A girl asked me if I had a girlfriend?

[Talldude43]

So, I honestly didn't see this coming. It happened at work and I try my best to not mix business with pleasure... Since there's drama around every corner.

 

I had to go to the main office to drop off a few things and pickup some gear. The office reception told me not to walk to close to her. I said why, do I intimidate you? I don't know if she said anything. So we walk in the back to get that gear. Once we get into the room she asked me if I had a girlfriend.. Now her back was to me,and I casually say no. I don't have a girlfriend. She doesn't say anything, so I go I dont care how tall she is. And she said tall or short? I was very cautious on what I say, so I just say I don't care.

 

I honestly that shs was making conversation,but i'm wondering why she asked. I'm thinking curiosity? There were other women in the office too, and were asking me questions and were giggly before one asked how tall I was. This was before me and the reception went to the back room. I'm honestly kicking myself for not asking her if she had a boyfriend.

 

I have been asked before "how tall is your girlfriend"(not by her). so, i assumed this was the same question, but said differently.

Edited January 19, 2014 by Talldude43

[d0nnivain]

Women (& men) ask all sorts of creative Qs about a person's potential BF/GF to find out if the person is single. It's a very low key non threating, low risk way of showing polite interest. If the person answers the Q with info about their SO, the asker just accepts the info & moves on. If the lack of a SO is revealed, then the ask is free to continue flirting.

[Talldude43]

Women (& men) ask all sorts of creative Qs about a person's potential BF/GF to find out if the person is single. It's a very low key non threating, low risk way of showing polite interest. If the person answers the Q with info about their SO, the asker just accepts the info & moves on. If the lack of a SO is revealed, then the ask is free to continue flirting.

 

That makes sense, I rarely see this person. Do you think it is too late to ask if she has a boyfriend? It happened on friday. I just don't want to get caught up into work drama.

 

Thanks for your feedback!

[d0nnivain]

If you don't want to get caught up in work drama don't mix your business life with your personal life.

 

 

If you want to date her, asking about a possible BF is a good idea.

[Talldude43]

Women (& men) ask all sorts of creative Qs about a person's potential BF/GF to find out if the person is single. It's a very low key non threating, low risk way of showing polite interest. If the person answers the Q with info about their SO, the asker just accepts the info & moves on. If the lack of a SO is revealed, then the ask is free to continue flirting.

 

If you don't want to get caught up in work drama don't mix your business life with your personal life.

 

I made the mistake of telling another friend/coworker what happened. I think this other coworker likes me, but she is so closed off. Nonetheless she was not happy one of the office workers were hitting on me. She said "why didn't you tell her that you're talking to someone else" .. I'm like what?! she now gets mad that I talk about any woman to her.. even if I mention another friend of ours.

 

I'm going to be lowkey and if it happens again, I will presue and ask het if she has a boyfriend. she threw me off with thay question,very random. It was like she wait until no one was around. Before she jokily said "don't walk to close to me".

[d0nnivain]

For a man who doesn't want work drama you seem to be brining it on yourself. Rule # 1 to avoid work drama -- don't discuss non-work related interactions with colleagues with other co-workers.