Cheated on after 1,5 years

[BrokenGuy85]

Do you think I should start dating right away?

 

I don't want her back. I don't want anything to do with her. I'm still down, but not because I lost her, more because of the crap she did.

 

I'm not gonna become a recluse and will be going out and socializing as much as I can. I don't know whether I should jump into another relationship right away.

 

As for her friends. I wasn't really tight with them before. What to say if they invite me to whatever meeting? Should I keep in contact with them at all?

[aliveagain]

It's done thing. She didn't try to fight for me though. In fact she dig it even deeper.

 

Guess who drove her to pick up those items? The very same guy she "only kissed" and was FWB with! He tried to act like nothing happened but I had none of it. I almost wanted to beat him up, but I barely managed to stop myself. They were fake nice to me until the end, when all was done they ostensibly made out in front of me. I really wanted to beat him up, it's a miracle I didn't.

 

So much for "just friends". How could she do this to me? Just over a week earlier she'd snuggle up to me, look at me lovingly and say "I love you". Now she's pulling crap like that.

 

I already started deleting and blocking her on any social media. Hate her guts and hopefully will never have to deal with her again.:mad:

 

Remember these images when you think of her, they will help you get over her quicker and remind you of the bullet you just dogged. Don't hold her selfishness against other woman, there's an honest one out there just waiting to meet you.

[JDPT]

Detach yourself fully, from her and her friends. No need to have people lingering around who will eventually remind you of a nasty person sooner or later.

With regards to dating, I always suggest to take your time as there is no need to rush. Learn from this experience and allow it all to sink in. See how you feel in the next coming days and prepare yourself emotionally for a potential emotional rollercoaster, be very vigilant. Be strong man you will come out of this a new and improved you.

[gaius]

Where are the people at the start of this thread who said it was just a kiss so no big deal? Experience had taught me it almost never just a kiss. It is usually much more than that.

On a date *cough* excuse me, hanging out with their male friends I'm sure. They don't have time to post here all day.

 

[Joaquin]

Do you think I should start dating right away?

 

I don't want her back. I don't want anything to do with her. I'm still down, but not because I lost her, more because of the crap she did.

 

I'm not gonna become a recluse and will be going out and socializing as much as I can. I don't know whether I should jump into another relationship right away.

 

As for her friends. I wasn't really tight with them before. What to say if they invite me to whatever meeting? Should I keep in contact with them at all?

 

No. I would leave her to her friends, including her special friend, and u move on with yr own friends and life. No gd will come in the weeks and months ahead of u having to see her and this guy. You'll probably just end up hitting him, which could land u in trouble.

 

Take the high road. Move on from her completely.

[drifter777]

Do you think I should start dating right away?

 

I don't want her back. I don't want anything to do with her. I'm still down, but not because I lost her, more because of the crap she did.

 

I'm not gonna become a recluse and will be going out and socializing as much as I can. I don't know whether I should jump into another relationship right away.

 

As for her friends. I wasn't really tight with them before. What to say if they invite me to whatever meeting? Should I keep in contact with them at all?

Dating? Yes, get back into life as soon as you can. Push yourself - this is something that will help you heal and move on.

 

Her friends? No contact. Period. You don't have to be a jerk about it, just tell them you are moving on and leaving everything about her behind. They'll understand and stop trying to maintain contact.

 

Move on.

[Chi townD]

Wait, they're at YOUR place packing up her sh*t and they started making out right in front of you?!?! AT YOUR place?!?! WHAT A BITCH!!!!

 

I would have been in jail. You're the man, because they would be in the hospital and I would be sitting in lock up.

 

WOW!

[Chi townD]

Do you think I should start dating right away?

 

I don't want her back. I don't want anything to do with her. I'm still down, but not because I lost her, more because of the crap she did.

 

I'm not gonna become a recluse and will be going out and socializing as much as I can. I don't know whether I should jump into another relationship right away.

 

As for her friends. I wasn't really tight with them before. What to say if they invite me to whatever meeting? Should I keep in contact with them at all?

 

If you weren't tight with them, then I wouldn't worry about it. They probably won't call you because they're tighter with her than with you.

 

Just move on. Chances are, somewhere down the line she's going to feel guilty about what she did in front of you. I would speculate that you're going to get an email from her an maybe an apology about her behavior. And her trying to explain what happened between the two of you. I would just ignore it. Plus, you won't see that email for months if ever.

 

What the f*ck is wrong with that whore! Making out with him in front of you?!?! Really! I don't know how the hell you held it together. She probably thought it was cute...

[lolablue17]

What the f*ck is wrong with that whore! Making out with him in front of you?!?! Really! I don't know how the hell you held it together. She probably thought it was cute...

 

NO.

She didnt think its cute. she wanted the upper hand. she wanted to damage his feelings. she wanted to hurt him as much as she can as a revenge.

 

Its the same type of a woman that in 10-15 years later will have no inhibitions to hurt her children just as a move against her TBXH.

[BrokenGuy85]

Wait, they're at YOUR place packing up her sh*t and they started making out right in front of you?!?! AT YOUR place?!?! WHAT A BITCH!!!!

 

I would have been in jail. You're the man, because they would be in the hospital and I would be sitting in lock up.

 

WOW!

 

 

Not at my place. They were already outside by the car and all things were taken out. I was outside too and actually helping them because I wanted it to be over as soon as possible and not see them ever again. Then I seen what I've seen. Maybe should have just stayed inside and let them struggle.

