Talking to ex - is it worth it?

[pickflicker]

He is 4 years older than me so really can't be my child.

 

I didn't always control him. But it is called jealousy. I didn't want him chatting to other women. That's actually quite natural.

 

Nope, that's actually quite psycho. It reeks of your own lack of self-esteem. And you can't have a decent relationship without a healthy dose of it.

[bizzylizzy]

I feel as if you have all just jumped on the bandwagon because I used the word "control" and are making out as I'd I am a bad person because I don't want my boyfriend talking to other women.

 

If I had said something like "I need to work on our relationship more" it would probably have gone down a lot better. So just continue as I'd I had said that.

 

And to be fair, men on OLD have nothing to do with my previous relationships.

[organizedchaos]

I feel as if you have all just jumped on the bandwagon because I used the word "control" and are making out as I'd I am a bad person because I don't want my boyfriend talking to other women.

 

If I had said something like "I need to work on our relationship more" it would probably have gone down a lot better. So just continue as I'd I had said that.

 

And to be fair, men on OLD have nothing to do with my previous relationships.

 

 

 

Nope, sorry, it's when you say things like this:

 

 

Don't get the wrong idea. He wasn't cheating with his ex,they were just friends. I overreacted and didn't want him talking to any girls on his phone. I confiscated his phone and went through it and found the conversations. They weren't cheat material but I still didn't like it.

 

From then I didn't allow him to use his phone without me reading what he sent or received.

 

 

That tells us everything we need to know. You are controlling and this is borderline psychotic behavior. I mean, does this sound like anything a rational person would do???

[pickflicker]

I feel as if you have all just jumped on the bandwagon because I used the word "control" and are making out as I'd I am a bad person because I don't want my boyfriend talking to other women.

 

If I had said something like "I need to work on our relationship more" it would probably have gone down a lot better. So just continue as I'd I had said that.

 

And to be fair, men on OLD have nothing to do with my previous relationships.

 

This isn't a question of semantics. You were perfectly clear.

 

My problem is the vetting of his sent and received text messages. There is nothing healthy about that.

 

Would you do that again if you got back together?

[bizzylizzy]

I would try to do things differently. I would hope there would be more trust this time around. I would even allow him to see his friend who was part of our relationship failing alone under certain conditions.

Edited January 21, 2014 by bizzylizzy

[pickflicker]

I would try to do things differently. I would hope there would be more trust this time around. I would even allow him to see his friend who was part of our relationship failing alone under certain conditions.

 

You don't get it! You can't control a person like this and expect them to love and respect you for it.

 

Do him a favour, stay away, and get the psycho "my way or the highway" tendencies under control.

[organizedchaos]

I would try to do things differently. I would hope there would be more trust this time around. I would even allow him to see his friend who was part of our relationship failing alone under certain conditions.

 

 

 

Ok, I'm convinced, this is now a fake thread. You had me fooled.

[pickflicker]

Ok, I'm convinced, this is now a fake thread. You had me fooled.

 

Ugh, suckered. Oh well. Onwards!