sighh Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 first off i'd like to thank everybody who posts on this forum! i've been lurking and reading up alot this past week and it's deffinantly helped me. my situation: my girl of 3 years left me just before christmas basically did a 180 out of nowhere i've come to a conclusion it was a case of "GIGS" she used too tell me about how she hates the "gym type" guys with good bodys because they're all cocky and arrogant. few days after we break up she's adding all these random gym guys and it bugged me... not that she's getting to know good looking guys but the fact that in our relationship she just fed me bull****. i know through her sister she's been hanging out with a few of these guys she's just started talking too which is really weird for her she is usually so reserved. i've taken a big step back and looked at the big picture, these last 3 weeks ive been nothing but kind, polite and given her some space but nothing seems to be changing or looking to change. Last night we had a big talk, we still love eachother and care about eachother but she wants to be herself and not be in a relationship, for me? i can't see myself with her if she's doing this sort of stuff it's not who i thought she was. I told her if i continue to be her friend i'm just leading myself off a cliff and i'll eventually end up hurt. So thismorning I sent her a massive message basically just thanking her for the last 3 years n how i'd never forget her and all that stuff and told her i can't talk too her anymore, i don't want to do this but i need to do this for me. her reply was something along the lines of she understands i need to do this and hopefully in a few months when we've both moved on we could build a friendship again but untill then i should look after myself and make the most of this situation. don't know why im posting here, i think coz a part of me wants her to come back too me once she's seen or done what she needs to do. she was amazing better than any girl i've ever had and yeah it's sad to see her go but what can ya do? you can't force somebody to be with you. so now i start no contact. it's gonna be rough but i've deleted her from all social media and deleted her number. if she wants to be friends bad enough she'll somehow find me i guess. Here we go with day 1 moving on, i guess i'll just post in here whenever i feel like speaking too her thanks guys! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sighh Posted February 4, 2014 Author Share Posted February 4, 2014 going into day 17 now it's a bit easier but i still have my down days where i have almost cracked and i think to myself "why hasn't she spoken too me yet" i feel silly for holding onto some hope that she will contact me and other times i just feel like i actually do not care if she does or not? it's so weird. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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