 

Then again when I think of her, I want to punch stuff, so maybe better not.

 

As for her friends, well I don't remember them contacting me ever outside of sth related to my ex, so I suppose they won't anyway. They didn't so far. Whatever, especially if they knew all along and hid it from me.

[BrokenGuy85]

If you weren't tight with them, then I wouldn't worry about it. They probably won't call you because they're tighter with her than with you.

 

Just move on. Chances are, somewhere down the line she's going to feel guilty about what she did in front of you. I would speculate that you're going to get an email from her an maybe an apology about her behavior. And her trying to explain what happened between the two of you. I would just ignore it. Plus, you won't see that email for months if ever.

 

What the f*ck is wrong with that whore! Making out with him in front of you?!?! Really! I don't know how the hell you held it together. She probably thought it was cute...

 

I didn't really. I didn't beat him up but said "F*** you" loudly. I rarely if ever say that. She must have satisfaction she pushed my buttons, because she did.

 

And if she ever tells me she's sorry like a decent person would, I probably won't see that. I already blocked her on whatever social media I was in contact with her. All her emails go straight to trash now.

[Chi townD]

Well, when she told you that you were making a big deal out of nothing. That was a lie. If she was brazen and comfortable enough to do that infront of you, then a lot more probably has been going on.

 

So, I'm guessing someone caught them together and she had to say something before word got back to you.

 

Yep! Leave her in your rear view mirror and move on with your life. Make positive changes. Take a trip somewhere.

 

Did you block her number from your phone?

[BeholdtheMan]

I hate to say it, but this hardly constitutes cheating.

Cheating, in this scenario, would be her ringing you from his bed, after sex and apologising.

She had too much to drink and was inappropriate and indiscreet.

And he went for the kiss first, not her.

 

You heard it from her first, nobody else.

 

Really, you need to put this into perspective.

 

I can't really term this cheating.

Being tipsy, silly and unguarded, yes.

 

Cheating?

 

No, sorry.

Can't see it being that dramatic.

 

Every time I look back at this I LOL

 

I try not to be a cynical person, but it's hard when I'm proven right almost every single time

[BrokenGuy85]

Well, when she told you that you were making a big deal out of nothing. That was a lie. If she was brazen and comfortable enough to do that infront of you, then a lot more probably has been going on.

 

So, I'm guessing someone caught them together and she had to say something before word got back to you.

 

Yep! Leave her in your rear view mirror and move on with your life. Make positive changes. Take a trip somewhere.

 

Did you block her number from your phone?

 

Maybe they knew. I didn't really care about them so I'm not that pissed off at them. But I have no reason to ever see them again or the other way round.

 

Their numbers are deleted from my contact list. Her number is blocked too.

 

I'd like to take a trip, but I need to save some more spare money just to be safe. Then in the summer I'll probably go somewhere.

 

Every time I look back at this I LOL

 

I try not to be a cynical person, but it's hard when I'm proven right almost every single time

 

When I first saw that post I got kinda angry. I mean I thought "who you are to tell me I'm wrong and what is cheating and what is not?" That was pretty rude. Then it was followed with some more personal attacks, how immature I am, etc.

 

I don't get how rude some people can be.

 

Then again my ex set the bar high (or low).

[ThatMan]

I was peeved after reading those messages myself. Women aren't hapless victims waiting to be kissed by strangers during the very first party they go to alone. There are plenty of decent people out there who you can trust to go out by themselves. You'll find somebody than this loser when you're ready.

[Envy_rodge]

I hate to say it, but this hardly constitutes cheating.

Cheating, in this scenario, would be her ringing you from his bed, after sex and apologising.

She had too much to drink and was inappropriate and indiscreet.

And he went for the kiss first, not her.

 

You heard it from her first, nobody else.

 

Really, you need to put this into perspective.

 

I can't really term this cheating.

Being tipsy, silly and unguarded, yes.

 

Cheating?

 

No, sorry.

Can't see it being that dramatic.

 

Nonsense. This is for sure cheating. I would assume she did more, and get out of the relationship now. In situations like this women tend to only tell you 70% of the truth.

[Envy_rodge]

This is cheating behavior, kissing is cheating. Things like this get worse not better. If she respected you, she would not even consider doing this, or put herself in the situation.

 

If anything she did more. If not more, this is still cheating. You kissing some one else won't help anything. The only solution is to dump her, go ghost on her. Why would you give her a chance to mess up again.

 

A woman who doesn't respect you doesn't love you. Women who respect you will be loyal to you 100%, at all times.

 

Also, its no very good to look for advice from women about this. They will put themselves in her shoes, and think well if it was me and I kissed a guy, its not that bad, its not cheating, blah blah blah, rationalizing it as not cheating behavior.

 

Only low quality women think this is not cheating.

[BrokenGuy85]

I was peeved after reading those messages myself. Women aren't hapless victims waiting to be kissed by strangers during the very first party they go to alone. There are plenty of decent people out there who you can trust to go out by themselves. You'll find somebody than this loser when you're ready.

 

When you say that, my ex often liked to pretend she was helpless and for me to take care of whatever she pretended she couldn't do, then when I did it she stroked my ego. I thought this is cute, but looks like it's a habit she took way too far.

 

I guess this is the red flag I will be watching out for in future.