how do you stay connected?

[countryrider13]

This is done using phone so sorry for any misspellings

 

When times are tough communication may be less and you rarely see Eachother how do you handle it? What do you do to make sure communication is always there? Do you trend to over think things when thus happens? If so how do you core?

 

In my situation, my bf and I are currently on two different work schedules. (he switches shifts every 7 weeks) and were only able to see Eachother about once a week, though this week I don't think I'll be able to see him. Because of work we're on current sleeping schedules which also doesn't leave much time to talk on the phone. This saddens me, I miss him so much it hurts. He treasures me that we're strong and will overcome this. A live Eachother and I refuse to ever give up on us even when thus time is hard. But I find myself over thinking things now. Any little thing he says I notice and take to heart, may even over read things. Same goes for actions. For example I was at work this morning 3Rd shift and he woke up at 5 am to get ready for his 12 hour shift. He normally alwaystexts "I love you"but I didn't heat from him, so I Texted and asked if he was awake and didn't over sleep. He didn't responduntil he was at work then said I love you I'll talk to you on my next break. I did send him a long text telling him how much I love him and how I'd like to make time to talk cause all this text is wearing on me, we can't get deep into conversation through text and it's hard to read feelings on there.

 

I don't have doubts in us, well pull through, I just feel I need more time for us to communicate better. And not sure how to handle this Danes of missing all aspects of him.

 

Sorry I know this was a long venting post but I'd like advice and input Ass to what you do to stay connected

Edited January 20, 2014 by countryrider13

[d0nnivain]

My parents spent 15 years of their marriage on opposite shifts. They left each other a lot of notes & called daily. When they did have time off together they went on dates & left me home.

[justwhoiam]

When times are tough communication may be less and you rarely see Eachother how do you handle it?

If it's because we have some free time when the other doesn't, we can:

- write each other emails

- upload pictures, videos, letters, etc to our cloud

- we hold on until when we can talk

 

Those are good ways to keep in touch. We also have things from each other. I'm not sure he cares about that, but I do. I have one of his books, 2 of his t-shirts that he wore before giving them to me... Stuff like that.

 

Obviously, I don't like when my day goes by and haven't heard from him..., luckily it doesn't happen often.

 

But please keep in mind how lucky you are, because you can see him once a week, or twice a month in the worst case. Most LDRs (probably more than 90% of them) can't meet that often.