I can trust". Apparently, she can no longer trust those friends of hers that encouraged our split. I'm relieved that my wife now has a friend she can actually trust. When asked if she needed to talk, my wife gave her another hug and said "It's all such a mess. Such a big mess". Then had to go back to work. I've heard they are meeting up soon. A good mutual friend between us (who has had worse marriage troubles than ours) will be interesting. I'm just glad she has finally seen those two poisonous bastard friends of hers for who they are! Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 I'm just glad she has finally seen those two poisonous bastard friends of hers for who they are! Although it's positive news, don't hold your breath. They will often swing back and forth many times as to what they think they should be doing, who to take advice from, and who to consider their friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RedHawk08 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Share Posted January 16, 2014 Oh I agree with you, it's always best to veer on the side of caution with a WS. However, I've just learned that my wife has been in contact with this family friend already! Very surprising considering her highly defensive nature lately. My wife was once fiercely defensive of her friends, they could do no wrong. Judging by their conversation tonight, my wife's fog is lifting and asking about my family a lot. She misses them terribly. The family friend said that she spoke to the wife that she always knew tonight. Friendly and chatty. Far removed from the cold, hard personna she has adopted over last year. Trust us being built between them and we'll see what the real story might be. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 17, 2014 Share Posted January 17, 2014 Your wife has felt the consequences of her actions, she sees what she's losing and what true friends she has. .. Her fog is lifting. I say sit back and see what happens next with no pressure or making any major decisions. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RedHawk08 Posted January 17, 2014 Author Share Posted January 17, 2014 Your wife has felt the consequences of her actions, she sees what she's losing and what true friends she has. .. Her fog is lifting. I say sit back and see what happens next with no pressure or making any major decisions. That's exactly what I intend doing. NOTHING! haha I'm guessing receiving the wedding things and having to acrually fill out the divorce papers is waking her up a bit too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RedHawk08 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Share Posted January 22, 2014 Well, the pair of them seem to be getting along great! Not a whole lot of contact at the moment with my wife's heavy work commitments. But she's being very friendly with this friend of my family. It does puzzle me a little why she's gotten so friendly with someone she almost viewed as "an enemy" (deleted from Facebook like a lot of my family when this started). Whatever happens won't happen overnight. That's not her way. Maybe this new friend is a "Stepping Stone" as she's realising the mistakes she's made. Link to post Share on other sites
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