blackandwhite123 Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 First of all, I wanna say that I've been with my gf for 1 and half years. But we have separated since last 7 months. I don't know if these signs my gf show means anything. FYI: She is working 5days(Mon-Fri) a week. 9 to 7. It is tiring, I know. - She don't reply as much everyday even when she is on the way home, she don't talk to me. (I understand this, maybe she might need a rest while on the way home.) But after reaching home and showered, she will reply me short messages, the most 10 lines of reply per night approx. per night. [Mostly, 'ow I see...' , ' It's cold here, omg~' and 'working is tiring ' ] - During weekend, she will sleep till 4pm and go out to have coffee. then watch her drama show or anything else. When she reached home, I asked her if we can facetime, she will ask me if 5mins is ok ? cus she is tired. (It happens almost every weekend) To sum up, it's like she rather watch her drama than facetime with me. Most of the time, it looks like Im begging her to facetime with me. Since she went back for the past 7 mths. We facetime for less than 5x. - During some occasion (X'mas / New Year...), I tried to send her flowers n stuff to cheer her up. There is one time during X'mas, I sent her flowers n a xmas card. She just thanked me with one word 'Thanks'. Normally, she would take the stuffs (flowers and cards) n get a selfie and sent it to me. But this time round she just said thanks. Really cold one. But she also told me that she is sorry that she was busy so dint get me anything (Which actually have nvr gotten me anything before). I am not mad because she did not get me anything. The thing that I am mad about is that after a few days after Xmas, one of her friend(girl btw) receive a Xmas card from her. I was like wtf ? You have no time to write anything but u send it to ur friend ? I am not sure if she have sent to other friends. When I asked about it, she told me that her friend sent her the card so she need to send it back. I don't know if I am over reacting. If I am please tell me. I know I am a guy, shouldnt act this way, but i feel so neglected. - Lastly, she always promise to facetime on a certain date and at last saying she is too tired or watever reason. But when actually she have quite a lot of free time during weekend. I know I don't want to be sticky, but 7 mths with no webcam at all and talk to me in less than 10lines/day (Including weekends). If I am doing it wrong, please let me know. I don't know if she has lost interest in me or what. But it really seems to be that way. Sorry for my poor english btw. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 You have been apart for half your relationship. That's tough. Do you have plans to get together soon? That should help . . make you more real to her again. She seems to be tiring of the on-line thing. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted January 21, 2014 Share Posted January 21, 2014 I don't know if she has lost interest in me or what. But it really seems to be that way. It really seems to be that way to me too. Anyway, how was she when you were not LD? Was she the kind you drag along or more like the life of the party? Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackandwhite123 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Share Posted January 22, 2014 You have been apart for half your relationship. That's tough. Do you have plans to get together soon? That should help . . make you more real to her again. She seems to be tiring of the on-line thing. We have make plans but its going to be this May. I am going to visit her. And also, she told me she is going to visit me after she end her internship job, which is on the first week of July. But i don't know if she is for real. Cus she have been breaking those promises. And also sometimes i asked her if i wanna facetime. She would say that I am stressing her. I dont know why. When she can watch drama and stuff but to facetime with me will stress her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackandwhite123 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Share Posted January 22, 2014 It really seems to be that way to me too. Anyway, how was she when you were not LD? Was she the kind you drag along or more like the life of the party? When we are not LD, everything was fine. Just a couple of small fights and smile afterwards. We were happy when we are together. Only this time when she got back. She searched for work everyday n she say she got stressed. She say that she was disappointed in me during her job hunt period cus i asked her to facetime every week and giving her stress. I mean i know she is stress, but i was thinking if she sees me, it might ease her stress. Anyway i don't know what to do. I need advice. I love her too much and would not bear to let her go. Any options for me ? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 (edited) You didn't answer my question. i asked her to facetime every week and giving her stress. I mean i know she is stress, but i was thinking if she sees me, it might ease her stress. Does that mean you were read to facetime without asking her to switch the cam on? So just talking and showing yourself on cam? That wouldn't be stressful to me. If he starts asking I go on cam all the time, then maybe I can get stressed out. It makes me feel under the spotlight, if that makes sense. I know you mean good, but girls can think differently (I'm too tired & look like a monster, I haven't put on any make up, my hair looks ugly, etc.) Good luck Edited January 22, 2014 by justwhoiam Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackandwhite123 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Share Posted January 22, 2014 You didn't answer my question. Does that mean you were read to facetime without asking her to switch the cam on? So just talking and showing yourself on cam? That wouldn't be stressful to me. If he starts asking I go on cam all the time, then maybe I can get stressed out. It makes me feel under the spotlight, if that makes sense. I know you mean good, but girls can think differently (I'm too tired & look like a monster, I haven't put on any make up, my hair looks ugly, etc.) Good luck I would just ask her to give me some time to just communicate for awhile. i don't mind if the web cam is on or not. Just plainly talking. Link to post Share on other sites
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