Schilton Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 How is it going. I am starting to really question what is wrong with me. I'm 31 year old man and never had a GF. Little about myself I'm 6'2 240# Brown Hair hazel eyes. I've got a job, car and a house. Anyone ive ever been interested in has never been interested in me. Had a female friend tell me to try on-line dating a few years ago so I signed up for a couple of sites. And in the 3 years i've been on those sites I have never gotten a reply. I thought it must be what i'm saying. So I went online got a couple pics of what I'd consider a average looking guy and sent the same girls I messaged the same message. And about 80% of them reply. Ive been told i'm not an ugly guy. I've posted my pic on a couple rate threads on a couple of forum's and gotten pretty good feed back. And I got scored a 8.8 on hot or not so I do not know what the problem is. The only time I ever had any girls so any interest in me was when I was in my early 20's and would go visit a friend at college 6 hours away. Had two show me interest there and they were actually very attractive it shocked me. But it was just too far for anything to work. Anyone else in the same situation? Or been in it and found out what the problem was and could shed some light? Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 Go out with friends, try to be yourself. I am sure there is someone out there for you. Maybe confidence is low when approaching the ladies? Sometimes you have to just go for it, even if you get knocked back. I think you should not try to compare yourself to anyone or ask for approval. `Do i look good`? Well most people would say yes out of politeness. Be yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 So I went online got a couple pics of what I'd consider a average looking guy and sent the same girls I messaged the same message. And about 80% of them reply. See this is where you lose all believability. No guy gets an 80% response rate on OLD. Even the best profiles get around 10% on a good day. There are a few things that get responses on OLD. They are: - Photo gets them to look at your profile - Profile gets them interested in you - Message starts the conversation So if you're not getting responses then you need to make sure all 3 of the above are up to scratch. Many sites have a profile review section that you can post for advice, or you can post it here for a critique. But be prepared for brutal honesty. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Schilton Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 I didn't actually figure out the exact percent but out of 30 girls messaged 20 something responded. See this is where you lose all believability. No guy gets an 80% response rate on OLD. Even the best profiles get around 10% on a good day. There are a few things that get responses on OLD. They are: - Photo gets them to look at your profile - Profile gets them interested in you - Message starts the conversation So if you're not getting responses then you need to make sure all 3 of the above are up to scratch. Many sites have a profile review section that you can post for advice, or you can post it here for a critique. But be prepared for brutal honesty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Schilton Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 These were threads other people created I just posted in them. And no these people were brutally honest. If people were ugly and fat they would say your fat and ugly. I do go out with friend I go out the bar every saturday night and have for years. And its not lack of women because there are atleast 50 women there every Sat if not more. Go out with friends, try to be yourself. I am sure there is someone out there for you. Maybe confidence is low when approaching the ladies? Sometimes you have to just go for it, even if you get knocked back. I think you should not try to compare yourself to anyone or ask for approval. `Do i look good`? Well most people would say yes out of politeness. Be yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Schilton Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 I didn't actually figure out the exact percent but out of 30 girls messaged 20 something responded. And also I copied my profile word for word sent the same message I sent. I only did it on one site Link to post Share on other sites
Author Schilton Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 And to be honest it wouldn't matter if only 3% responded to the messages. I've had 0% respond. I will tell you i do not find over weight women attractive so I do not message over weight women. But have messaged hundreds in my 3 years on the sites See this is where you lose all believability. No guy gets an 80% response rate on OLD. Even the best profiles get around 10% on a good day. There are a few things that get responses on OLD. They are: - Photo gets them to look at your profile - Profile gets them interested in you - Message starts the conversation So if you're not getting responses then you need to make sure all 3 of the above are up to scratch. Many sites have a profile review section that you can post for advice, or you can post it here for a critique. But be prepared for brutal honesty. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 Well if you want help then you'll need to show us your pics, profile and example messages so we can tell you where you're going wrong. Many people on here are quite experienced with OLD, and know what works and what doesn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Schilton Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 Well if you want help then you'll need to show us your pics, profile and example messages so we can tell you where you're going wrong. Many people on here are quite experienced with OLD, and know what works and what doesn't. Obviously my profile isn't the problem and neither is messages as I said I copied profile and sent exact message to girls with someone elses pics and roughly 80 percent of the 30 people responded Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 So what exactly are you hoping to achieve by posting here? Do you want help or not? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Schilton Posted January 21, 2014 Author Share Posted January 21, 2014 So what exactly are you hoping to achieve by posting here? Do you want help or not? Obviously I want help. But it's obvious that my profile and first message's are not the department I need help in Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 So in what area do you want help? I've told you where I think the problem lies but you don't believe me. Where do YOU think the problem lies? Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 I don't recommend someone who has never had a gf do OLD. Have you explored any other remedies to your situation? Because you seem to be fixated on this as a "magic bullet". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
superb Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 Describe your looks. Looks aren't everything but it's what gives the first impression. Weight and height don't tell us what you look like. Link to post Share on other sites
superb Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 Possibly you're having very impossible standards since you said that the ones you like don't like you? Link to post Share on other sites
abby2 Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 Maybe you should lower your standards in choosing girls? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 Agree, never been online dating, (Not yet). I think he will would be happier, `getting out there`, more. I don't recommend someone who has never had a gf do OLD. Have you explored any other remedies to your situation? Because you seem to be fixated on this as a "magic bullet". Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Agreed, I tried online dating and it got me no where. I am also new to dating. I need to get myself out there. I am tall, handsome and British so I am sure some girl will like me but I am the guy who goes to the bar and waits for ladies to approach me. I know its strange but I don't know what else to do. I am also person who never smoked or used tobacco so I makes it even harder to find a women especially here in FL who don't smoke Link to post Share on other sites
InnocentMan Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 If I hadn't had sex at age 31, I would definitely bring the chubbies into my range. Even if you do happen to get lucky with a decent looking chick, you will be so inexperienced, that it will be lucky to last a week. If you're going to a bar every week, where there is 50 women, and you still can't click with anyone, you need to change your approach. Bars are designed for ugly dudes to get laid. I doubt it's your looks that are the main problem. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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