Spend time with the ex's dad after being apart for 8 months. Good or bad?

[lostNconfusedx10]

Little bit of backround info:

broke up w/ the ex about 7-8 months ago after 2 years together. She ended it and we left on good terms. She needed time to figure herself out and basically she was going through the end of adolescence. Things were always great together and we never fought it was just that our spark kinda fizzled out.

 

We're still on speaking terms and she cant go more than a week without calling me or text messaging me. She told me like 3 months ago that she was "seeing someone" and used to ask me if i met any ladies but those convo's stoppped like 2 months ago. She NEVER talks about her new guy but rarely when asked what she did for the weekend or something she might make reference to a "freind" but never implies its her boyfreind or that its something a couple would do.

 

Two questions:

 

1. Why is it that even after 7-8 months she cant go more than a week without talking to me even though she has a new guy and NEVER mentions him

 

2. I have My Barber state board exam on saturday and i need to bring a model for the haircut. I was origionally supposed to bring her dad and even after we broke up she has asked twice if i still need him to go and that he says he'll still go. I know i could find someone else to go but i wonder how it would affect things if i brought him. He really likes me alot and i gave him a haircut when we broke up for a month and he said he missed having me around and wished he could tell her what to do. Could this potentially be a good idea, bad idea or have no effect at all? I havent seen her face to face in 7-8 months but talk to her once or twice a week since. I would be alone with her dad for like 2 hours but am confident i could keep my emotions at bay and not ask or say any stupid questions.

 

any replies would be great!

[LucreziaBorgia]

Probably because she likes you and enjoys your company, but that doesn't necessarily mean she wants to resume your relationship. It sounds like you had many positives in your relationship, that in her mind are worth hanging on to - even if it isn't in the parameters of a relationship.

 

If you want to know for sure what the deal is: ask her. It sounds like you two have a pretty solid basis there that will still allow you to talk about stuff like that comfortably.

[lost_in_chgo]

Probably because she likes you and enjoys your company, but that doesn't necessarily mean she wants to resume your relationship. It sounds like you had many positives in your relationship, that in her mind are worth hanging on to - even if it isn't in the parameters of a relationship.

 

That doesn't make sense.

 

I have the same thing going on. Wants to be friends.

She'll email or chat or occasionally call.

But see me in person? no way!

 

How many friends do you have that you never see?

Do they live in the same town?

When they ask to see them do you make excuses not to?

 

Something is up. It's seems to me to be "I'm not ready"