Tayken Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 (edited) The more I think about this matter the more I come to the conclusion that no man really wants to get married and have kids. Now could it be that you are getting boys mixed up with men here? I don't which "men" you have met thus far, and how you can come to that conclusion baffles me. Men are simple creatures and they are satisfied with way less things than women. From what I've seen in my environment men feel obliged to get married either cause the woman gets pregnant or cause the woman wants to have kids so they have to marry them in order to keep them happy. Again, some serious generalization here...have you paused to consider the role culture, race, geographical location etc plays in all this? Any woman getting pregnant without first not discussing that life decision with a partner, is not a "woman" in my book, and the fact that a woman gets pregnant won't be a valid reason for me to marry her...it will be a reason for me personally to run away from her but take care of "our child". That's why the saying goes "marriage is the cost men pay in order to have sex and sex is the cost women pay to get married". A very wise person also said this.......spiritual relationship is far more precious than physical. Physical relationship divorced from spiritual is body without soul Men still want to get married but many are starting to believe it is too risky. I have heard men describe marriage as playing russian roulette with your life and I can understand why they feel that way. I am glad you can see why some men feel that way. I got married in my 30s, raised someone else's child from toddler to teenage years and didn't even have a say in upbringing, had my own in the middle of all that. Now when I asked to part way...the person I thought I knew, turned into a monster $$$$ wise. Yes am paying CS for a child that isn't mine, and one that is mine Would I do such a thing again, or get into a relationship with someone with a child or a person that doesn't earn close to or the same as me? Hell NO I have been there with marriage, and now that am in my 40s, don't feel the need to do it again. Oh...not even common law cos that could end up costing you 50% too. Yes I know people are not all the same, but with a 50/50 chance, it's just not worth taking that risk. Unfortunately there are a lot of people out there just looking for someone to carry them and put a roof over their head, and they think by showing some affection or saying they love you is enough to achieve this. Edited February 2, 2014 by Tayken Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 The more I think about this matter the more I come to the conclusion that no man really wants to get married and have kids. Marriage, maybe... but kids are not for me. Largely because I remember how unfun it was to be a kid. I just don't understand why it's so taboo to want a partner who's infertile or happy being kidless. Link to post Share on other sites
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