healthydude Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 I'm 22 Male, never been to a bar/lounge I just want to know what its like to be there. I don't really drink liquor but I can take few sips just for the sake of it. I just graduated college (I'm registered Emergency Nurse) and now I own a really good business. I'm just thinking whether should going to a bar is a must do? I'd like to know what experienced people (Men and Women/Girls and Boys) can say about going to a bar. Kind Regards Link to post Share on other sites
Kokoro-Fan Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 I'm in my mid 20s and I only went to the bar twice when I was 21 and only because my friends went there. I don't drink or anything though. I don't like the bar's atmosphere. People I know think it's weird I don't drink or go to bars. I don't see anything weird about that though. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 I'm 22 Male, never been to a bar/lounge I just want to know what its like to be there. I don't really drink liquor but I can take few sips just for the sake of it. I just graduated college (I'm registered Emergency Nurse) and now I own a really good business. I'm just thinking whether should going to a bar is a must do? I'd like to know what experienced people (Men and Women/Girls and Boys) can say about going to a bar. Kind Regards It's not a must do. However, if it is something you're really curious about, there are bars all over and lounges and it's not that risqué of a thing to do that requires any great planning or forethought, so you can just stop by one. I have friends who don't really drink but will hang out at lounges and bars with the rest of us and we'll order food and they will get non-alcoholic drinks. Most lounges and bars have music and food so even if you don't drink it's not as though there is nothing for you to do, so if you really want to see what it's like, round up a few friends and hit one up. I don't think you'll be that impressed though lol. There are some nice lounges and bars, although I've been going to lounges and bars for years so I'm used to it, but maybe your first time will feel like when you're 18 and don't get carded and get into a bar/club, very thrilling, but then you realize it's not that amazing. Link to post Share on other sites
Eau Claire Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 My boyfriend and I have never been to a bar together other than the adjunct to a restaurant while waiting for our table. The chance of friends and I going into a stand alone bar are zero. We like to go dancing but always at community centres, socials, restaurants, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Scales Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 What its like: Loud and competitive. Can't say its ever been easy to meet new people in a bar or lounge environment. If you are wondering if going to a bar is a must for meeting a girl, its actually one of the most difficult areas to meet one. The only reason is popular is because women drink and are more open to talking to guys. Nightclubs are much better as you can just dance with girls and skip the conversation until afterwards. Lounges at least are a little more toned down and its easier to converse but everyone is sitting down and it feels like you are approaching people at a restaurant. It really depends on the country to. UK has different pub and club culture than the US and its much better. As a DJ of 5 years, I can tell you most of the time bars and clubs are a sausage party in the US. If you are going to relax and have a nice time, you will meet no one. If you are going to meet girls, bring your A game because guys in those environments are aggressive and experienced. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 OP, I didn't even start drinking alcohol until my 30's and probably didn't see the inside of a bar with any regularity until I was married and socializing with my exW's friends. IMO, you're not missing much if you've no interest in drinking or that kind of socializing. However, I have run into some pretty good bands and singers at bars so, if you like music, duck in if you hear some good stuff going on. Push your way to the bar (it's usually 3-4 deep where I've been) get the barkeeps attention (eye contact or motioning with money in hand has always worked for me), get what you want and then dive into whatever interests you.... conversations, attractive women, pool, dancing, watching whatever is on the video, etc, etc. TBH, I found bars in Oz, NZ and Europe to be more interesting than those I've been in here in the US. Probably my 'best' bar experience was in a little town in Australia where they closed the CBD for a music festival and we could wander, inebriated, from bar to bar and dance the night away. My strongest recollection was, in marked contrast to the rep Aussie males have for thuggish behavior, they were amazingly such gentleman and always looking out for the ladies and their safety, since it was pitch dark with drunks wandering the streets. Lotsa fun. Good luck in your business and no biggie IMO if you miss out on the bar thing. There's a lot more to life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author healthydude Posted January 19, 2014 Author Share Posted January 19, 2014 Thanks for the awesome response guys! I just had to ask this because I somehow feel when I watch TV, I often encounter scenes where people say "you need to go to a bar" etc. And yeah I won't go to a bar LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 Have you ever been to a restaurant? Many have bars attached. It's not much different. It's dark. It may be smoky. Odds are it may be crowded & loud. If you are curious go to one. You don't have to drink. I was in 3 different bars on Friday. I had a coke in one, nothing at the other & a glass of water at the 3rd. You also don't have to stay if you don't like it. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 If you just graduated from college, it should be no biggie. It's MUCH easier to loosen up if it's one of those bars where 90%+ are students, because you can spout all that university lingo and fit right in. I stopped doing the bar scene at age 23 because I figured out everyone else in those places was ignoring me (I went straight from high school to work). I swear those college people in the bar could smell that I was a non-student. Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Was going to go to a bar or lounge to try to pull some girls but after reading your post. I would think otherwise. If bars and lounges in the states are full of guys, I am staying well clear of them. What its like: Loud and competitive. Can't say its ever been easy to meet new people in a bar or lounge environment. If you are wondering if going to a bar is a must for meeting a girl, its actually one of the most difficult areas to meet one. The only reason is popular is because women drink and are more open to talking to guys. Nightclubs are much better as you can just dance with girls and skip the conversation until afterwards. Lounges at least are a little more toned down and its easier to converse but everyone is sitting down and it feels like you are approaching people at a restaurant. It really depends on the country to. UK has different pub and club culture than the US and its much better. As a DJ of 5 years, I can tell you most of the time bars and clubs are a sausage party in the US. If you are going to relax and have a nice time, you will meet no one. If you are going to meet girls, bring your A game because guys in those environments are aggressive and experienced. Link to post Share on other sites
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