Sukotto Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Well i'm too lazy to explain everything about my ex so i'll just skip to the most recent stuff. We went out on a date in the middle of December it went really well, then a week later she said she was sorry for leading me on and it wasn't going to work. Fine I accepted that and we haven't really spoke since 26th December until earlier tonight when I got a big ranting message from her. Apparently I'd told people we were back together, still having sex and I cheated on her. So i tried to explain that there is little point in me doing that and asked who said it? Few messages back and forth and still no closer. So i told her to stop playing games and that it doesn't really bother me. So I sat and tried to work out who and the best I could get were the gym staff and I'm pretty sure its just them misunderstanding. I had told them about the date we went on, mentioned we ended up in bed a few days earlier and also mentioned that I was seeing another girl called Heather. But in no way did I say that we were back together or I was chating on her since we weren't really dating. I've not been to the gym since before she told me it wasn't going to work out so I'm positive its one of the staff thats said this. The thing is this bothers me a fair bit, I dont care about what other people think about me but I do care about what she thinks. She's made up her mind that I've said these things and no matter what message I sent she didn't believe me. So I'm wondering if I should just stop by tomorrow and sort this out? I just dont like the idea of her being mad at me for something I've not done even though we've split up. Now don't say just leave it I'm not that type of person, I dont like people being mad at me when I can avoid it. I guess I'm asking for a way to go about this when I go to see her tomorrow. I'm thinking of opening with "I don't care about what other people think, I care about what you think" and then continue with my rambling. Opinions? Link to post Share on other sites
Cabras Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Yikes! I don't envy your situation. It sounds like she is pretty emotional about it right now. I'm guessing she is calling the fact that you were seeing someone post-breakup "cheating" and not thinking it was something you did during your relationship. If that's the case she can sort that one out on her own. You did nothing wrong. As far as you telling people you were back together or having sex.. well honestly, why does she care so much? It's not like rumors about being back with you will somehow ruin her reputation. I think she is just perceiving it as more pressure and more drama about a situation she is trying to cope with. Let it sit for a while. In the long run she shouldn't let this bother her. The cheating part might, but the other stuff really shouldn't. If she really thinks you cheated on her during the relationship, to me it would be worth explaining. good luck- Link to post Share on other sites
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