with Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 Week before our fight my exbf is trying to get back with me. I'm having my pms and I'm having a very bad day when my friends started telling me that my ex bf is dating my friend and always having dinner. I got upset which I know I shouldn't have and accused him of being a flirt, some of our friends heard this and started gossiping about it. Then now I'm hearing gossips about my exbf being a flirt and a cheater. I feel bad about this. I apologized to him and explained the reason for my actions. Now he is ignoring me. Link to post Share on other sites
Joaquin Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 What do they have for dinner? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 We women are so sensitive. 21 days of the month. the remaining 7 or so, we have PMS. Or as I call it, "The eyes and mouth unclouded by BS" time. In PMS there is raw truth. The rest of the time, we tend to try to be dignified, tactful, restrained and polite. Sometimes, it's an act. But PMS-time, is raw truth. And it pays to listen to a woman venting, when she has PMS. That's the time you'll REALLY get the facts as to how she's really feeling. Lesson, guys, good lesson here..... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 Week before our fight my exbf is trying to get back with me. I'm having my pms and I'm having a very bad day when my friends started telling me that my ex bf is dating my friend and always having dinner. I got upset which I know I shouldn't have and accused him of being a flirt, some of our friends heard this and started gossiping about it. Then now I'm hearing gossips about my exbf being a flirt and a cheater. I feel bad about this. I apologized to him and explained the reason for my actions. Now he is ignoring me. He's your EX. He can have dinner & flirt with anybody he wants. Why are you even discussing him or thinking about him? Who cares what the gossip vine says about him? If he's not talking to you, you are probably better off. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 Actually, two things: There are varying degrees of 'behaviour' and some women are both prone to, and subject to great variations in their characters and temperaments. If you blame it on their PMS - make sure they have PMS. And I am completely up-front and honest, when I'm in PMS-mode. THAT is the time you will get cold, hard facts about how I feel about things, or how certain situations affect me. I tend to be far more abrupt, forthright and bare-faced honest at those times. Come to think of it, it's highly likely those are he times I've got into trouble on here with the Moderators.... I'll have to keep track in future.... Link to post Share on other sites
thedmc Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 with - He is your ex. He can have dinner with and date with whomever he wants. Also stop using PMS as an excuse for being bitter that he found someone before you did. KFC - I agree with you 100%. So sick of women using that an excuse and think that it immediately gets them off w/e they did wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatMan Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 with - He is your ex. He can have dinner with and date with whomever he wants. Also stop using PMS as an excuse for being bitter that he found someone before you did. KFC - I agree with you 100%. So sick of women using that an excuse and think that it immediately gets them off w/e they did wrong. I agree. But not every woman out there has uncontrollable anger problems when PSMing. Being unaccountable for yourself is a very unbecoming trait and I'd rather not deal with it. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 This is going to sound patronising, and I apologise for that, but there's precious few ways to convey this: Sadly there are many women who do have extremely severe emotional/psychological problems with PMS. And (here's the patronising bit ) it's very difficult for some men to get their heads around this, or even give credence to it, because it seems they don't have similar hormone-run issues. As the joke goes, 'If men had PMS - who'd notice?' I realise it's easy to dismiss having PMS as an excuse for bad behaviour, but for (thankfully) a relatively small percentage of women, PMS has very serious consequences. Even suffering from mild to moderate PMS can affect daily life. This is why I used to advise my ex-H, "I think I'm in my PMS days...." and he would reply with the same response every time "Oh god, Truth or Dare time!" Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 Tara you share saying with PMS you get truth. Not in my experience. What I have seen is irrationality , and a willingness to argue. A deadly combination of a desire to fight over nothing and win. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 How women handle it, is a different matter altogether. Just be aware that, no matter HOW a woman conveys what she's feeling - and I grant you, it may be as you say - there is a greater grain of in-your-face truth there, than can be discerned the remainder of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 How women handle it, is a different matter altogether. Just be aware that, no matter HOW a woman conveys what she's feeling - and I grant you, it may be as you say - there is a greater grain of in-your-face truth there, than can be discerned the remainder of the time. I was quite literally screamed at because I got milk chocolate and she wanted dark chocolate. She was inches from my face yelling at me. How am I supposed to take that seriously lol. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 Don't be flippant.... I was actually referring to serious, in-depth, personal, highly emotive topics.... Oh.... Hang on...... Chocolate. yes, I see. You don't get that? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 I was quite literally screamed at because I got milk chocolate and she wanted dark chocolate. She was inches from my face yelling at me. How am I supposed to take that seriously lol. Actually, on a serious note, if you check out the link I gave you, that's why you really should take it seriously. Women with extremely severe cases of PMS have maimed, wounded and even killed. Pms Defense | Successful PMS defense in Virginia case revives debate - Baltimore Sun http://www.aic.gov.au/media_library/publications/proceedings/16/easteal2.pdf 10 Most Bizarre Legal Defenses (legal defense) - ODDEE (item #3) Link to post Share on other sites
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